Confessions of a Fat Guy

[Insidious Von]

A cautionary tale

blank-Dave, self-esteem is a tougher nut to crack than weight loss. I'm presently recovering from multiple injuries that's partially due from pushing myself too hard in the gym. This is the result of still not considering myself to be attractive to women.

About a decade ago I went from 255 to 225 by running and going on a water diet - but nothing really changed. I didn't even noticed that my ability to earn had shot up drastically. At the beginning of the year I decided to lose more weight and get ripped at the same time. I hired a personal trainer, she immediately saw what my problem was; I was building strength but my dexterity and co-ordination were, in her own words "a nightmare". You don't realize what low self-esteem does to you until the problem is tackled physically. On top of the intense work-outs with the trainer, I was also doing heavy anaerobic work-outs on my own. Last week I injured myself at work; due to my fitness level I didn't brake any bones but I sustained multiple lacerations. Since then all I've been able to do is elliptical work.

I'm presently at 208; but waiting for the wounds to close, so that I can resume my routine, is making me depressed.

 

[SweetSerenity]

What does this mean? He is a 185lbs man. How can he be smaller than you?

He is likely taller, so the same amount of weight is held differently. A good deal of his 185lbs is also likely to be muscle, not fat, whereas my full 125lbs is all fatty, no muscle. So while he may be heavier, I am bigger. Or at least my waist/hips are.

 

[Rockslinger]

So while he may be heavier, I am bigger. Or at least my waist/hips are.

Does this mean he can get into your pants, but you can't get into his? Hee, hee, hee.

 

[larry]

CORRECTION: a pound of muscle=a pound of fat= a pound of feathers. A pound=a pound. When we say muscles weighs more we mean PER VOLUME. Thus as one losses 1 pound of fat & gains 1 pound of muscle they have less bulk THUS you could see yourself loose no weight BUT go down in clothing size.

did you really say "losses"?

 

[LateComer]

did you really say "losses"?

He also said "loose". Loose rhymes with goose. Lose rhymes with booze.

 

[needinit]

So how is it going Blank_Dave? You haven't been on or posted for a while...Hope all is still going well with you

 

[Dewalt]

Congrats on losing the weight!

But now you are finding that since you changed the outside, the inside needs more work? Here is a secret: you will always consider yourself a "fat guy" - every time you look in the mirror, you will always see your problems rather than your triumphs. It is one of the bitches about being human. Now that you have lost your weight, do you consider yourself a "fattist"? ie: do you have contempt for other fat people, and glad you aren't one of them anymore? Would you never date a chubby girl because of her weight? These are all things that no one who loses a lot of weight ever talks about. Not even in councilling. The last thing you want to turn into are guys like JEFF247 or mmouse who have contempt for anyone that doesn't fit their ideal in life.

My recommendation? Find a therapist who is wiling to help you on your self esteem and then book a body sculpting session with a surgeon in the Dominican Republic to trim off all the excess you don't like.

 

[Starsearcher]

How you did it would be helpful as well Dave! Congrats!