Bdsm slave

[Damnthatsnice]

Looking for a provider who is into bondage and bdsm, i love being in control, spankng, rough sex, etc but i am having a hard time finding provider who can fufill this.


Any info would be appericated

 

[themooser]

Good luck with that

 

[Nesbot]

I’m not in to being rough with ladies, but You’re better off trying fetlife. Meeting another person who is looking for that.

 

[asuran]

Not what I'm into but I've read some things about it.
Depending on how rough or hard, trust and safety plays a big role since the 'sub' is at her most vulnerable (physically and mentally).

If you must, maybe suggest to your provider she can have a friend/bodyguard there to keep watch, for safety and all. That might ease some hesitancy.
The "dungeon monitor" (just found out about this term while googling around) "is a person charged with supervising a playspace (or "dungeon") at BDSM events such as play parties and fetish clubs." - wikipedia

Your best bet is to maybe look for like-minded people https://terb.cc/xenforo/forums/toronto-›-bdsm-reviews.41/
Maybe they've heard or know of events/people in Ottawa. If not, you might need to go to Toronto or Montreal for these type of play.

Hope you find what you are looking for.

 

[blacklabdog]

you are having trouble as its just not safe for the provider especially if in any type of restraint with a complete stranger. The providers who do dabble as a sub only do so w/trusted clients

 

[gibarian]

A safe word is all that is required

Not true at all. Good BDSM practice also includes things like discussion/negotiation of soft and hard limits beforehand, safety precautions/equipment, aftercare procedures, etc. Some of that does depend on what kind of specific activities you're exploring, but you still oversimplified the factors (sometimes a safe word isn't even physically possible to use! like if you're playing with gags).

The tone of this thread is so cavalier and casual that I'm not surprised the OP has had a hard time finding willing partners. As others have indicated, the best way to explore this is to gradually/patiently include it with someone you see regularly and have developed trust with. Very few providers are going to be interested in getting restrained/hurt by a complete stranger.

 

[NotADcotor]

All I know is that FLÜGGÅӘNKб€ČHIŒßØLĮÊN is not a good safe word as anyone who has seen the movie Eurotrip knows.

 

[TimeOutCalled]

Looking for a provider who is into bondage and bdsm, i love being in control, spankng, rough sex, etc but i am having a hard time finding provider who can fufill this.


Any info would be appericated

Find a regular. Visit a few times. Build up some trust. Then ask. I don't think any SP is going to let a new client put her in a vulnerable position.

 

[JuanGoodman]

Maybe Tina is the girl you are looking for?

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/%F0%9F%92%99sm-g-r-e-e-k%E2%9D%A4%EF%B8%8Fnew-face-tina%E2%9D%A4%EF%B8%8Fg-r-e-e-k-24hrs-%E2%9D%A4%EF%B8%8Fsm-queen-hot-kinky-sweet-fiest%F0%9F%92%99.725617/

 

[Lickylick]

Once again, it seems like my comments were taken out of context, or trivialized (seems like certain individuals like to flex a bit on here). I thought that it would have been obvious that all of the precautions would have been discussed beforehand. The "safe word" is used after all of the details have been discussed. I can't imagine a situation where two parties just start doing a bdsm session, without doing the obvious discussion beforehand. The safe word was more for me, as I was the one more uncomfortable with the events, so by having the safe word, I was reassured that I was still doing what the partner wanted. I still don't quite understand the whole turn-on, but as a caring partner, I was willing to play the role. I did mention that my partners in the bdsm events were not SPs, rather people that were trusting enough that wished my presence.

It's very common on this board, and seems to be ignored when it is done by certain individuals.

 

[withpassion]

G-Unit

Hiw dare you not document every detail!

You likely thought it to be egotistical gibberish, but not true!

Also, you must always include the most important aspect:

WASH YOUR HANDS

 

[Malika Fantasy]

You may want to use another term than bdsm slave, compare to a provider that does offer fetishes or pro-sub, a slave in the context of bdsm takes a lot of trusts, is normally a long term committed relationship, not just an hour or few with a providers.
There is Carmela Grande that is currently touring Ottawa till tomorrow (Saturday) I believe that does offer this service, except for that there is no one at the top of my head that does right now.

As some others members stated in previous comments, if you find someone, Id suggest off the bat that you do a duo with a friend of the provider, who either is more vanilla or act as a co-top with you. Its safer for the SP and more easy to be put in a submissive position.

And yes fetlife and when things get more back to normal, attend munches, play parties, get know to be someone that can be trust, that take workshops and the like . Im in bdsm in my personal life and did for a really really brief time offer pro sub and most men have absolutely no ideas what they are doing pass rough sex and hand spanking

 

[Theredmilf]

I noticed April Rose advertises a nice list of submissive activities and also offers Dom training which could be hugely useful and perhaps give you a little credibility if she can offer you a reference after: https://www.lavieenaprilrose.com/spice

I think you’ll get a lot further inquiring about a submissive services or play rather mentioning the word “slave” or asking “what she’s into.”

I suspect many are excited by playing submissive in their private lives but may be less interested with clients due to boundary-crossing and the possibility of attracting predators. But I’m sure we all have special clients for whom rules are meant to be broken

 

[Repot]

I think there is some misconceptions about bdsm. It is usually the ladies that are requesting the fetish. In fact, I have never allowed myself to go as far into the role as any of the women have wanted me to. A safe word is all that is required, and 3 women that I have explored this fetish with (at their request) have never used the safe word. By the way, they are not SPs, so no need to request a link or anything.

My experience has been the same. Over the years I've been with a number of women who enjoyed bdsm. They've never had to coax me to be more dominant but definately more intensity than I'm comfortable with at first. As other posters have pointed out once you've spent time establishing a relationship you get to learn peoples desires and limits. My current squeeze and I have been playing around for about a year and we're still working on the limits of what makes us happy. It takes time.

 

[kurtveselic11]

Hi, first of all, I would like to know what you like and what prohibitions you have. The most important thing here is to designate everything you like initially and that you categorically do not accept. At the beginning of my journey, I was looking for myself and my boundaries through communication with the same beginners and more experienced people on https://www.bdsmchat.co. It helped me learn as much as possible about this area and find people with whom I am comfortable and interested in communicating. So I advise you to try my way of studying this topic

 

[NotADcotor]

It would require a lot of trust that I can't see anyone risking in a paid environment, but that's just me.

I remember one girl complaining because a guy who hired her for impact play got a bit to rough. I mean honey, the guy gets off on punching women. I am not saying that a guy with kink can't control himself, but you are taking a huge risk catering to people who get off on inflicting pain and dominance.
Again, it can be done in a safe, sane and consensual manner, but don't be suprised if he turns out to like his pain to be a bit more severe and real.