Why do girls always say (when your not interested) but your a GREAT GUY. I'm tired of this BS. I've been seeing girls for the last 4 years and have been trying to have a long and meaningful realationship. They all have turned me down. I don't have a problem with that, just the fact when they don't want to see you (BUT YOUR A GREAT GUY)comes up. And I'm tried of this crap. Just tell me the truth and just say I don't want too see you, your not my type, etc. Can anyone on this board tell me the reason to this.
Cut the crap!!!!
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Yeah, for the most part, women are chickenshit and don't have the balls to tell the truth....I guess they think you/we can't handle it?
But then again, they also think that if they let us buy them a drink, we expect they will have sex with us......(where some of us just want to be nice).....
But then again, they also think that if they let us buy them a drink, we expect they will have sex with us......(where some of us just want to be nice).....
Yes I agree, the girl that I'm was seeing knows that I'm not trying to get in to her pants. I just thought that the things I've done for her had more meaning.tboy said:
....usher14 said:
YOUR A GREAT GUY...Translation:
* I don't want too see you;
* your not my type,
* your fugly,
* your cheap,
* you drive a shit-bucket for a car,
* you have a crap job
* you'll never make enough money for me
* im waiting for someone better to come along
* you have a small pee-pee
* you last 3 seconds longer that a 30 second TV commercial
Let her use....YOUR A GREAT GUY....or push her for specifics..assuming you want the truth
I know, but it has been 4 years since I had a meaningful relationship with my ex. And 4 years is too long for me. Thanks guys for the input.asn said:
Let's say you're a guy cleaning up your desk, and you find this thing. It's a tampon. You look at it really closely and you see it's very well made. Really high quality, if you were the kind of person that used these things, then this would be a totally good one. But you don't use tampons, you can appreciate the quality, but it's just not something you have a need for.
It's the same way with these girls. You present yourself to them, they can see your quality, but they don't click with you. But you've got opportunities here that you are throwing away.
If she says that she would like to be your friend then take her up on it. I mean a real antiseptic friend, like you were a gay guy. Tell her you need a makeover, with fashion advice, poise and deportment, personality, how to act. Tell her you want to get laid and does she have any girlfriends that she could introduce you to.
This strategy will get you connected, get you over the isolation you feel with women, give you some advisors and a cheering section. Have the girls fix you up sexy and take you out on your big debut night. There are many ways that females are the same as males but just in different dimensions.
It's the same way with these girls. You present yourself to them, they can see your quality, but they don't click with you. But you've got opportunities here that you are throwing away.
If she says that she would like to be your friend then take her up on it. I mean a real antiseptic friend, like you were a gay guy. Tell her you need a makeover, with fashion advice, poise and deportment, personality, how to act. Tell her you want to get laid and does she have any girlfriends that she could introduce you to.
This strategy will get you connected, get you over the isolation you feel with women, give you some advisors and a cheering section. Have the girls fix you up sexy and take you out on your big debut night. There are many ways that females are the same as males but just in different dimensions.
Actually Rick is bang on. That is great advice. It is a proven fact that a woman finds a man who already has a women infinitely more attractive. If she really IS a friend, take her out platonically, and tell her to act the part. You'll be overflowing with women......
Well, that just goes to show you that maybe they are right in their thinking? But for the record, I've done this. Been standing in line for a long while trying to get a drink at a crowded bar, see some woman trying to do the same, say to her "what are you having"? Order it for her and when she offers to pay you for it, say "that's ok...." and then walk away: If she is someone you want to know, if she comes to you, then she's someone you DO actually want to know. If she doesn't? then she wasn't someone you want to know and you've only spent a couple of bucks to find out......Plus there's nothing at all wrong with doing someone a good turn...but then again, go read the thread on random acts of kindness.....maybe you could use some of that?asn said:
What about the ones who say "I call you tomomrow" and no call comes and they don't answer when you call them?
But then once in person they act so nice to you again and afterwards say the same BS.
Its right on about having a girl to get another girl, so if you are lonely its best to hook up with whatever you can get and THEN look for another chick, lol
As for those ones who say so much BS, I really can't explain why they do it. Don't think "guts" is it, 1 girl I can remember was pretty tough. I am guessing but it could be just to get you to think of them more-maybe they enjoy being begged.
But then once in person they act so nice to you again and afterwards say the same BS.
Its right on about having a girl to get another girl, so if you are lonely its best to hook up with whatever you can get and THEN look for another chick, lol
As for those ones who say so much BS, I really can't explain why they do it. Don't think "guts" is it, 1 girl I can remember was pretty tough. I am guessing but it could be just to get you to think of them more-maybe they enjoy being begged.
Joe: again, I don't know for sure, but as for the "not calling and not picking up" that is also a way men and women avoid telling the truth to somehow "spare" your feelings.S.C. Joe said:What about the ones who say "I call you tomomrow" and no call comes and they don't answer when you call them?
But then once in person they act so nice to you again and afterwards say the same BS.
Its right on about having a girl to get another girl, so if you are lonely its best to hook up with whatever you can get and THEN look for another chick, lol
As for those ones who say so much BS, I really can't explain why they do it. Don't think "guts" is it, 1 girl I can remember was pretty tough. I am guessing but it could be just to get you to think of them more-maybe they enjoy being begged.
As for them being nice again to you if you happen to meet up again, that's them just being two faced. I for one have never met a guy that would do that.
There is a difference between "guts" and honesty. Just because a woman can have strong, or tough as you say it, doesn't mean they're honest.
This whole thing also reminds me of the women you meet, they ask for your number, and then never intend to call. I can't tell you how many times this happened to me before I wisened up and say "no, you give me your number....and if they don't? then you know they never really wanted to see you again. There was this one time I spent the evening with this lady. She was at another table and was eyeing me for about an hour. I thought she was with this guy but in passing she flagged me down and asked me to sit with her because she was trying to get rid of that other guy all night.
So anyways we had a great evening, danced, she intro'd me to her friends etc, all was great. Her friends wanted to leave but she stuck around with me. So towards the end of the night she asks me for my number. I say, naw, you won't call (being playful), you're just collecting cute guys' numbers for your scrap book. She's like, no really, I'll call. I say, naw, you won't.....so this went on for a while so I finally relent and she writes my number down in her daytimer....guess what? She never called.....
tboy said:
You sure? I can think when I act nice to somebody I see often-like a co-worker or a person who works in the market you shop in. But as for hoping in the sack with them-no way
Actually the your a great guy line could be the truth. I may not be attracted to someone but it doesnt mean they arent a great guy just means Im not interested in dating them. I could however be interested in a friendship.
And dont go thinking its only girls who say it cause guess what guys say it to.
And dont go thinking its only girls who say it cause guess what guys say it to.
Exactly. There are lots of girls that I think are great (in their own way), but that I don't want to date or (gasp) even have sex with...biancablaze said:
Guys (and girls), give your head a shake and stop being such self-centred big babies. Not everyone is going to fall head-over-heels, madly, deeply in love with you. Or even find you attractive dating material. Doesn't mean that they can't think you're a great person.
Most females/males don't want to be confrontational. Women are generally smaller then men and may feel intimidated by telling a guy the "truth". It could be you choose only to interact with submissive women.
Remember if it everyone else is acting strange around you... it is likely you that is the problem.
Remember if it everyone else is acting strange around you... it is likely you that is the problem.
Women say "You are a great guy"
Men say "You will make somebody a great wife/g,f " etc.
Each sex has something they say so that the rejection is not as stinging.......
Men say "You will make somebody a great wife/g,f " etc.
Each sex has something they say so that the rejection is not as stinging.......
Just rub their clit and make it hard as a rock as long as possible and they will never leave. That's it.usher14 said:
Gyaos Baltar.
Lol!!!
You weren't trying to get her pants because you were lookign for a "long, meaningful relationship" of celibacy?
You WERE trying to get in her pants, and you thought being Mr. Nice Guy would do it.
You would have been more successful had you just said to her "I want to get in your pants". You'd be surprised at how often it works if you you act like a gentleman, treat the girl like a lady, and and be plain about what you want.
I am not suggesting that you can pick up women in bars at the drop of a hat (though it happens...but I am not claiming to have magical pick up artist skills or anything). I am saying that an amazing number of women will have no problem with you being straight forward that you are interested in an intimate relationship.
Works for me...I've been getting laid very regularly since my separation telling chick who I connect with (online, meet in a grocery store, whatever) that what I am looking for is a FWB situation. Not a booty call...I won't show up after calling at 1:00am drunk and looking to get fucked (though a couple of them are perfectly kewl with that now)...but a FWB whereby you take them out, treat them like a lady, you fuck, and then you move on until you meet again. In other words, they are your GF when they are with you, but when they are not, they are not.
No lie I've had about 6 to 8 of these arrangements in the last year until I actually did get attached to one of them, so now she is my GF. I try to stick to just her but...hey...boys just want to have fun.
Now I will say that these are all WOMEN...over the age of 35....not 20 something stuck on themselves types. And none of them could be models, though about half are about equal to most of the strippers I have seen in my day, just older.
But yeah...many women will tell you that you'd be amazed at what you can get if you just ask for it without making the girl feel cheap or like a tramp...
....oh, thanks for the laugh!!usher14 said:
You weren't trying to get her pants because you were lookign for a "long, meaningful relationship" of celibacy?
You WERE trying to get in her pants, and you thought being Mr. Nice Guy would do it.
You would have been more successful had you just said to her "I want to get in your pants". You'd be surprised at how often it works if you you act like a gentleman, treat the girl like a lady, and and be plain about what you want.
I am not suggesting that you can pick up women in bars at the drop of a hat (though it happens...but I am not claiming to have magical pick up artist skills or anything). I am saying that an amazing number of women will have no problem with you being straight forward that you are interested in an intimate relationship.
Works for me...I've been getting laid very regularly since my separation telling chick who I connect with (online, meet in a grocery store, whatever) that what I am looking for is a FWB situation. Not a booty call...I won't show up after calling at 1:00am drunk and looking to get fucked (though a couple of them are perfectly kewl with that now)...but a FWB whereby you take them out, treat them like a lady, you fuck, and then you move on until you meet again. In other words, they are your GF when they are with you, but when they are not, they are not.
No lie I've had about 6 to 8 of these arrangements in the last year until I actually did get attached to one of them, so now she is my GF. I try to stick to just her but...hey...boys just want to have fun.
Now I will say that these are all WOMEN...over the age of 35....not 20 something stuck on themselves types. And none of them could be models, though about half are about equal to most of the strippers I have seen in my day, just older.
But yeah...many women will tell you that you'd be amazed at what you can get if you just ask for it without making the girl feel cheap or like a tramp...
