Control freak

[Insidious Von]

So here we go again, another 50 Shades of Brown is going to make a lot of money. The premise is alarming, control freaks are sexy.

I used to work with a control freak in the 90's, he masked his insecurity through manipulation. He never physically beat his wife but didn't spare the mental cruelty. She was broken and heavily medicated -which is how he liked her. On one occasion, I got a phone call from her. Her husband had gone on a business trip, he disconnected the cable so that she couldn't watch tv while he was away. So I went there with my ladder and reconnected it for her. He didn't like that and from then on considered me an enemy. Eventually she committed suicide, it took him by surprise.

After her death matters went badly for him. Women may not be very nice to each other but when one of their sorority is abused they circle the wagons. He quickly got himself a new gf. Unbeknownst to him she was a high school friend of his late wife. Just when he though he had it made she abruptly dumps him. He lost it and made death threats. Eventually he was denounced before the board and fired. He tried to sue for wrongful dismissal but couldn't prove his case.

Control freaks sure are sexy alright.

 

[Ceiling Cat]

The clinical definition of a control freak is sociopath or psychopath. Only in recent years has it been determined by mental health professionals that sociopath or psychopaths can not be reformed. They actually learn from how to be a better sociopath or psychopath when a friend , family member or mental health professional tries to explain the harm they have done. Now they can do more harm in the cruelest way they can because they have been given a gauge to measure their previous harm.With the deeper understanding of the situation they will bring their victim right to the edge and back off so they can derive maximum pleasure from their cruelty.

 

[Insidious Von]

Control freaks are tiresome, not sexy. But people love shit, they eat it up. So more power to the author for fleecing Twitards.

I sort of knew her before she got married. She was a sweet girl who was easy with her trust. That's why chemistry is a piss poor way to assess character. Never bought into the notion of "falling in love", it's a fools gambit.

Stone faced cynic talkin...

 

[shakenbake]

It is true of control freaks and aggressive A-type bosses. I am sorry for your friend; she certainly deserved a lot better than what she got. Karma comes too late at times, and even not enough karma.

BTW, that is one of my favourite videos of REM, with Katie Pierson of the B52s.

 

[Insidious Von]

She wasn't my friend.

She was an acquaintance that needed a helping hand. Her neighbour, who usually did the deed was away on vacation. She had my number since her husband and I had to work together at the time. REM got it wrong, life's pageant isn't always rich.

the B52's are one of those bands who's music never gets old.

 

[Insidious Von]

I chose that REM video because it fit and the girl in the freeze frame looks like Brie Larson. She's become a favorite actor of mine. Most of my social circle will not watch Room, they have narrow options against the film. It's too real in its subject matter, obsession with control taken to extremes.

Brie gave the best performance of the century, William H Macy delivers the best 5 minutes of acting in his life.

 

[stinkynuts]

So here we go again, another 50 Shades of Brown is going to make a lot of money. The premise is alarming, control freaks are sexy.

I used to work with a control freak in the 90's, he masked his insecurity through manipulation. He never physically beat his wife but didn't spare the mental cruelty. She was broken and heavily medicated -which is how he liked her. On one occasion, I got a phone call from her. Her husband had gone on a business trip, he disconnected the cable so that she couldn't watch tv while he was away. So I went there with my ladder and reconnected it for her. He didn't like that and from then on considered me an enemy. Eventually she committed suicide, it took him by surprise.

After her death matters went badly for him. Women may not be very nice to each other but when one of their sorority is abused they circle the wagons. He quickly got himself a new gf. Unbeknownst to him she was a high school friend of his late wife. Just when he though he had it made she abruptly dumps him. He lost it and made death threats. Eventually he was denounced before the board and fired. He tried to sue for wrongful dismissal but couldn't prove his case.

Control freaks sure are sexy alright.

I am a complete control freak. I have to have things done my way, but am also very open minded, and will let people do their part. When it comes to relationships, though, I never control what my partner does. I despise having limits set on me, and wish the same freedom for my partner.

Insidious Von, was she hot? I'm pretty sure there was a large part of her that wanted to be rescued from the abuse. Her suicide was not only to escape, but to punish her husband, and perhaps make him feel guilty and/or shocked. It's very sad that she didn't have the ability to simply divorce him and move on.

When she invited you, I think it was her way of seeing if anything would happen between you two, and I'm sure she really hoped something would. If I had known what an asshole her husband was, I would have helped her, in more ways than one...

My favorite singer, Karen Carpenter, was the sweetest woman in the world, such an angel. Yet,she married a total loser who pretended he was rich. He ended up fleecing her, asking for large sums of money until she was broke. He was cruel to her. There is a misconception that she died of anorexia, but that has been shown to be false. She recovered from the disease, and died of overmedication.

Why do women go for assholes?

I can tell, without a doubt, that despite what women say, they are NOT looking for a nice guy. I can guarantee you it. Because I've known so many super nice guys who never get girls. Yet, on dating sites, they all say they are just looking for a kind man. That's complete BS. They are looking for high income, height, looks, big dick, good job/status, sexual prowess, and an edgy personality. Why in the world are so many women falling for convicted felons who are in prison. Girls like the bad boys and assholes. Even the nice ones. So, part of me, thinks they deserve what they asked for. But on the other hand, I feel very sad for them, as they are victims.

 

[oil&gas]

Control freaks sure are sexy alright.

My kind of sexy control freak.

 

[Calgacus]

My kind of sexy control freak.

Rosie O'Donnell?

 

[Insidious Von]

What's wrong with Rosie O'Donnell, she doms Larry David.

She was reasonably attractive in her day, by the time I got there with my ladder she wasn't. The last thing I would have done was get involved, a lose-lose scenario. And the "nice guy" label works both ways. I have no interest in women who don't have money of their own. Wasn't put on this world to support someone's lifestyles. But then I've never fallen into the pussy trap,my head is my home with power of veto over prick head.

Before I established myself a girl I'd been dating told me that she couldn't continue our relationship. She was looking for a successful businessman. I asked her how she was going to do that when she won't take a dick in her mouth - I got slapped.

 

[PhoenixHouse]

So here we go again, another 50 Shades of Brown is going to make a lot of money. The premise is alarming, control freaks are sexy.

While I agree that the 50 Shades series is not properly portraying a Dom/Sub relationship in any way, shape or form; to say that Dom's are control freaks, is a big stretch of the imagination from my stand point.

Having said that, the rest of your story is very say. Mental/emotional abuse is a bigger issue in DV then most people realize.

Alix

 

[Smooth60]

The clinical definition of a control freak is sociopath or psychopath. Only in recent years has it been determined by mental health professionals that sociopath or psychopaths can not be reformed. They actually learn from how to be a better sociopath or psychopath when a friend , family member or mental health professional tries to explain the harm they have done. Now they can do more harm in the cruelest way they can because they have been given a gauge to measure their previous harm.With the deeper understanding of the situation they will bring their victim right to the edge and back off so they can derive maximum pleasure from their cruelty.

Care to provide links to support this load of rubbish?

 

[Insidious Von]

While I agree that the 50 Shades series is not properly portraying a Dom/Sub relationship in any way, shape or form; to say that Dom's are control freaks, is a big stretch of the imagination from my stand point.

Agreed 50 Shades Browner is BDSM for morons, I'm glad it didn't take the box-office. You go Lego dudes, Toronto's own Will Arnett is a better Batman than Ben Affleck.

As to my following story, she did me a favour. She would have weighed me down over time, I bore her no ill will. I also thanked and brought a beer for David Wilcox, in appreciation for his life lesson.

This song soooo takes me back:

 

[Insidious Von]

Lets show Will Arnett some love.

 

[Insidious Von]

One of my favorite gals: Katie Nolan.

Late last year she signed a contract extension with Fox Sports, putting her on par with Erin Andrews. Let's look back to when she showed off her butthole!

 

[legmann]

The clinical definition of a control freak is sociopath or psychopath

'Manipulativeness' is merely one (diagnostic) trait of anti-social personality disorder (i.e. sociopathy/psychopathy); while common to either, it is not a disorder/condition in itself.

 

[Ceiling Cat]

Care to provide links to support this load of rubbish?

I would, if you had asked the question in a polite manner. I have given up on sociopaths / psychopaths. Interacting with sociopaths / psychopaths will only allow them to pull you into their downward spiral of circular logic. There is one sociopath on this board that I have cut off and he has loss all his powers of manipulation and control.

I bid you a Que Sera Sera.


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