Men CAN have it both ways so not to worry. Get married, have your kids and then when you are close middle age, you will see things a bit differently.
freshbreath said:I'm in my late twenties and at this moment I would think that I would not cheat on her, because she ideally would provide me with everything I go to SPs for anyway
but perhaps I'm just being too naive
If u just want to pass your genes then have a common law & have kids through her, with no strings attached. its legal in many provinces of North America, if she becomes even 500 lbs with no strings attached u are not at any risk at allrevolution said:Being 21 years old, marriage is definately not the first thing on my mind, but I keep thinking to myself... do I want to get married, do I want to have kids?
Married men tend to live happier lives than their single counterparts, and they also tend to live longer... but being with only one woman for the rest of my life is a scary thought. What if she decides she doesn't want to keep in shape after we get married, and then lets herself go becoming a 400 pound manatee? That would suck, and the process of getting a divorce is costly, time consuming and extremely stressful. The sex would only last about 20-25 years or so before she goes through menopause and then she'll never be interested in sex again.
And what about kids? If you have kids early on in the marriage your sex life will be non-existant, you'll be stressed out, you'll have a huge financial burden etc. etc.... but then I think to myself how can I not pass on my genes to the next generation? I have great genes, the world would be at a significant loss if my genes aren't passed on.
It's a tough decision to make...
Only for out of work actors with asperations of becoming 'producers.'gramage said:this thread reminds me of a question I've been meaning to ask: would OHIP cover a vasectomy for a healthy 25 year old?
...but when a similar thread was posted some time ago, I offered that the only guys who could REALLY offer some perspective are those who have been married....divorced...and married again. Such guys (such as myself) have been never married....married....single and divorced....and married again (hopefully with a bit more wisdom in the choice).revolution said:Being 21 years old, marriage is definately not the first thing on my mind, but I keep thinking to myself... do I want to get married, do I want to have kids?
Married men tend to live happier lives than their single counterparts, and they also tend to live longer... but being with only one woman for the rest of my life is a scary thought. What if she decides she doesn't want to keep in shape after we get married, and then lets herself go becoming a 400 pound manatee? That would suck, and the process of getting a divorce is costly, time consuming and extremely stressful. The sex would only last about 20-25 years or so before she goes through menopause and then she'll never be interested in sex again.
And what about kids? If you have kids early on in the marriage your sex life will be non-existant, you'll be stressed out, you'll have a huge financial burden etc. etc.... but then I think to myself how can I not pass on my genes to the next generation? I have great genes, the world would be at a significant loss if my genes aren't passed on.
It's a tough decision to make...
Exactly, would you get on an airplane if the odds were 50% you'd crash????High_Roller said:50% Divorce Rate. How many existing marriages are happy? Bad odds all around.
That was an excellent post... at my age I have no responsiblities, I can do what I want, fuck around with girls at parties, and I love this lifestyle... but then I think to myself what about I'm 50 and old? How many girls would want to do me then without paying for it?MLAM said:...but when a similar thread was posted some time ago, I offered that the only guys who could REALLY offer some perspective are those who have been married....divorced...and married again. Such guys (such as myself) have been never married....married....single and divorced....and married again (hopefully with a bit more wisdom in the choice).
So...to answer the question, yes and yes.
Do I regret getting married a second time? Some days, yes. About 5 months ago things were REALLY in the shitter for SEVERAL DAYS in a row. But one of the things I have come to accept is that no thing or person is perfect, and that includes me. Communication, communication and then some more communication is the key....along with sometimes just accepting that you just aren't going to be happy all the time.
But just today I went to pick up my kid, and he came RUNNING to me screaming "Daddy" with the biggest grin on his face. To be honest, that is why I got married (again) - I wanted nothing more in the world than to be a father. I know some people regret becoming parents - I've never met them.
So...now that I am a parent, why do I stay married? Because I still say that nothing in life beats the singular seminal experience of knowing the true love of a woman. Not love of your car, your money, your charm (though that helps)...but to know you have a PARTNER in life. Most days things are "ok". Some days they are bad. But the days when it is good....when I catch my wife looking at me with "that look" in her eye...when she sneaks up behind me and hugs me tight and says "I am so lucky to have you"...when she and I share a heartfelt belly laugh at something only the two of us would find funny....those days MORE than make up for the days when she pisses me off.
It also helps to remember that I piss her off. That I too have gained weight. That I too fuck up (like last week when I flat out forgot we made plans to go to the movies).
I've been single....really single. Not as a multimillionaire...but I was living in New York...Downtown Manhattan...making REALLY good money, with a pretty hot GF who loved to fuck, and a long distance relationship with woman who loved me enough that one day she would marry me, and who waited (while dating others) for me to wake the fuck up and figure it out. I had would most guys would consider it "all".
It PALES in comparison to my dull ass married existence with kid now. House, yard, two cars in the garage...all on like 2/3 the money…the whole boring ass nine yards. Would not give it up for one second.
My former single life was sizzle. What I have now is steak. Sizzle is impressive, but steak satisfies your appetite.
But that is me. Everybody has to live for themselves...But I have been in all of life’s phases on this topic….Single…married…divorced…married again…and I like this one best.
Though I admit I wouldn’t have minded making this kinda money before I got married the first time…I think I might have held off a few more years…LOL...and BTW...21 is WAY too young to be even pondering this...
....that the odds get ALOT better for guys between 35 - 40 than between 25 - 30. 30 is just about the point when women wake up and realize "umm...maybe I should quit fucking around and meet some guy I want to be with, versus some guy who just happens to have a motorcycle". My wife's single GFs show open envy towards her...especially the one REALLY single 31 year old.DATYdude said:Exactly, but make it 20 years. At 40 if you're still even a bit good-looking and have a decent job you will be a great catch. Then get with a 25 to 30 year old woman who you have been friends with if possible, for as long as possible and then make it permanent. The partnership aspect of marriage is much more important than sex, in the long run. If the sex wanes or you get bored, check out Terb.
Kids are the best, very hard work and very rewarding -- my son is still pre-school and it's a ton of fun, I get back what I put in and then some.
But don't be in a hurry, have fun and get into something when you're ready.
daboy said:Being 21 years old
God ---when I was 21 using a sp was not in the picture--far too many available ladies around...and who had the $$$ at 21 to hobby.
I smell a SHILL .
Is that possible??
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