I am a woman first,,,,everything else is secondary, including being a Domme I CAN Dominate but in a personal relationship I really don't want to have to do that. I like a man to be a man.
Can an SP ask for fidelity from a BF?
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OsteoArthritis in my lower back. I fell a few years ago and herniated two discs, was laid up for a while, sciatic nerve issues, weight gain, etc. etc. Anyways, arthritis set in. So, I cannot stand, walk or sit in the same position for any length of time without being in considerable pain. I suffer from muscle tension related migraine headaches if I overdo it.
That is the point though,,,,having sex with your partner is not the same as work sex. Work sex is completely about pleasing the client, trying to read him, figure out what he likes and does not like. It is not about what we want or need. Personal sex is a mutual thing, there is the getting to know each other and what both like and want, the emotional connection and the passion. Coming home after a day of pleasing others might make us want the 'real thing' even more.
My accident has had lasting affect on my back, especially the lower back as well as other medical issues. I understand and sympathize with pain. I do.
However, there are jobs that you can get, things that you can do to improve your life, your health and over all daily living. I know because I have lived it. So hope it is not lost. You are not unemployable. I would not live with that type of defeatist attitude. It only limits you from getting you to where you should be in life.
So chin up and Good Luck to you.
Whether it is after a hard day at work, or on a day off the issue is the same. When that moment happens - as it does in all relationships when the guy wants to and she doesnt, it would take a very special kind of guy not to think "well if i was some idiot stranger giving her $200 id be getting laid- but as the love of her life - i get nuthin. "
You explain yourself very well btw, and show a lot of insight, as well as giving the rest of us insight into what "real life" as an SP migh be.
... Hmm- well I've said a lot already - without saying more than I should say... I've had a relationship with someone who knew what I did, accepted what I did, loved me and wanted a future with me. He wasn't concerned about the details of my work but knew enough to make an informed decision. As long as I was safe and happy he handled it. The majoity of the stress resulting from my job came from the lies we had to tell friends and family, (and even that wasn't all that stressful). I know there was no desire on his part to stray- (and no I'm not naive). As I've already said- we make our own decisions- and there's no finite right or wrong.
I know of SPs who have BFs or SO's that I see. I won't mention names though. One lately talked about her BF when we were discussing health food or natural herbal supplements. I gave her a recommendation. On other occassions, especially with my faves, I've given them cigars to pass on to their BFs, SOs or real daddies.
At the core of any SP is a woman who still wants to be loved, adored, and even cared for by a man that she finds appealing and cares for him. They deserve their loving and personal life away from 'the profession' too.
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Absolutely. SPs are first and foremost women.
The job can be very empowering, which may be a draw in the first place.
Ultimately, there is no doubt in my mind that SP-ing very much allows a woman to have her cake and eat it too.
The job can be very empowering, which may be a draw in the first place.
Ultimately, there is no doubt in my mind that SP-ing very much allows a woman to have her cake and eat it too.
They can say or feel that you're wrong, but that's only their POV. Basically, you are right with this statement you made - there's no right or wrong answer, even if the majority wouldn't agree with you.
What's right for someone, may be wrong for another.
Particularly when speaking of an Indy SP who can tailor her clientele to only nice guy regulars where the session comes natural (no pun intended).
However, as one SP said, sometimes it can be brutal working with some johns.
An SPs job description doesn't always give her the right to be selective or choose who's nice & attractive or rich. It's not always a bed of roses. Even if it's a regular, they may have to work harder to get him off if he's 'stubborn'. Then an SP can be tired and not feel as sexy as she could, but she has to work at being so to get the job done so to speak.
There are pluses and minuses with being an escort, with extremes involved no doubt due to the unique & risky nature of the job.
Many people work at jobs to make extra money while depriving their families or loved ones of their own company. Then again, she might cut off her work schedule to return home sooner because she'd rather be with you.
If she was the love of your life, you'll wait until she's well-rested, and then you can have amazing morning sex. Then there might be times where she wants you so badly after work, it's you who can't refuse her despite being tired.
Like any other relationship, it's about feeling special. Whether she bumps dirties with strangers for money is irrelevant as long as she makes her guy feel special and wanted.
The problem with being a relationship with an SP is that sex is an important and amazing part of an intimate personal relationship. But it can easily just be "work" for her. Thus, you end up being the one who supports her through all the grief and frustration or work and none of the "upside". That gets tired really quickly. Draining, even.
The problem with being a relationship with an SP is that sex is an important and amazing part of an intimate personal relationship. But it can easily just be "work" for her. Thus, you end up being the one who supports her through all the grief and frustration or work and none of the "upside". That gets tired really quickly. Draining, even.
..... well sir - with all due respect.... experience has taught me there truly isn't a finite answer so to call me out on being shallow is a weak argument. No matter what one's opinion is - it cant change my experience.
A map is more unreal than where you've been or how you feel it is ~ Feist (quote from one of my favourite songs)
We've argued this at length and yet there is still disagreement. Nobody is being solipsistic (whatever the fuck that means).
The right answer depends on the type of people involved. If you're traditional, conservative, religious perhaps, etc. etc., then it's a definite no. If you're liberal-minded, involved or close to the sex industry (BF ex-driver, MP owner, 'pimp', regular customer or longtime hobbyist, what have you), etc. etc., then the answer could be a big yes.
You think that all people should fit your mold, and that situations are either black and white. That's fine. Nobody is saying you should change your POV.
You are absolutely right. But very common in make female relationships is unequal sex drives. Just look at this community here for proof!!! In "regular " relationships the woman may be too tired for sex because of work, kids etc. But now imagine that work is fucking a bunch of other guys. For many guys, no matter how they accept her job, this wpuld be very hard tp compartmentalize, and not feel short changed. Im not saying it woild be impossible, but these guys are probably few and far between, especially judging by the number of guys who post here attached /married tonon sp women, whO are frustrated by inadequate sex lives.
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