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CBJ ratings?

WJ49

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Almost every review I read here rates the provider's BBBJ. I must be a little more germophobic than most people on this list (or at least than most reviewers on it), and being new to the hobby, I just had a general question:

Do CBJ and BBBJ involve a significantly different skill set, or should you infer that someone is great (or middling) at the former if they are great (or middling) at the later?


(Sorry if this has been asked before, searched the boards and couldn't find anything.)
 

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Your question has just as much value/opportunity to be discussed as any other topic on terb.

As a safe GFE provider I'd like to offer a few of the reasons I THINK CBJ is less often discussed than BBBJ:
***(these are my personal opinions only and not those of TERB and any other person or judgement of your humanity)

- technically any SP can provide covered service, but its more difficult to find SPs who ONLY offer safe covered service ALWAYS (thus reducing risk as much as possible)
- people are very uncomfortable discussing herpes and other STI transmission so they don't
- most people are not well aware of the options available for safe oral sex, particularly on ladies (e.g. what's a dental dam???)
- from my experience it seems like those favoring BBBJ are more vocal/expressive on terb, but not necessarily an accurate reflection of clients in the GTA. The CBJ clients seem to prefer PM when asking serious/specific questions to avoid heckling, thus seem to be fewer in number. Personally, I think the CBJ clients are the strong silent type, thus undervalued as they're not so obvious a target for business.

Before anyone jumps on me I want to make it clear that these are just suggestions open for discussion. I am making no judgement calls on other people - clients, SPs, MPAs, etc., I am casting no stones. I cum in peace.

- Kelli
 

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...I must be a little more germophobic than most people on this list (or at least than most reviewers on it), and being new to the hobby, I just had a general question.
It is quite interesting that times have changed where a BBBJ had almost come to be the norm. Absolutely nothing wrong with a CBJ. You're playing it safe, protection for both parties. Personally, it's not a turn on for me knowing I'm the 10th. guy an MPA or SP has given a BBBJ to that day. Think about it!

A CBJ is probably the lowest risk forms of pleasure on the face of the planet. Mind you, when it comes to friends, I'll opt for a BBBJ. :)
 

WJ49

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Kelli, Thanks for the input! And now that you've mentioned Dental Dams, just one quick questions: Where do you find them? -- I used to think that they would be with the condoms, lube, etc. in the drug store, but unless they are under some code name, I've never seen them there.
 

WJ49

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Thanks GB27. Is there an explanation for why times have changed on this issue? I did notice on reading "Paying for it", that it seemed like when Chester Brown started hobbying, all of the incall SPs offered CBJ.
 

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Kelli, Thanks for the input! And now that you've mentioned Dental Dams, just one quick questions: Where do you find them? -- I used to think that they would be with the condoms, lube, etc. in the drug store, but unless they are under some code name, I've never seen them there.
In sex stores. Comes as You Are on Queen West is a good one. In a pinch, you can also use a condom, that you cut length wise.
 

kelli

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Kelli, Thanks for the input! And now that you've mentioned Dental Dams, just one quick questions: Where do you find them? -- I used to think that they would be with the condoms, lube, etc. in the drug store, but unless they are under some code name, I've never seen them there.
You won't find dental dams in your average drug store like SDM or Rexall's. Most specialty sex shops on Toronto sell them. I get mine at the condom shack on Queen b/c these usually have the most flavours to pick from. But I endorse no store in particular. Most of the sex shops on Yonge st sell them too. Online is also optional as well.
I'd be very happy to demo one in action just for you, I love my job :)
 

WJ49

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Thanks! I was a little surprised that Dams never went 'mainstream' enough to show up in drugstores. Is the Dam/no-Dam difference comparable to the CBJ/BBBJ difference in terms of how enjoyable the experience is reported to be? (A BBBJ obviously feels better than a CBJ, but a CBJ can still be pretty amazing.)
 

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Or, you can lick a piece of Saran Wrap at home for a few cents. The sensation for the guy would be about the same.
Though saran wrap shouldn't be used for the actual deed.

As I understand it, saran wrap actually has holes in it. Lots of them, all over. The holes are very small, perhaps not visible to the naked eye, but large enough to make them ineffective protection against STDs.
 

WJ49

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I took Bobistheowl to not be suggesting that we save $ by buying Saran Wrap rather than Dams, but rather suggesting that licking a peice of Saran Wrap at home without anyone attached to it would be about as much fun as going down on a woman using a Dam.

Do many guys feel that its really that bad? Also, how do ladies feel about it on the 'receiving' end?

PS: And thanks for the links!
 

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Thanks GB27. Is there an explanation for why times have changed on this issue? I did notice on reading "Paying for it", that it seemed like when Chester Brown started hobbying, all of the incall SPs offered CBJ.
Because guys wanted it and if the girl didn't offer it then she would lose a customer. But it's not just 1 guy, it's a lot of guys. I guess the next push is for CIM? It seems like every guy on TERB is now looking for this service.
 

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I took Bobistheowl to not be suggesting that we save $ by buying Saran Wrap rather than Dams, but rather suggesting that licking a peice of Saran Wrap at home without anyone attached to it would be about as much fun as going down on a woman using a Dam.

Do many guys feel that its really that bad? Also, how do ladies feel about it on the 'receiving' end?

PS: And thanks for the links!
The question is then do you do DATY for you or for the girl?
 

bobistheowl

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Woah - careful there, old sport!

As I understand it, saran wrap actually has holes in it. Lots of them, all over. The holes are very small, perhaps not visible to the naked eye, but large enough to make them ineffective protection against STDs.

Saran wrap is also rather weak; stress can cause it to fail, sometimes not noticeably.
You missed my point. As far as the sensation for the guy's tongue goes, DATY with a dental dam is just licking a piece of rubber. Put your pinky finger in the back to simulate a clitoris, or put your thumb and index finger together, close your eyes, and make believe the loop in the center is a pussy. As long as you wash your hands thoroughly in advance, you probably won't catch any STDs from yourself that you didn't already have. If you want to lick a piece of rubber, don't pay $200 or more for the experience. If you're too cautious for Saran Wrap, lick a condom instead, (preferably previously unused).
 

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I took Bobistheowl to not be suggesting that we save $ by buying Saran Wrap rather than Dams, but rather suggesting that licking a peice of Saran Wrap at home without anyone attached to it would be about as much fun as going down on a woman using a Dam.
That's exactly what I meant.
 

WJ49

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The question is then do you do DATY for you or for the girl?
The two are connected. I think that I big part of DATY for me is knowing that its getting the girl off, if they aren't really feeling anything through the Dam, then it would be of little interest to me.
 
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