"I pamper a lot more than I get it back in general because our job is what it is. It's about you."
i don't doubt you at all on this one. But I really don't understand why it should be "about you." These encounters involve two people (generally) and each should account for each other's pleasure and consideration. And believe me, this is not some points-gathering noble white-knight sentiment. It's how the world goes round and round, and how your mind will (and should be) blown when hers is too. As is said: the feeling's mutual. Namaste.
Well you see money can be exchanged for goods and services.
If it's going to be mutual then nobody would be paying anyone. If I pay someone to do any sort of job, I want it done my way and if that isn't what they do then, fine we won't do business. If I want to buy some Shubbary and I am paying for it, I should get to decide what sort to get. If the Shubber let's call him Denis, has a problem with that, well he can find another client. However I think most people would think it weird to suggest I should bend of my Shubbary needs if I am the one paying for the service. It really is white knight thinking. Double plus so considering we are paying 250+ an hour. If you have a problem with making it about yourself... muh dude.
I really shouldn't have to point this out but people are kinda special needs, this does not imply that a provider [sexual or otherwise] is compelled to offer any service, only that it is reasonable that if I am paying for it, to expect my needs to be catered to and within the limits of said provider to make it my focus.
If I want to go to Elbonia and my travel agent wants me to go to the Grand Duchy of Fenwick, don't care. If my agent can't do it, I'll find someone who can.