Cards from your SP
- Thread starter NeeditWantit
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Mojo R,
No I did not miss your point, yes I completly understand what you are saying, I was there, where you are now, if anybody get's it, I get it....share personal information???? are you kidding...... I went so far as to exit my place of employment from a back door just in case some crazy person might follow me home..... now who is crazy?????? we tend not to trust our judgement when in these situations, but yet we just spent intimate time with each other, I mean, what is that?????? I only realized how ridiculous I was being when I had the reverse happen to me, I never saw it, I had always thought I was normal and everybody else, (clients) were crazy, but there I was, answering the phone, opening the ever revolving door, to numerous strangers on a daily basis, and duck for cover when I would leave.......
So many wonderful amazing people I had met, I mean really, really wonderful people, and now wish I would have been more open to them, as I would have had that many more awesome people in my life, you can never get enough awesome no?????
We all have precious things in our life to protect, that is why we call them special, we just have to use our judgement on every situation, and open our minds to truth and reality just a little bit more than we do.......
So I protect that girl who sends the card, because I would never have sent or even had cared about the client enough to actually send one....what she has, even being in that trade, is what I have finally found, and what a process it was to get here, so the stigma goes both ways, and will continue if we choose, but we can change this, with the right attitude and belief in people....
Instead of ,"I find this disturbing", why not for once someone say, "isn't that lovely, what a wonderful girl, I am so lucky that I can pocess an energy to attract such genuinity"....and then so many people would come forward in the way that they should, there are so many females in this industry, that I have had the pleasure and honour of sharing their true self with me, and if you allowed or accepted them as their true self, wouldn't that be so amazing??? through the course of history, there has always only been basically one sterotype, why??? we are in the 21st century, isn't it time to write a new book,? would all you hobbiest's not want to change even your on reality as a user of the service??? we have evolved no???? so then why is this never moving, why the stagnation????? so boring, so meaningless really... take the hobby to new levels, I mean geez make it a little more real and interesting, it could turn out to be the best escape you ever take....
We are all in the same place really, do you not understand that? you may take an escape for an hour, and some females for the whole entire day, is one really different from the next???? we are all on the same side....whether you choose to believe it or not, that is your business, but do not take the glory of integration away from another....
As a previous woman of the trade, I try very hard to understand and accept that I was in an enviroment, that meant absolutely nothing.....whew, that is tough to swallow, there I was, there you were..... and yet nobody was home.....
No I did not miss your point, yes I completly understand what you are saying, I was there, where you are now, if anybody get's it, I get it....share personal information???? are you kidding...... I went so far as to exit my place of employment from a back door just in case some crazy person might follow me home..... now who is crazy?????? we tend not to trust our judgement when in these situations, but yet we just spent intimate time with each other, I mean, what is that?????? I only realized how ridiculous I was being when I had the reverse happen to me, I never saw it, I had always thought I was normal and everybody else, (clients) were crazy, but there I was, answering the phone, opening the ever revolving door, to numerous strangers on a daily basis, and duck for cover when I would leave.......
So many wonderful amazing people I had met, I mean really, really wonderful people, and now wish I would have been more open to them, as I would have had that many more awesome people in my life, you can never get enough awesome no?????
We all have precious things in our life to protect, that is why we call them special, we just have to use our judgement on every situation, and open our minds to truth and reality just a little bit more than we do.......
So I protect that girl who sends the card, because I would never have sent or even had cared about the client enough to actually send one....what she has, even being in that trade, is what I have finally found, and what a process it was to get here, so the stigma goes both ways, and will continue if we choose, but we can change this, with the right attitude and belief in people....
Instead of ,"I find this disturbing", why not for once someone say, "isn't that lovely, what a wonderful girl, I am so lucky that I can pocess an energy to attract such genuinity"....and then so many people would come forward in the way that they should, there are so many females in this industry, that I have had the pleasure and honour of sharing their true self with me, and if you allowed or accepted them as their true self, wouldn't that be so amazing??? through the course of history, there has always only been basically one sterotype, why??? we are in the 21st century, isn't it time to write a new book,? would all you hobbiest's not want to change even your on reality as a user of the service??? we have evolved no???? so then why is this never moving, why the stagnation????? so boring, so meaningless really... take the hobby to new levels, I mean geez make it a little more real and interesting, it could turn out to be the best escape you ever take....
We are all in the same place really, do you not understand that? you may take an escape for an hour, and some females for the whole entire day, is one really different from the next???? we are all on the same side....whether you choose to believe it or not, that is your business, but do not take the glory of integration away from another....
As a previous woman of the trade, I try very hard to understand and accept that I was in an enviroment, that meant absolutely nothing.....whew, that is tough to swallow, there I was, there you were..... and yet nobody was home.....
Hung Up said:
Ummm still the people you are talking about that you say should embrace the hobby in a more personal and meaninful way dont want to and that is fine too. Id say that most women in this hobby dont want it to be personal. And i find that totally fair too. What one SP wants out of being an SP differs greatly from other SP's. What one client wants out of the hobby again differs greatly. There is no way to tell anyone how to act or what to do. They'll figure things out on their own and connect or not connect with the SP client they find best suited for. I believe (yet i suspend believe when with a SP) that the intimacy and emotions during a visit are just part of the deal. You cant help that real emotions may enter it on either side but that can either be fantastic or unfortunate if they are only one sides and unrealistic. As ive said many times already its very nice and sweet that someone finds someone they want to share a card with or whatever the case may be. But in my mind there is no need for someone in this field to have to mail it to their clients home or have their home/work number. As many have said before (ladies included) give it to them at their next encounter. If the client choses to give them their number/address then thats their decision and i have no problem with that. Ive only said that I would not do it nor suggest it to anyone. Thats basically it.
Alexa Taylor said:
That is all I have ever received. I don't think that it is a good idea to be exchanging home info. As for it being on Canada 411, so is virtually everyone at sometime, unless you have an unlisted number etc. So I guess that in reality the privacy is only so far. If someone wants to findout who you are and where you live they can find out eventually.
As to the topic I would prefer the greetings to be in person and a hug will do just fine thank you. When was the last time you had a person throw away a hug
Thank-you Mojo R, for replying, I by no means wanted to offend anyone here, not ever.... and yes, you are absolutely right in saying that, what is right for one person may not be right for another, ahhhhhhhh the good old "acceptance" philosophy......
My posts I have realized have been extremly personal, and they are all my own issues and mine alone.....
Thank-you for pointing out the obvious, it just takes me a little longer, hehehe, sometimes I feel like I can change the world......hehehe, but I must be realistic, that things just are what they are, ahhhhhh too bad, because I know they can be soooooo much better...
Anyway, thanks again, will continue my search for the balance I am so in need of......
Merry christmas, and Happy New Year.....xoxoxo
Enjoy whatever is right for you, and good luck.......
My posts I have realized have been extremly personal, and they are all my own issues and mine alone.....
Thank-you for pointing out the obvious, it just takes me a little longer, hehehe, sometimes I feel like I can change the world......hehehe, but I must be realistic, that things just are what they are, ahhhhhh too bad, because I know they can be soooooo much better...
Anyway, thanks again, will continue my search for the balance I am so in need of......
Merry christmas, and Happy New Year.....xoxoxo
Enjoy whatever is right for you, and good luck.......
The man did say that she was retired but still sees him. This would put her into a slightly different category of SP. I assume that she has another job now as well and may see a handful of regulars or less. She may just be in the Xmas spirit. I used to send a card to a retired SP who saw me when I wanted. I also knew where her day job was.
Sadly Kathleen/Badkat is not my SP, but she did give out Christmas cards at a couple of the terb Christmas parties. It was nice to receive a card from her, and I thought it was a nice gesture.
Hung Up said:
everything being said and "accepted as individual" you obviously have a wonderful heart and caring personality I love in people. Cheers to you and your attitude but that type of relationship just doesnt work for me anyway in this hobby, Im by no means a robot and impersonal but i just seperate the real feelings from the "date" feelings. Happy HoHo to you too
diver said:
This is true...she does have a regular job. In fact she calls me from there and even gave me something related from her job with the place's name and address. I have never been there. She did also meet me outside of my office tower once. It's safe to say we know where each other work.
Recent events (including the card) have taken our 'arrangement' to a new level. I'm interested in seeing where things lead. I'm not interested in a BF/GF type relationship by no means. Rather, I'm hoping it can turn in to more of a booty call type of arrangement.
NeeditWantit said:
So much for the romance in it all eh? LOL Hope she doesnt want a gf/bf relationship out of all this and she reads that comment here. Could be perfect support to my reasoning why never to share info. Yes, good luck
