Cold and reserved people can be loving and caring. They just may not show it the way you want them to. Just accept this person, or yourself if that's who you're talking about, the way they are. It'll be best for both of you (or the best for you if you're talking about yourself).Sentry said:I have a question. Can a person who has always been cold and reserved change to a more loving and caring person, even if this person acknowledges that part of their character and wants to change. Should I just accept the situation and stop hoping?
A lot of people would describe me as a cold reserved person, but if you get to know me, you'd find out that I am the exact opposite. We do live in Toronto and this city happens to be the most cold and reserved city in the world... so I can't really blame the person for being this way... best thing would to get out of this city....Sentry said:I have a question. Can a person who has always been cold and reserved change to a more loving and caring person, even if this person acknowledges that part of their character and wants to change. Should I just accept the situation and stop hoping?
I've noticed this too. I've seen friendlier people in Detroit than in T.O. Wonder why that is? HmmmCappinStabbin said:We do live in Toronto and this city happens to be the most cold and reserved city in the world... so I can't really blame the person for being this way... best thing would to get out of this city....
as a freqent visitor to toronto, i think that toronto-ons are as warm and friendly as anywhere else (and i was born and raised in the suburbs of new york city).....cities don't make the people, people make the cities...don't sell toronto or canadians short, they are great people....CappinStabbin said:A lot of people would describe me as a cold reserved person, but if you get to know me, you'd find out that I am the exact opposite. We do live in Toronto and this city happens to be the most cold and reserved city in the world... so I can't really blame the person for being this way... best thing would to get out of this city....
I totally agree with poolie.pool said:I think, in most instances, it's a case of the more things change the more they remain the same. People may change in minor ways and superficially, but in essence the way we are programmed will always be part of us.
The "right person" may be able to allow people to express a reserved side of themselves if, in fact, that person wants or needs to express themselves, otherwise it's not likely you can change a person as such.
I dunno, but if you accept some people rather than try to change them [ which is a form of judgement, I think], it's more likely to allow them to expand if they have any inclination to do so.
It's a really hard thing to simplify and generalise given all the dynamics of humans. Many people tend to compensate or build defences. Sometimes it's hard to tell who they really are and many don't even know themselves.
Sentry said:I have a question. Can a person who has always been cold and reserved change to a more loving and caring person, even if this person acknowledges that part of their character and wants to change. Should I just accept the situation and stop hoping?
I am canadian... and from Toronto, I'm telling you it's cold here and I am not talking about just the weather. It's a dump in my opinion.keybitz said:as a freqent visitor to toronto, i think that toronto-ons are as warm and friendly as anywhere else (and i was born and raised in the suburbs of new york city).....cities don't make the people, people make the cities...don't sell toronto or canadians short, they are great people....
cap, you do have a choice, you know, stay and look for the warm side of your associates, or leave, and go where you think the people are going to be different.....i suspect that the coldness in others you will find no matter where you choose to go.....CappinStabbin said:I am canadian... and from Toronto, I'm telling you it's cold here and I am not talking about just the weather. It's a dump in my opinion.
I don't believe that this is true. I think that Torontonians are slower to warm-up to strangers than in some other cities but they can be just as warm and expressive once they get to know you.CappinStabbin said:We do live in Toronto and this city happens to be the most cold and reserved city in the world...
Everyone is capable of change if they want to.Sentry said:I have a question. Can a person who has always been cold and reserved change to a more loving and caring person, even if this person acknowledges that part of their character and wants to change. Should I just accept the situation and stop hoping?