Client recommendation on TERB?

[Tempted Monk]

This thread is why you NEVER identify your TERB handle to SP's.

Could you elaborate? Don't see the point, maybe I am missing something here

 

[massman]

The review could be fabricated, and that is only one side to the encounter.
Maybe the lady in the review did not have such a lovely time with him and would not recommend him.
I cannot just take a man's word for it that he is a "good guy".

Some girls are happy with a board handle to get an idea of how someone conducted themselves here, and often there is feedback on the guy in the review threads (ie "thanks hun, I had a great time too"). Some want more direct feedback from a trusted colleague. Some don't care. It's up to each SP to determine their own comfort zone, and if that doesn't meet with the client's ability / willingness to verify identity or provide reference, then they should move on.

 

[massman]

Good point Nadia. I saw that thread too. Though I think "borrowing" of terb accounts is probably pretty rare, but I can see your concern. There is obviously a "hierarchy" of pre screening with none at the bottom and real name / contact info at the top. Reference from another reputable sp I think strikes a good balance between the need for safety for the sp and privacy for the client.

For both the reasons of SP safety and my own client experience I don't mind giving references at all. In my experience it's always led to a good encounter. It often allows the two of us to skip that inevitable initial uncomfortableness in the first few minutes, where you are just getting to know each other, and she's trying to figure out if you are a decent guy or a potential asshole or worse. And in a few cases the good reference provded for me by the previous sp I'm convinced it helped make the session even hotter. And of course I love it when it works the other way too, a SP recommends a friend - I've been lucky to meet some amazing girls this way as well, that I might not have been as aware of (like the recommendation you gave to me!

 

[MattRoxx]

Indeed,
but just the other day some guy made a post and was thanking his friend for using his Terb account.
So you could be meeting the nice guy who writes reviews, or shitty boundary pushing friend who was banned for being rude and disrespectful on the board and is now borrowing a credible account.
So references on Terb doesn't sound like a good idea to me.

The 2 friends could do the same thing without terb, eg 1 with references sets up a date, the other man goes.
Did the Mods shut down the account after it was "borrowed"?

This thread is why you NEVER identify your TERB handle to SP's.

If you don't use your terb handle and don't want to use your real name how do you get and provide a reference?