Confronting the 7-year itch.

[lewd]

So what is the secret to keeping a relationship from going into the doldrums?

While I'm only at 4 years, I find it more and more difficult rekindling the original passion when we first dated.
In fact some days I wonder if we're even right for each other. While we share common values, we have dissimilar interests. Thankfully we're not married...just common-law.

 

[viciouscycle]

Try to include her in your activities.
Do not use her disinterest as an excuse to search for love/lust and/or otherwise somewhere else.

 

[bestillmehard]

Try to find things that are different but that you both enjoy. My wife and I have a date night. Her idea but it is a good thing to do. Gives us time to explore each others brains and at the end of the date....explore each others body.

 

[Kristine]

well...

You might explore fantasies... and some women find it hard to discuss theirs openly.

You could place a note on her pillow with a flower or something else she coud enjoy and tell her about your fantasy and then ask her to write back... its a creative spark but can be fun.