Client recommendation on TERB?

[Tempted Monk]

This forum, in accordance with its title, is intended for escort Ladies reviews and discussions. And if Lady is active enough, I can usually find some information on her and decide if she is what I am looking for.
I think it could work in the opposite direction as well.

Nowadays, almost all well established Indys and even some agencies (like ASB for example) require references from new clients.
What if Lady posts the thread with particular client recommendation on this forum, just something like: this guy is legit, nice to deal with, never late or cancel etc...
If I have such a thread with recommendations of 2 - 3 reputable Ladies, I can give link to the SP I want to see. That thread could be enough for client verification or one of the Ladies recommended me could be contacted. This would simplify verification process and save a lot of time and troubles for both sides.

Am I missing anything here?

 

[tombrady12]

Good idea that's been discussed before (maybe not here, but on Twitter). One potential issue would be if your account was somehow compromised, the SP could be put in a dangerous situation. One solution to this could be to have a phone number as part of the recommendation, but this would make it difficult to change your phone number for legitimate reasons. Hopefully potential issues could be thought through with the help of the mods.

 

[TFZL1]

This forum, in accordance with its title, is intended for escort Ladies reviews and discussions. And if Lady is active enough, I can usually find some information on her and decide if she is what I am looking for.
I think it could work in the opposite direction as well.

Nowadays, almost all well established Indys and even some agencies (like ASB for example) require references from new clients.
What if Lady posts the thread with particular client recommendation on this forum, just something like: this guy is legit, nice to deal with, never late or cancel etc...
If I have such a thread with recommendations of 2 - 3 reputable Ladies, I can give link to the SP I want to see. That thread could be enough for client verification or one of the Ladies recommended me could be contacted. This would simplify verification process and save a lot of time and troubles for both sides.

Am I missing anything here?

Yes. You're missing anonymity, discretion and privacy.
I wouldn't want Lady's posting that I'd seen them, publicly.
Other Lady's don't usually want to know who else is been with. What if one lady I'd seen didn't get along with another.
Or got jealous because I saw her freind but not her, or other guys might get jealous or be haters.
Sounds to me like it would create drama.

 

[TFZL1]

this already exists and goes on in many different private forums. we are more resourceful than you think!

Thanks, did I get a good recommendation?

 

[Tempted Monk]

Yes. You're missing anonymity, discretion and privacy.
I wouldn't want Lady's posting that I'd seen them, publicly.
Other Lady's don't usually want to know who else is been with. What if one lady I'd seen didn't get along with another.
Or got jealous because I saw her freind but not her, or other guys might get jealous or be haters.
Sounds to me like it would create drama.

Don't see any difference when you post review on some Lady:
- It is clear publicly that you have seen her
- It is clear for other guys you have seen her.
- It is clear for other Ladies you have seen her.
All the same consequences you mentioned, maybe even it is worse - you express your opinion about the Lady.. Yes, it is up to you to post review. It can be the same, Lady posts recommendation if you give her permission for this.

this already exists and goes on in many different private forums. we are more resourceful than you think!

Oh yes Dawn, I know. There is "White List" feature on TER for example. I just suggest to have something like this here.

 

[Brill]

Escorts won't be inclined to mention publicly if they don't recommend you as a client.
It's not good for business and could create unwanted drama if they say you were a problem.

 

[kstanb]

I knew about private lists and blacklists, etc. but didn't know there are private forums :spy:

I personally don't want anything public. I might choose to write here (or not), it is my decision and nobody elses.
and as already mentioned, respect anonymity, discretion and privacy are key requirements for an escort's business success

 

[kstanb]

Thanks, did I get a good recommendation?

My educated guess is that it will be more related to the sex worker's community safety and health than sexual performance or looks
maybe it has a section on cleanliness? lol, something like: stinky balls, but good tipper

 

[Tempted Monk]

there is something on here, it's called the private SP's forum. we aren't allowed to discuss its contents in public, and that provides some reassurance for privacy concerns. there's also other centralized databases known to most SPs vigilant about screening. there's no real need for a public one since it's only SPs who need to know. maybe if someone is a violent assaulter or something, an SP may choose to go public with the info. but otherwise, what we have right now seems fine to me.

Thank you very much Dawn for the information! And I agree with what you say. You are, probably, absolutely right from provider's point of view.
In contrary, I am looking on this more from client side, trying to simplify my life as a client.

Let's suppose for a moment you know me well. In the current state of the art if I want to see new SP:
- I ask you if you don't mind giving me a reference (and not all sp are happy to give a reference, I just know this);
- I give your contact information to the other girl.
- That girl needs to contact you to verify your reference.
Now, what I suggest. I ask you to give me a public reference (it is 1 time action) which is the confirmation only that I am a decent guy, not dangerous, safe to deal with for other providers.
And I use it as a security certificate when I want to see some other girl. It make it much easier for both of us, less time and efforts.

But maybe I am wrong and this would never work... Because of these doubts I ask people's opinion on this idea.

 

[Brill]

I ask you to give me a public reference (it is 1 time action) which is the confirmation only that I am a decent guy, not dangerous, safe to deal with for other providers.
And I use it as a security certificate when I want to see some other girl. It make it much easier for both of us, less time and efforts.

Suppose she doesn't think you're a decent guy? I doubt she would say this publicly

 

[Tempted Monk]

Suppose she doesn't think you're a decent guy? I doubt she would say this publicly

It is client recommendation, not review. If girl thinks I don't deserve recommendation, she won't recommend me - it is that simple.
No need to say something negative publicly.

 

[Theredmilf]

I would rather see a discussion of what puts a client on your "A list". Personally, I am reluctant to recommend outright because my boundaries are not everyone's boundaries. And even Bundy had his favourite girls he didn't kill. You cannot ever say a client is safe just because he didn't assault you. I prefer on many levels to discuss what makes for a great date and great memory on both sides. Xxoo

 

[SoftHands813]

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?589158-References-Database-Forum-Ladies-Your-Thoughts-Please&highlight=

FWIW, this thread wasn't as much about recommendations as it was about a resource to search for references.

 

[Alisonxox]

This is very popular lately ..
My way to do it is to let my clients know that if they need reccomendations , they can always give my number to the lady they would like to see so she can text me and I am recommending him ..
Since I am everywhere on bp , cerb , terb , twitter ect , it is easy to verify that it is really me recommending a client ..
Private and easy

Xo Ali

 

[massman]

Re recommendations. When an sp I want to see but have never seen before wants a reference, I simply name a couple / few reputable girls I've recently seen. Always seems sufficient. Tho I do usually include my terb handle as well so they can see, at least from my posting history (fwiw) that I'm not a complete dick. If I offer an sp name as a "reference" should I ask her first? I've never considered this.

As for the original topic, the idea of "recommended" clients sounds interesting.....

 

[massman]

Good advice. I generally have only given names of spa who I've seen more than once and who I know remember who I am and consider me a decent client. Tho I've not specifically asked them for permission. (Tho they too have been sps that ask for "the name of another escort you've seen recently as a reference"

 

[Belleville69]

Interesting.....While I'm not a huge hobbyist, I don't think I have ever been asked for a reference.

 

[MattRoxx]

Re recommendations. When an sp I want to see but have never seen before wants a reference, I simply name a couple / few reputable girls I've recently seen. Always seems sufficient. Tho I do usually include my terb handle as well so they can see, at least from my posting history (fwiw) that I'm not a complete dick.

This has worked for me too.
Social events and parties also help eg an SP you know can introduce you to her friend(s).

It is client recommendation, not review. If girl thinks I don't deserve recommendation, she won't recommend me - it is that simple.
No need to say something negative publicly.

It is not that simple at all. This would open the SP to receiving a time-wasting flood of calls texts emails and tweets demanding to know why she won't provide the recommendation.

Besides all that, this is called an Escort Review Board. If you post a few favourable reviews you should be able to use those as your reference. "You don't know me, but here's a link to a review and description of a great time I had with Ms. X. And if you have a No Review Policy I will respect that."

The obvious other option is to book through an agency, Then your repeat business will be welcome even if you want to see a different SP each appointment.

 

[Keebler Elf]

This thread is why you NEVER identify your TERB handle to SP's.

 

[massman]

This thread is why you NEVER identify your TERB handle to SP's.

im not following you? How does this thread tell us this?