Bed Size for Nanny

[The Oracle]

I don't know much about this nanny setup thing but why would you have a fridge in her bedroom? Isn't the deal that she uses your home just like a member of the family? As for the bed I think I'd want her as comfortable as possible afterall your kids wellbeing are going to be in her hands.

Oh and also make sure she is as ugly as possble. This will reassure your wife that you are not having nasty thoughts. I'm assuming that if you are hobbying that things are not great at home so her antennae are probably up already.

 

[RTRD]

ummm....

Did it ever occur to you that a "decent sized apartment" could be contained within the 4 walls of the home?

DOH

a 10 x 13 is an average sized ROOM, without run of the house, where's she supposed to cook? Watch TV? Fold her laundry? Eat dinner?

...no. Because I am not in the habit of inventing shit out of thin air.

If there were an "in law" apartment, surely that is what he would have made available.

If there isn't, then my guess would be that having a room to sleep in, like everyone in the house is what she will be provided, and she will have access to the laundry and cooking facilities. It makes sense to me that she would watch TV in her own room...she will want some privacy and separation after spending an entire day with the people she works for.

That is what makes sense to me, in the absence of "Tboy" logic. But then, I've had both a home with an "in-law" apartment, and a nanny, so what the fuck would *I* know in comparison to expert-on-all-topics-until-he-is-again-shown-what-an-ass-he-is you...

 

[RTRD]

Two reasons...

I don't know much about this nanny setup thing but why would you have a fridge in her bedroom? Isn't the deal that she uses your home just like a member of the family? As for the bed I think I'd want her as comfortable as possible afterall your kids wellbeing are going to be in her hands.

One...because providing food may not be part of the compensation package. It is perfectly reasonable they she be expected to provide for herself if she is being compensated appropriately.

Two...food is one of those things where privacy and separation of lives often comes into play. How often have you gone into your fridge looking to grab something that wasn't there because it had been taken / eaten by someone else? Now - imagine if that person were someone who was not your child or your SO? Also, sometimes people like to keep their food wholly apart and separated in an environment where they have domain because of their own concerns about sanitation, communication of illness, etc. Roommates often keep a "dorm" fridge in their rooms for both of these reasons.

My guess...based on the information provided, is that she is being provided a room and access to facilities, but she is expected (and probably wants) to lead a life as separate as possible when off the clock. Hence her own space, bed, food (and ability to store same).

 

[skypilot]

I have an extra pair of shackles you can borrow.

 

[tboy]

...no. Because I am not in the habit of inventing shit out of thin air.

If there were an "in law" apartment, surely that is what he would have made available.

If there isn't, then my guess would be that having a room to sleep in, like everyone in the house is what she will be provided, and she will have access to the laundry and cooking facilities. It makes sense to me that she would watch TV in her own room...she will want some privacy and separation after spending an entire day with the people she works for.

That is what makes sense to me, int he absence of "Tboy" logic. But then, I've had both a home with an "in-law" apartment, and a nanny, so what the fuck would *I* know in comparison to expert-on-all-topics-until-he-is-again-shown-what-an-ass-he-is you...

You really are an idiot aren't you?

If you go back to my original post you'd see where I asked the question if she would have "run of the house" which means access to cooking facilities. The reason I asked this is because the OP mentioned something about a mini bar fridge in her "room".

One...because providing food may not be part of the compensation package. It is perfectly reasonable they she be expected to provide for herself if she is being compensated appropriately.

Two...food is one of those things where privacy and separation of lives often comes into play. How often have you gone into your fridge looking to grab something that wasn't there because it had been taken / eaten by someone else? Now - imagine if that person were someone who was not your child or your SO? Also, sometimes people like to keep their food wholly apart and separated in an environment where they have domain because of their own concerns about sanitation, communication of illness, etc. Roommates often keep a "dorm" fridge in their rooms for both of these reasons.

My guess...based on the information provided, is that she is being provided a room and access to facilities, but she is expected (and probably wants) to lead a life as separate as possible when off the clock. Hence her own space, bed, food (and ability to store same).

You make a lot of assumptions there, and you know what happens when you do that? You make an ASS out of U.

I mean how dense are you? Communication of illness via FOOD? You think that maybe sharing the same toilet, sink, faucets, cutlery, etc would be more of a bio hazard than FOOD?

So what is it, she should have a separate life or not?

This is where (for all the reasons you stated) a decent sized bachelor apartment would be a much better option that a single small room to stuff it all into.

You just proved that you are, have been and always will be a fucktard of the highest magnitude. I knew it was a mistake thinking you could act like a mature adult.......you're going back on ignore.

Fuck you very much

 

[smylee52]

Only on TERB can a man ask a question about how to make his nanny's life a little more comfortable and TBOY turns in into an oppressive, exploitive and criminal activity . It's times like these that I am reminded of how much negativity people suffer with in their lives and look for opportunities to spread that negativity to others .

The simplest question can be asked but if you live in a world where the glass is always half empty then you will find ways to drag others into your world.

Dancebabe gave an opinion of someone who's glass seems half full . If we start this thread over and took out the negativity it would be much smaller , more helpful and much more pleasant .

2009 is coming . Is your glass going to be half full ? The choice is yours.

 

[RTRD]

LOL!!! Gawd I miss you making an ass of yourself....

You really are an idiot aren't you?

No...but I see you are back to your raging child ways.

If you go back to my original post you'd see where I asked the question if she would have "run of the house" which means access to cooking facilities. The reason I asked this is because the OP mentioned something about a mini bar fridge in her "room".

I didn't miss that at all. What is your point? That I was supposed to use "T-boy" logic to discern everything you didn't say but meant?

You make a lot of assumptions there, and you know what happens when you do that? You make an ASS out of U.

No, what I did was a combination of deductive reasoning, and educated guesses based on experience. That is, experience having had a nanny and having owned a home with an in-law suite. Now, I know "deductive reasoning" certainly wouldn't be a strength of yours, nor would you let a thing like actually having experience with or knowing what the fuck you are talking about regarding the topic at hand stop you from talking out of your ass, but not all of us are like you.

I mean how dense are you? Communication of illness via FOOD? You think that maybe sharing the same toilet, sink, faucets, cutlery, etc would be more of a bio hazard than FOOD?

So...did I SAY that this would actually happen, or did I speculate that this might be the thought process, given that some people indeed feel this way?

That said...which are you more likely to do...use a toilet that has been used before by someone else...use a sink or faucet that has been used before by someone else...use cutlery that has presumably been washed...or eat food that you are uncertain about how its been treated or if anyone else has in any way harmed or tainted? Because one set of things are common (and very frequently necessary) practices, while most of us sane and normal people tend not to go raiding food stores (and that doesn't mean "markets"...get a dictionary) that we are familiar with.

And when you are answering that question, try not to use "T-boy" logic, huh? Then again, you probably are one of type of guys who would raid everyone else's lunch in the office out of the break room fridge...

So what is it, she should have a separate life or not?

I don't know...I am neither the OP / employer, nor the nanny in question. I was just offering an INFORMED opinion, versus that talking out of your ass that you were doing.

This is where (for all the reasons you stated) a decent sized bachelor apartment would be a much better option that a single small room to stuff it all into.

Which would defeat the purpose of having a live in nanny, now wouldn't it? But I guess in the "T-boy" universe a live in nanny can indeed live somewhere else.

You just proved that you are, have been and always will be a fucktard of the highest magnitude. I knew it was a mistake thinking you could act like a mature adult.......you're going back on ignore.

Fuck you very much

LOL...you have no idea how funny this is. Spoken like an unbalanced, angst filled, sexual frustrated, immature, angry teen. Which is pretty pathetic when you consider that save for the teen part, all of the above probably applies in spades for you.

I'll miss you though...and that head spinning act of yours

 

[tboy]

Umm smylee? Go back and read the original post. The op wasn't asking anything about how to make his nanny's life more compfortable, he was asking what kind of bed to buy.

I simply asked whether or not this was her 'apartment' or would she have run of the house. If you think (in Canada) living in a 10 x 13 room with everything the OP wants to put in there is being positive, then you're whacked too.

Talk about thinking "negatively", YOU took my post as automaticlly being negative when in fact, I was being POSITIVE towards the nanny by suggesting a full apartment as opposed to a small single room.

So, I ask YOU: 2009 is coming is YOUR glass going to be half full and look at everything negatively?

 

[RTRD]

Didn't you hear?

Only on TERB can a man ask a question about how to make his nanny's life a little more comfortable and TBOY turns in into an oppressive, exploitive and criminal activity . It's times like these that I am reminded of how much negativity people suffer with in their lives and look for opportunities to spread that negativity to others .

Having a live in nanny, paying her what I presume is a fair wage, and providing her with her own room and bed is a violation the Geneva convention on the fair and ethical treatment of human beings....

What he was SUPPOSED to do is build an addition on to his house, with a full 5 appliance set up, so that the nanny would live better than his kids, who have to get by with their own room and sharing the house facilities with everyone else.

Question....just for grins...have just ONE of you know it all naysayers actually had a nanny before?

 

[james t kirk]

Oh here we go...

The guy asks a simple question (Double by the way) and first thing you know, tboy and Mlam are squaring off.

 

[a 1 player]

Question....just for grins...have just ONE of you know it all naysayers actually had a nanny before?

Yes, I had a nanny for about 6 months.

She had her own room, with a fridge, tv, and anything else she could need, but she also had a free run of the house. The rules were set, at 6:00 pm she was done for the day. She did not have to cook, clean, look after kids or anything else at that time. Sometimes she would hang with us, sometimes she would go out, and sometimes she would go to her room. We provided food for her meals and cooked dinner for her. If she did not like our menu, she was free to buy and cook for herself.

I talked to her many times about her accommodations and her needs, and she said that everything was fine on her end.

 

[james t kirk]

I've had my share of Czech nanny-shagging. One of them was even engaged overseas. Go for the hot young Czech girl! Not the elderly Philippino.

I like the idea of a young hot Czech girl...


http://czech-girls.biz/


However, what were her nanny skills like?

Or was it a secondary concern as opposed to her BBBJ skills.

 

[RTRD]

I triple checked...

Yes, I had a nanny for about 6 months.

She had her own room, with a fridge, tv, and anything else she could need, but she also had a free run of the house. The rules were set, at 6:00 pm she was done for the day. She did not have to cook, clean, look after kids or anything else at that time. Sometimes she would hang with us, sometimes she would go out, and sometimes she would go to her room. We provided food for her meals and cooked dinner for her. If she did not like our menu, she was free to buy and cook for herself.

I talked to her many times about her accommodations and her needs, and she said that everything was fine on her end.

1) You weren't on the list of documented naysayers

2) The OP didn't say she couldn't go and come as she pleased (have free run of the house) ...he just asked what size bed to give the woman.

What you have described is pretty much the standard set up, and pretty much what I assumed the OP was going for. He just asked about the size of the bed, and some people (especially one in particular who CLEARLY didn't know what the fuck he was talking about) accused the man of making the woman a prisoner.

 

[a 1 player]

oh, and the bed was a double.

 

[tboy]

Oh here we go...

The guy asks a simple question (Double by the way) and first thing you know, tboy and Mlam are squaring off.

Yeah, my bad....I took the 'tard off ignore thinking he could be civil......

 

[tboy]

Yes, I had a nanny for about 6 months.

She had her own room, with a fridge, tv, and anything else she could need, but she also had a free run of the house. The rules were set, at 6:00 pm she was done for the day. She did not have to cook, clean, look after kids or anything else at that time. Sometimes she would hang with us, sometimes she would go out, and sometimes she would go to her room. We provided food for her meals and cooked dinner for her. If she did not like our menu, she was free to buy and cook for herself.

I talked to her many times about her accommodations and her needs, and she said that everything was fine on her end.

Exactly what I was asking clarification for. If the above is the case then a 10 x 13 bedroom is fine but if she's expected to LIVE in there? That's wrong on so many levels......

 

[hickorysticks]

Yes, I had a nanny for about 6 months.

She had her own room, with a fridge, tv, and anything else she could need, but she also had a free run of the house. The rules were set, at 6:00 pm she was done for the day. She did not have to cook, clean, look after kids or anything else at that time. Sometimes she would hang with us, sometimes she would go out, and sometimes she would go to her room. We provided food for her meals and cooked dinner for her. If she did not like our menu, she was free to buy and cook for herself.

I talked to her many times about her accommodations and her needs, and she said that everything was fine on her end.

I was a nanny during my first year of uni with a similar set-up as the one you described, save for a few execptions because of class/exam conflicts. I would sometimes make up job time in the evenings/weekends.

Can't recall what size bed I had, only that it was comfortable...

 

[wetnose]

I get getting a nanny and she will be staying in the basement, decent size room, 10 x 13. Space is a concern as there will be a desk, chair, drawers and a small bar fridge. My dilemma is whether I should get her a twin (39 inches wide) or double (54 inches), both 75 inches in length. I have a king size in the master with my wife and it has been a while since I slept in either a twin or double size bed so I need some advice. I know the twin will do but the double will be more comfy and the concern is not the cost of the bed but rather overall space issue in the room. Any suggestion?

And no , I do not plan on sleeping with her! I hobby instead!

Sigh, just ask her. Problem solved.

 

[Nofah Kingway]

Wow, a simple question, didn't expect this to turn into WW3...

I feel the urge to clarify a few things so others do not think that I am an asshole, though many think so at work and at home, just ask my wife from time to time.

We have a 2 storey, 2,500 sf home, the basement is partially finished with a 10 x 13 room and an adjacent 3 piece bath, all available to her use, and only her use, the rest of the space is not unfinished, storage area basically.

She will have complete access to the main floor kitchen for all her meals, including late night snacks if she feels like it, however, I will put a small fridge (the ones from university) and a microwave if case if she just wants something to drink at night, or some instant noodle or frozen TV dinner (or whatever) if she does not feel like coming upstairs in her PJ or disturb our privacy afterhours. I do plan on having meals with her (if she wants to) and will provide food for all meals, but if she wants perrier everyday, well that's on her own account.

I was leaning towards the double of course it is more comfortable for an adult (although she is from Phillipines and is about 95 pounds!) but will be a wee bit tight in the room given other furnishings, but having heard from all, I think I will still go with a double bed.

So, who's go to do at Mirage? I have tried Peyton, Candy and Kareena, who should I do next?

 

[toughb]

Yep...

Oh here we go...

The guy asks a simple question (Double by the way) and first thing you know, tboy and Mlam are squaring off.

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Another twiddle dumb and twiddle dumber set of posts.