Balancing a crush on an SP

[Mangoman0052]

Laugh all you want.
I’ve gotten myself in a situation where I genuinely really like a certain SP that I see frequently. We text almost everyday talking about our days, etc.
I’m always thinking about her and not sex with her, honestly - her as a person and how she communicates and the down time we have spent together.

Has anyone else battled this as well?

 

[Sunday90]

Be upfront with her on your feelings and see if it's reciprocated. Get it over with quick, dont let it drag on

 

[Mangoman0052]

Be upfront with her on your feelings and see if it's reciprocated. Get it over with quick, dont let it drag on

I have been open with her and it’s well received.
But the only time we see eachother is when I book sessions.
And as genuine as our sessions and conversations are, this is her job. You never TRULY know if it’s the SP or the person you’re getting.
lmao I think I’m in a pickle.

 

[Shaquille Oatmeal]

Yes.
Then I thought about what I really knew about her.
Like has she trusted me with anything that is remotely personal to her?
Her name, birthday, anything at all?
I realized this wasn't the case and I simply knew her by her work name and nothing else.
So I let it go.
If you are in a similar position where you dont know anything about her, then this is likely just from your end and you need to reel it in or end it with her.
Its just small talk.

 

[Sunday90]

I have been open with her and it’s well received.
But the only time we see eachother is when I book sessions.
And as genuine as our sessions and conversations are, this is her job. You never TRULY know if it’s the SP or the person you’re getting.
lmao I think I’m in a pickle.

Ask if she's willing to go for coffee. If she says u need to pay per hr, then u know.

I had something similar and looking back, should have been upfront early to be clear that this is a business transaction and she's not looking for anything more.

 

[that6969]

You're being played. Can you not read the signs? If you both are that into each other then ask her out on a legit date without paying for her time. If she beats around the bush you know your answer. Personally you're wasting time. Learn to be straight to the point with people you're into like that. All that texting means meh usually.

 

[Mangoman0052]

Yes.
Then I thought about what I really knew about her.
Like has she trusted me with anything that is remotely personal to her?
Her name, birthday, anything at all?
I realized this wasn't the case and I simply knew her by her work name and nothing else.
So I let it go.
If you are in a similar position where you dont know anything about her, then this is likely just from your end and you need to reel it in or end it with her.

Noted.
See I’m somewhere in the middle.
I’ve asked her to let me take her out and she said she’s open to it, but it’s a bit premature, as she usually never would see a client out of a session.
I respect that input, but it’s gotten to the point where I usually only see her now. I’d rather not waste the money on someone else because I want to see her only. But then the chasing of the crush becomes so expensive and is that genuine.
I know the answers lol but it’s just muddy.

More so venting and wondering if other guys have caught themselves in the same shit.

 

[wildestdream]

Laugh all you want.
I’ve gotten myself in a situation where I genuinely really like a certain SP that I see frequently. We text almost everyday talking about our days, etc.
I’m always thinking about her and not sex with her, honestly - her as a person and how she communicates and the down time we have spent together.

Has anyone else battled this as well?

Yes.

I’m sure this kind of situation happens more often than not - we’re all human after all. But every situation is likely unique, so what has applied to others might not apply to you.

My only piece of advice is to use your heart and mind in equal measure and know that there could be both significant risk and reward in your path going forward.

Best of luck!

 

[Sunday90]

Noted.
See I’m somewhere in the middle.
I’ve asked her to let me take her out and she said she’s open to it, but it’s a bit premature, as she usually never would see a client out of a session.
I respect that input, but it’s gotten to the point where I usually only see her now. I’d rather not waste the money on someone else because I want to see her only. But then the chasing of the crush becomes so expensive and is that genuine.
I know the answers lol but it’s just muddy.

More so venting and wondering if other guys have caught themselves in the same shit.

From her perspective, she doesn't want to lose an easy cash flow stream. But u gotta be upfront with her otherwise this will affect your personal and work life. Do it for your sanity. Then if she confirms this is just a business transaction, take a break from her and see others.

 

[that6969]

If she's not into you like that and you still have feelings and not sure if you wanna keep seeing her as a SP then ghost her and move on. Or don't text her often.

 

[Mangoman0052]

The most lame thing I’ll say is I don’t even think about other guys fucking her. I genuinely think about it she has that same chemistry with other guys. Big thing is I love her laugh and am able to make her laugh a lot and that’s what I think about lmao. It sounds ridiculous, but fuck, it’s honest.

Usually with SPs I have a good time with, I think it’s hot thinking about someone else fucking them. This one is different.

 

[Shaquille Oatmeal]

Noted.
See I’m somewhere in the middle.
I’ve asked her to let me take her out and she said she’s open to it, but it’s a bit premature, as she usually never would see a client out of a session.
I respect that input, but it’s gotten to the point where I usually only see her now. I’d rather not waste the money on someone else because I want to see her only. But then the chasing of the crush becomes so expensive and is that genuine.
I know the answers lol but it’s just muddy.

More so venting and wondering if other guys have caught themselves in the same shit.

She could be stringing you along.
I bet if you put your foot down and ask her to choose, she will choose not to go out or accuse you of being aggressive lol.
Anyway I am sure you know this already, but usually if the move comes from the provider, it is a green light.
But if it comes from the client as in this case....

 

[Sunday90]

If she's not into you like that and you still have feelings and not sure if you wanna keep seeing her as a SP then ghost her and move on. Or don't text her often.

Ditto. I understand where this OP is coming from. Same experience, I could have bought her out of this "job" but she rather be a whore and have access to easy cash. Go figure.the worse thing was not wasting my $$ but wasting my precious time.

 

[wildestdream]

To a certain extent, y’all are presuming the SP is not into the OP (or at least not to the extent required for it to be something sustainable) but there could be a lot of shades of grey instead of a black and white situation.

And who would know how the shades vary with the passing of time and further experience?

 

[that6969]

You're gonna have issues in the online dating world if that's how you are. I've chatted and texted when in the online dating world and great vibes and connections but afterwards I cut to the chase like to meet up for a drink or meal. Some chicks just dig the attention or beat around the bush. I don't waste time with chicks like that who can't make up their minds especially just to meet for a simple date. I prefer a chick who's got some confidence.

 

[gengarlol]

Kinda wish I never find myself in this situation lol

 

[Mangoman0052]

I think I just need to take our arrangement from what it is and be a regular that genuinely loves her company and conversation.

I think anything else I’m setting myself up for a massive letdown. Sometimes we just have our head in the clouds.

 

[jsanchez]

She could be stringing you along.
I bet if you put your foot down and ask her to choose, she will choose not to go out or accuse you of being aggressive lol.
Anyway I am sure you know this already, but usually if the move comes from the provider, it is a green light...

Even if the provider makes the move, nothing but trouble ahead. How many threads have we seen on here discussing the same topic
by sex-starved fools who get their dick wet and think they're in love. OP is setting himself up.

 

[Mangoman0052]

Even if the provider makes the move, nothing but trouble ahead. How many threads have we seen on here discussing the same topic
by sex-starved fools who get their dick wet and think they're in love. OP is setting himself up.

I have plenty of sex lol too much really. Personal life and hobbying.
With her it’s more than sex. We either have amazing chemistry or she’s one hell of an actress.

 

[that6969]

Personally if you've been texting often for days or weeks and she was that into you even as a friend or so she'd ask to meet you other times. If that hasn't happened it's usually a sign someone isn't much into you that way. There is a small chance if she's super shy or wants you to make the first move. I personally would just straight ask or not. It happens in the online dating world too which I've learned from experience. Now after a few days of texting and vibing I cut to the chase and not in terms of just getting into their pants of course. If they aren't willing to meet up they'll either tell ya or ghost ya. Sometimes people get caught up and are nice and enjoy the convo but that's all it ends up being. It's a time waster if you actually wanna date someone or just be friends or something.