Best BBBJ in Durham?

[FringeFleafish]

I guess it was something we all said.

That’s what I’m thinking

 

[BlueEyes87]

It's hard for me to say whose best, I haven't and can't really see every provider, ones I have seen on this list I had a great time like with Candi long ago. I loved her look and her technique worked well for me. I just saw Amber and she's just so sexy and intense she poured lube down her throat so she could take me deeper it was pretty hot.

I guess I just don't like to compare them or say one provider is better as if they don't all work hard, like I've never had a bad time with well-reviewed ladies.

 

[FringeFleafish]

It's hard for me to say whose best, I haven't and can't really see every provider, ones I have seen on this list I had a great time like with Candi long ago. I loved her look and her technique worked well for me. I just saw Amber and she's just so sexy and intense she poured lube down her throat so she could take me deeper it was pretty hot.

I guess I just don't like to compare them or say one provider is better as if they don't all work hard, like I've never had a bad time with well-reviewed ladies.

Agreed! I’ve had wonderful experiences in this hobby. If I’ve had a bad experience, I say so.For me, I exemplify the positive. But as the forum here implies, it’s reviews. My opinion may not reflect everyone’s! But I always follow one rule, if you haven’t anything nice to say, say nothing.

 

[Mulva]

I personally prefer bbj to cbj. Cbj isn't a dealbreaker for me but it does end up lower on the list.

When was the last time you had a girlfriend give you a covered blowjob? What about a hookup from a bar, club, strip club, or dating app? Probably never, unless you asked them to which I'm positive you wouldn't cause most women would typically prefer not to suck on latex for however long and most men won't turn down a bare blowjob.

In all realism, probably more likely to catch an STD from a girl you start dating or a hook up or fwb because most "normies" don't get tested frequently. Most of the general population have unprotected sex far more often than they don't because most don't even consider STDs when making that decision.

What the primary concern for most is pregnancy, not STDs. It's basically "Yeah, we can go raw because I'm on [enter contraceptive here]". How many other people have they gone raw with? Have they been tested within the last month - three months based on their sexual activity? You don't know. Hell, they can lie the same way unsafe providers can. Most normies don't even know that you can get chlamydia or the clap in your throat just put of pure lack of knowledge. So much of the general population is not knowledgable about sexual health and even talking about getting tested is perceived as taboo.

Personally, on a slight side tangent, I've been part of the open/poly/ENM community for a little over a year now and every single person I've met in that community is so knowledgable and safe when it comes to their sexual health. Talking about STDs and getting tested is normal and even expected. But for in monogamous relationships it's this massive elephant in the room. It means you've been promiscuous prior to meeting your current partner. Or it could mean you cheated on your current partner. Even when it comes to STDs chlamydia and the clap are the LEAST is your worries and can be fixed with what amounts to the snap of a finger. They're so common and so easy to treat. Nowhere near as scary as others.

At least with (reputable) providers who provide bbj you have a guarantee that they get routine testing every two weeks, minimum. And if they don't deepthroat, as others have mentioned, the chances of catching something are even less.

So get off your high horse about this nonsense because whatever you believe about getting a bbj from a (responsible and reputable) SP being more risky than any other normal woman in society is a complete and total fallacy. I'll take a bbj from a (reputable) SP any day of the week over some chick from a dating app, bar, or a mutual friend.

I really don’t understand this line of thinking that with so called “normies” you’re more likely to get an STD. It’s such a ridiculous, generalized statement. If you are actually out there dating “normies” and meeting women you’d know that most care about their health and don’t let guys they don’t know stick it in them raw or are sucking tones of dick.

Also, from a pure numbers standpoint, there’s no comparison between an SP who may have 5 plus guys in a day versus the most promiscuous woman who at a extreme level may have that many in a week.

Do you actually check the test results of “reputable providers” who supposedly get tested every two weeks? Not to mention, if they’re doing 5 a day 5 times a week, that’s 50 dicks in between tests.

 

[Jenesis]

I really don’t understand this line of thinking that with so called “normies” you’re more likely to get an STD. It’s such a ridiculous, generalized statement. If you are actually out there dating “normies” and meeting women you’d know that most care about their health and don’t let guys they don’t know stick it in them raw or are sucking tones of dick.

Also, from a pure numbers standpoint, there’s no comparison between an SP who may have 5 plus guys in a day versus the most promiscuous woman who at a extreme level may have that many in a week.

Do you actually check the test results of “reputable providers” who supposedly get tested every two weeks? Not to mention, if they’re doing 5 a day 5 times a week, that’s 50 dicks in between tests.

Where do you get 5 a day, 5 times a week? Just curious. Because a lot of SPs are not doing that.

I'm available 7 days a week right now. Doesn't mean I'm working all 7 days and doesn't mean I'm seeing 5 guys a day. I didn’t see any clients this weekend for example. I got asked but I decline for various reasons. I declined a TERB client last night because I was just too tired and didn’t feel up to it.

I also know that my friends, they are doing it raw. Without tests. I think it is stupid and irresponsible. Now I am not going to say that all civies are like this though. If I was having sex in my civie life, it would be the same. I would never fuck a man raw. Period. Ever. Because I know how easily men step out of the relationship - I would never risk it. One of the reasons I would make a horrible GF. We can be to together 5 years and you are still wrapping it up.

You come down on him for generalizations on civies yet do the same with SPs. How is that right?

Point is - there are plenty who do and don't take their sexual health seriously. On both sides. It is up to you to weigh the risk and be responsible for yourself. No one else is responsible for your sexual health other then you.

 

[boomboom]

There have been some great posts & some WTF posts
The best BBBJ is subjective to each person's experience in many ways. How you feel that day, location, chemistry, does the lady truly turn you on, is she truly into it, your age, etc. Safe to say, no one has seen every lady in Durham or any location... only based on what a small sample size. But most importantly IMHO, over what time period, 6 months, 12 months, 3-5 years, life time.
I've had some best ever lots of time, but some fade from memory. Same for top 3 or top 5 or top 10 SP of all time. Subjective to the same as above.
There are SP who see only a few clients a week or day, but some do have an assembly line type program & see 5 or more a day for several days, then take a break. Thats where research comes in. Years ago, when newer to this, I only wanted to see a SP if I was her 1st visit of the day. Sometimes before 9 or noon depending on her schedule or mine. Then as I got more experienced & found trusted reviews or SPs, things opened up.
There are lots of great SPs out there & more below average or bad SP. Just like clients, some great, below average or bad clients.
Do your research, just like many SPs do their own screening or set out guidelines on how to connect with them. Be respectful, friendly, polite have good hygiene & normally good things will happen.

 

[SweetCandi_DR]

I just love the holier than thou replies Let’s not forget without men/women looking to buy “sexual favours” us horrible “std filled” service providers would be out of business. Let that sink in If the “normies” are so much safer @Mulva stick to seeing them. Wishimg eveykne a great week 🫶

 

[Mulva]

I just love the holier than thou replies Let’s not forget without men/women looking to buy “sexual favours” us horible “std filled” service providers would be out of business. Let that sink in If the “normies” are so much safer @Mulva stick to seeing them. Wishimg eveykne a great week 🫶

Little defensive eh. I happily partake in BBBJ occasionally with SP’s. All I’m saying is I think it’s a ridiculous and far too generalized statement to suggest one is more likely to get an STD from a so called “normie.”

 

[SweetCandi_DR]

Little defensive eh. I happily partake in BBBJ occasionally with SP’s. All I’m saying is I think it’s a ridiculous and far too generalized statement to suggest one is more likely to get an STD from a so called “normie.”

False. I know of females who’ve never worked a day in their lives as a sp n theyve had more std’s than one can prob count lol

 

[Mulva]

Where do you get 5 a day, 5 times a week? Just curious. Because a lot of SPs are not doing that.

I'm available 7 days a week right now. Doesn't mean I'm working all 7 days and doesn't mean I'm seeing 5 guys a day. I didn’t see any clients this weekend for example. I got asked but I decline for various reasons. I declined a TERB client last night because I was just too tired and didn’t feel up to it.

I also know that my friends, they are doing it raw. Without tests. I think it is stupid and irresponsible. Now I am not going to say that all civies are like this though. If I was having sex in my civie life, it would be the same. I would never fuck a man raw. Period. Ever. Because I know how easily men step out of the relationship - I would never risk it. One of the reasons I would make a horrible GF. We can be to together 5 years and you are still wrapping it up.

You come down on him for generalizations on civies yet do the same with SPs. How is that right?

Point is - there are plenty who do and don't take their sexual health seriously. On both sides. It is up to you to weigh the risk and be responsible for yourself. No one else is responsible for your sexual health other then you.

I did say “may” when it comes to an SP’a clients per day.

Also, I was attempting to simply make a point regarding numbers that SP’s see more guys than a so called “normie.” The statement's that one is more likely to catch an ST0 from a normie is ridiculous.

I am not judging as it appears yourself and Candi are getting a little defensive.

 

[Mulva]

False. I know of females who’ve never worked a day in their lives as a sp n theyve had more std’s than one can prob count lol

Fair enough. I didn’t know females were that forthcoming with sharing such intimate details with their friends lol.

 

[FringeFleafish]

False. I know of females who’ve never worked a day in their lives as a sp n theyve had more std’s than one can prob count lol

I’ve got to agree there. I lost count of all the people I know, friends and family who have contracted STD’s and they are not providers, as far as I know.

 

[SweetCandi_DR]

Fair enough. I didn’t know females were that forthcoming with sharing such intimate details with their friends lol.

I never said friends

 

[SweetCandi_DR]

I did say “may” when it comes to an SP’a clients per day.

Also, I was attempting to simply make a point regarding numbers that SP’s see more guys than a so called “normie.” The statement's that one is more likely to catch an ST0 from a normie is ridiculous.

I am not judging as it appears yourself and Candi are getting a little defensive.

Not defensive. I’m just passionate about what I do and other women like myself.

 

[Jenesis]

Not defensive. I’m just passionate about what I do and other women like myself.

Exactly. It is true that most reputable escorts are testing themselves. This is their livelihood and they can't afford to fuck it up with STIs. So there is usually extra caution taken over civies who either don't get tested or do so yearly or more.

I have had friends who have had herpes who go out have raw sex without telling the person. It is one of the reasons we are not fiends anymore. I couldn't stand to watch that.


I also know that more hobbists are careful as well because they don’t want to get busted by bringing something home to their partner and having to explain where they got it from.

 

[RebelinBed]

Thank you @Jenesis & @SweetCandi_DR for backing up my response. But to clarify, yes when I said "normies" I also wasn't just talking about women. I mean everyone in general. Nowz that isn't to say that 90% of the population is careless when it comes to their sexual health. If I were to hazard a guess I would say it's probably closer to 60/40 or 70/30 of people who are careless vs people who aren't.

As I mentioned those in the non-monogamous community as well as sex work are all usually pretty good about it because due to the nature of our lifestyles, we have to be for us to be responsible.

However, I can confidently say that I've only gotten an STI once from this hobby. Any other time I've gotten one has been from a normie/civi (whatever you wanna call them).