Childhood Friends

[jeff2]

Ever think about reconnecting with a childhood friend and then find out they passed away when googling the name.
My best friend for years and years in childhood died in May out in Victoria, BC. So depressing. Just found out a couple of hours ago.

 

[lessjamie7]

Ever think about reconnecting with a childhood friend and then find out they passed away when googling the name.
My best friend for years and years in childhood died in May out in Victoria, BC. So depressing. Just found out a couple of hours ago.

Yup, sucks for sure.

LJ

 

[anonemouse]

I'm sorry to hear that.

There's another side to the coin though: you can have someone that was a terrific friend decades ago and when you reconnect you have absolutely zero in common with them, other than your shared experiences as kids. Different values, different worldview, different everything.

Source: happened to me. Met an old friend via Facebook right when it was taking off in 2007 or 2008 and the novelty of it was pretty cool. He was in town for work so we met up for a drink. In the end all we could talk about was people from elementary school as we had absolutely zero else in common. He had become a very weird, angry, sarcastic douchebag.

I'm still sorry for your loss, and it absolutely may not apply here, but sometimes the past is better left there.

 

[Sonic Temple]

Sorry to hear that mate, and agree with anonemouse, sometimes the past is better left alone. It nice to reflect on what was as it has shaped you for who you are now.

 

[xix]

Stand by me (1986) - drama
Good Boys (2019) - comedy

Both movies show youth buddies and how later in adult hood are not.
Sorry about your friend. Some people join our path in life for a brief moment , probably trying to complete what they couldn't in a previous life, once complete then you move on.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Wonder how many of my school friends are still around. An old guy I was talking to once told me he was on Facebook all the time reconnecting with childhood friends. I thought, that's a good idea. I should try and find my old buddy back in the UK from when were going to school together back in the 60s. Went on Facebook when I got home and looked him up. That was on a Sunday night. Got the news that he had died two days before on Friday night. Hadn't thought about him in over 40 years. Weird.

 

[goldengirl]

These friends caused you to have OBESITY and HEART DISEASE !!!

 

[Spunky1]

Sorry to hear about your friend.Think about calling his family and sharing a memory or story with them . Before anyone else jumps in, no not a story about tag teaming the cheerleader together. That’s for this board .

 

[BloweyJoey]

I find that it's still really hard to find people online. I graduated high school only 15 years ago and I have trouble finding a lot of people online. They either don't have social media presence or changed their names.

 

[kherg007]

It gets particularly weird when you know someone even before scholl-like age 4 or 5 - and then they die. To, in essence, know the entire arc of their lives. And think back to grade 2 conversations with them you remember, and think you can interject "oh, and you're only going to live to 52 as you'll have an undiagnosed heart murmur. Make sure to see a cardiologist once you hit 50." Or issue other warnings. But alas...

 

[Mr.lover]

Forget the nostalgia chances are neither of you will have anything in common anymore. I met up with an old friend on video call and we had nothing else to chat about after 30.mins reminiscing the old high school days. It was awkward questions and silence. Was hard to get off the call too, didn't want to seem rude. We never connected after that. Best way is to type a message on their FB or whatever social media platform. But never do a live call. After a while of updates, if any more interesting topics then maybe connect with a live call. Most likely the messages will slowly die off.

 

[jeff2]

It gets particularly weird when you know someone even before scholl-like age 4 or 5 - and then they die. To, in essence, know the entire arc of their lives. And think back to grade 2 conversations with them you remember, and think you can interject "oh, and you're only going to live to 52 as you'll have an undiagnosed heart murmur. Make sure to see a cardiologist once you hit 50." Or issue other warnings. But alas...

Thanks. Yes, this started pre school. So young I cannot even remember first meeting. We both lived on the same street in central etobicoke. He died of cancer surgery complications. By the way, I have a heart murmur.

 

[Charlemagne]

I find that it's still really hard to find people online. I graduated high school only 15 years ago and I have trouble finding a lot of people online. They either don't have social media presence or changed their names.

You're close to my age. I've found most people online.

I find that highschool friendships were of convenience or they very materialistic. Where I went to school it was a popularity contest full of people trying to be cool. Lots of shit talking behind the back of others, even "friends."

 

[Charlemagne]

Wouldn't mind seeing some of the people from my childhood block though. Out of curiosity.

 

[Jasmina]

I'm fortunate that those closest to me growing up, I have managed to keep in touch with over the years. All except one, and I am nearly certain she is probably gone. I've heard through the ole rumour mill that she had gotten into drugs really bad and had lost custody of her kid. Occasionally I think of her and search her on social media, to no avail.

There was also an escort who looked exactly like her who did in fact die of a drug overdose a few years ago. A few guys I know knew her but I don't think any of them knew her real name to confirm if it was her, they only knew her fake "real" name (the ladies on the board will know I mean by that).

Sorry for your loss.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I find that it's still really hard to find people online. I graduated high school only 15 years ago and I have trouble finding a lot of people online. They either don't have social media presence or changed their names.

That's because they did away with phone books. There are a lot of things the internet hasn't replaced. It is pretty much impossible to find anybody now. However, when people had land lines you could find them. Every library had phone books from Arizona to Australia. I was able to look up my long lost relative in the Melbourne phone book back in the day. Took less than a minute. No chance now.

 

[xix]

Wouldn't mind seeing some of the people from my childhood block though. Out of curiosity.

Yeah like the hot chicks...I found a few of them that are online. I am not sure if it is metabolism, or they took the pill, or what ever else but some still have hot bodies. But the average are 35-40 % of women have good bodies. The men well, I would say the same. But one thing I notice about the guys who drink to much beer/alcohol/drugs they look older than me.
Phone books were the easy way to find people, FB search engine is not what people think it is. I figure out if you type John Smith enough times in a week you may find the person you are searching. The FB search engine got cripple a few years ago so that made it difficult now. Obit if not posted on internet then you will never know.

Even high school reunion can be a drag, have a few minutes to say hi, married, divorce then what...

 

[VIPhunter]

I'm curious about this idea, that 'we have nothing in common'.

Honestly unless one of you is a multi-millionaire and the other is living on the street, that sounds like a cop-out to me. And even in this instance we're all still humans.

We all experience love, and lust, heartbreak, and grief, happiness and sadness.....Most people have had some form of job, that required mental investment and would have given the job holder a series of experiences, be they good or bd.

Many have been married, or close to it. Many have children, or have invested in other's children as step parents.

If you find that you have 'nothing to talk about' I suggest one or both of you are not really trying very hard.

 

[thumper18474]

what really sucks is when you re-connect with a hot lady friend from your high school days..who you considered just a good friend , and who you had the hots for but would never act on it and she tells you she had the hots for you too but cus we were good friends didnt want it to get weird..LOL.

 

[anon1]

^^^How about running into hotties from HS who are now babushka grannies?