Cheating issue

fuji said:
Looks like you are feeling one of those biological imperatives I was talking about--a deep rooted emotional reaction to the possibility of your partner cheating on you.

Next try denying that you have a strong desire to fuck as many women as you can.

You face a simple choice, dude, either be hypocritical about this, or deny yourself.

In my opinion life is just too short for self denial. I live my life to the fullest, I love who I am, and I find that the conflict built into my relationship makes my life more exciting, makes me feel more alive.

I figure I am living more than you are--but yes, if you are actually living a life of self-denial, you can say you are a more logically consistent person than I am.

Welcome to it. I have a date tonight.



Yup. I cheat with a woman like that. She is only able to find opportunities to step out once or twice a month, and generally with very short notice. She has me, and a few other guys, on a list. When she gets her opportunity she runs down her list--the whole thing is over and she's home within an hour. She literally fucks the first guy on her list who is available at the moment she can pull it off.

Ever go away on business???



I believe you. I love my wife too. Marriage is highly rewarding. So is fucking other women.
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What the hell am I in denial about? :confused: There are many beautiful women on this planet and I don't deny this for a moment but when you have it all then why look elsewhere? I am more of a spiritual person and being happy and positive about everything is vital. I strive for perfection every day and I feel I am closer to it every day.

Maybe you have that problem that your SO might cheat on you but I know better. Keep her happy and you will get things you have never imagined that are so fucking great.

I have had many great experiences with women and I did get my fill but when your SO is so much better then all of them then why the hell would I want to sleep with another woman?

You love your wife? C'mon man. You might love her (to you use the term loosely) but she is boring you to death and that's why you need this as an escape.

Now your living your life more than I am. That's a laugh. Don't compare my life with yours. I love my life and I'm not going to compare with anyone else's.

I'm glad that you love yourself and that's the most important thing in my opinion.

When I do go away on business, she comes with me because I want her there with me and she wants to be with me. I don't think that being together 24 hours is healthy either but I can't get enough of her.
 
fuji said:
Dude, my wife is 10 years younger than me, 110 pounds, tall, with C cups, and pretty as a button. She's smart, well educated, and we have SO many common interests and I am absolutely in love with her in every way. You might call her a "trophy wife" except that she earns enough money to cover half the bills.

If there was anybody who has it all at home it's me, and I'm out there fucking other women every week.

I have this cheating thing down to the point where I know how much sex I can have outside the marriage and still be able to perform whenever I'm called on to do so at home.

I would absolutely NOT want my wife getting suspicious about why i am sexually exhausted or even just feel that I am not attracted to her.

So I make sure and leave at least a couple of hours between cheating on her, and spending any time with her that could lead to me fucking her brains out.

I can give you some more tips on how to cheat if you like, I really am pretty good at it.
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If your wife is so great than WTF is your problem...must be very low self esteem, that is the only reason I can come up with that you would risk loosing her to SP's or any other "piece of meat".

These women make you feel good about yourself and that's why you keep going back..bc you feel good (I don't mean sexually, you feel good about yourself, an esteem builder)...well good luck to you buddy, I really hope that she cheats on you, so you can see how if feels, maybe that would change your mind a bit, uh??

And in case you are wondering, I do not see SP's, I am strictly SC guy, once in a while. I am here on TERB for the hell of it, I am only in the lounge and the SC section.

There is no way in HELL that I would do anything to loose what I have, everything that we have built "TOGETHER", my family and my self respect.
Just my 2 cents....my life is worth a million, and so is my wife
 
fuji said:
Dude, my wife is 10 years younger than me, 110 pounds, tall, with C cups, and pretty as a button. She's smart, well educated, and we have SO many common interests and I am absolutely in love with her in every way. You might call her a "trophy wife" except that she earns enough money to cover half the bills.

If there was anybody who has it all at home it's me, and I'm out there fucking other women every week.

I have this cheating thing down to the point where I know how much sex I can have outside the marriage and still be able to perform whenever I'm called on to do so at home.

I would absolutely NOT want my wife getting suspicious about why i am sexually exhausted or even just feel that I am not attracted to her.

So I make sure and leave at least a couple of hours between cheating on her, and spending any time with her that could lead to me fucking her brains out.

I can give you some more tips on how to cheat if you like, I really am pretty good at it.
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My SO is younger than me as well and can turn heads right around. Guys honking their horns, whistling at her, etc. It makes me feel good. She is well educated, grounded and makes great money. Hell, she could support me. :eek:

If you put it that way then I could get away with it as well but I choose not to. Please don't tell me that she is so great then if she is why the hell are you cheating on her? She might be what you said but you're missing something in your relationship.

Thanks for the cheating tips. If my SO and I do ever break up, I will certainly give you a shout. I'm kidding of course.
 
ang said:
If your wife is so great than WTF is your problem...must be very low self esteem, that is the only reason I can come up with that you would risk loosing her to SP's or any other "piece of meat".

These women make you feel good about yourself and that's why you keep going back..bc you feel good (I don't mean sexually, you feel good about yourself, an esteem builder)...well good luck to you buddy, I really hope that she cheats on you, so you can see how if feels, maybe that would change your mind a bit, uh??

And in case you are wondering, I do not see SP's, I am strictly SC guy, once in a while. I am here on TERB for the hell of it, I am only in the lounge and the SC section.

There is no way in HELL that I would do anything to loose what I have, everything that we have built "TOGETHER", my family and my self respect.
Just my 2 cents....my life is worth a million, and so is my wife
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This sounds eerily similar to my life. I think I found my long lost brother...lol.
I am mainly in the Sports Discussion forum though.

Cheers.
 
What's cheating? :p
 
A relationship is what u make it. What is agree upon between its members.

If you both decide infidelity and marriage to be mutally exclusive as marriage indicates then invovling a third member unknown to the other is cheating.

If you both decide to be not mutually exclusive then it is not considered cheating at all.

plain and simple, however rationalization is a common trap.

If the husband is are cheating on darling wife, and she then cheats on husband may it be so that husband has right to be upset at wife . SP or civilian...it is all the same.
 
lawyerman said:
I am more of a spiritual person and being happy and positive about everything is vital.
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I agree with Nietzche on this one point--this sort of spirituality is a mechanism of self-repression. You have fundamental instincts that you are stifling, and you are resorting to these notions to help you stifle yourself.

As I said there are two choices here: hypocrisy, or self-denial. You've chosen self-denial. I've chosen hypocrisy. I respect your choice, and I'm happy with mine. Both choices have their issues--evolution set us up the bomb, there is no perfect answer. My reason for choosing hypocrisy is that I only live once and I don't have time for self-denial.

When I do go away on business, she comes with me because I want her there with me and she wants to be with me.
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Plainly you feel you need to watch her every second to make sure she doesn't have any opportunity to cheat. Hope you are watching her closely enough, she is no doubt chomping at the bit, looking, waiting for her opportunity--and trust me, if she is a pretty woman--and I believe you that she is--she will find the opportunity quite easily.
 
ang said:
These women make you feel good about yourself and that's why you keep going back
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Absolutely. I get satisfaction out of fucking multiple women on many levels, physical, emotional, even intellectual.

SP's are the least fulfilling in that there's no challenge, but they are a damn good physical experience. I like to put it this way: An SP is better than porn, and I enjoy porn, so why wouldn't I enjoy an SP? Like porn you are buying physical, biological satisfaction wrapped up in a fantasy.

Next most satisfying is a mistress situation where you build up an ongoing relationship with a single individual. You're still paying, so it's still not much of a challenge, but they're pickier about their patron and there are additional emotional levels and exchanges that happen.

Most satisfying of course is banging a civilian woman, that brings all of it together--a physical experience, the emotional interchange, and of course, the satisfaction of knowing that you are her choice for that moment. The downside of course is that it's much harder--I can bang an SP any moment I feel like it, whereas I generally bang civilian women on their schedule rather than mine--and much less often than I can bang an SP.

As for my wife--other than the most superficial details I won't discuss her with you, my relationship with her is sacred and I refuse to consider her in relation to anybody else. She's not the top of a list, she's on a different plane.

I wouldn't give up any of it, nor would I give up having a wife. If my wife does find out and leave me I will be devestated for awhile, I imagine my life will be hell for a good six months.

Sooner or later, though, I will just go get myself another wife, and maybe better than the present one--probably younger.

And in case you are wondering, I do not see SP's, I am strictly SC guy, once in a while.
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You're an even bigger hypocrit than I am. So what, an SC is not cheating because she gets you off by rubbing your cock with her knee and ass, rather than her pussy or mouth?

Give me a big fucking break.

I enjoy SC's too, and MPA's, and I consider it all cheating.
 
fuji said:
I agree with Nietzche on this one point--this sort of spirituality is a mechanism of self-repression. You have fundamental instincts that you are stifling, and you are resorting to these notions to help you stifle yourself.

As I said there are two choices here: hypocrisy, or self-denial. You've chosen self-denial. I've chosen hypocrisy. I respect your choice, and I'm happy with mine.

Both choices have their issues--evolution set us upt he bomb, there is no perfect answer. My reason for choosing hypocrisy is that I only live once and I don't have time for self-denial.



Plainly you feel you need to watch her every second to make sure she doesn't have any opportunity to cheat. Hope you are watching her closely enough, she is no doubt chomping at the bit, looking, waiting for her opportunity--and trust me, if she is a pretty woman--and I believe you that she is--she will find the opportunity quite easily.
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You really don't get it do you. It's her choice to come away with me. She is going away this weekend and if you think that she wants to fuck around behind my back well then you are not as intelligent as I gave you credit for earlier.

Stifling myself? What the hell are you talking about? Are you just trying to get me going? Are you listening to yourself? Self denial? Obviously, you do not know me and I am a very confident person. My SO knows this and she loves that I take care of myself and that's what gets her attention. I know how to press her buttons and I have never seen a hotter woman in my life. I am glad I am with her because she is the closest thing to perfect I have ever seen. She is very lucky as well to have me. :)

BTW, I do not believe that you only live once but lets leave out the talk of reincarnation. That's a different story altogether.
 
lawyerman said:
My SO has never cheated on me so spare me the BS about all of us are "hard-wired" to cheat.
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Don't know your SO but most women are ready to drop their panties whenever a "brad pitt" is around.
 
Is it possible that Fuji has banged Lawyerman's wife as one of his "civilian" conquests?:eek:
 
great bear said:
Is it possible that Fuji has banged Lawyerman's wife as one of his "civilian" conquests?:eek:
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LMFAO. He wouldn't have a fucking prayer in fact no one would have a chance. She would tell him to go screw himself. I needed a good laugh. Many thanks.
 
fuji said:
You're an even bigger hypocrit than I am. So what, an SC is not cheating because she gets you off by rubbing your cock with her knee and ass, rather than her pussy or mouth?

Give me a big fucking break.

I enjoy SC's too, and MPA's, and I consider it all cheating.
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This is the very last post I am doing on this thread, and I don't even know why I am defending myself to you of all people.

You missunderstood my post, I said "I go to SC" I did not say that I go once a day, once a week, once a year. As a matter of fact the last time I was at one was a few years ago and who said anything about getting lapdances, not I, it is not cheating if you are watching a dancer on stage is it....so I guess that 1 time my wife went to see male strippers it was considered "cheating" on me?

My wife is fuckn' hot and she puts the majority of the dancers to shame (no offense to the ladies), so why would I go out for beef when I have steak at home? My wife dances for me in the privacy of our own home...don't have a need to go see other women.

Good luck to you and your lovely wife.
 
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