Are men shallow?

[Meister]

In my exploits of trying to find a married woman I search POF and start to see a pattern. It appears that most guys just want a good romp in the hay without commitment.
For example POF lists NEW USERS. So, this married lady who just signed up today without picture looking for intimate encounter already has 35 favourites on her profile.
http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=12625826
or 52 favourites on the first day:
http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=12559090

Yet, it may take months for other single girls with pictures (often cute) to get that many favourites. Now, I realize favourites is not always a good barometer, but heck 35 favourites on the first day?

Do I conclude guys are just horny, shallow wankers? That includes me, wtf? I'm tired I'm going to bed.

 

[T.O.tourist]

Do I conclude guys are just horny, shallow wankers?

Yep.

 

[silkfunkydiva]

In my exploits of trying to find a married woman I search POF and start to see a pattern. It appears that most guys just want a good romp in the hay without commitment.
For example POF lists NEW USERS. So, this married lady who just signed up today without picture looking for intimate encounter already has 35 favourites on her profile.
http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=12625826
or 52 favourites on the first day:
http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=12559090

Yet, it may take months for other single girls with pictures (often cute) to get that many favourites. Now, I realize favourites is not always a good barometer, but heck 35 favourites on the first day?

Do I conclude guys are just horny, shallow wankers? That includes me, wtf? I'm tired I'm going to bed.

I was on POF for a few months and Lavalife.Every single guy I met bar one was only interested in dating as many women as possible including a lawyer I was with for 6 months until I found out he was still on lava 24/7 looking for fresh (and free) meat.All these dating agencies imo are just meat markets,but if you realise that and thats all you want then fine.

 

[LKD]

join the club... getting laid through POF aint that easy... stick with SPs to save the time and hassle

 

[LexingtonJeremy]

It's all vaudeville. The same guys going on about how they just want romance and aren't into one-night stands would take an easy lay at the drop of a hat.

The only reason guys talk to women in the beginning is for our desire to bury our johnsons, but of course we have to act like that doesn't even cross our minds. Any woman with half a brain knows this, but they still like the guy to provide the illusion the he doesn't just see her as a sperm receptical. And whichever guy provides the best illusion and bullshits the most is rewarded, while the rest have to deal with the fact that they just wasted a whole bunch of time and energy for nothing.

I for one refuse to play the game. Any decent looking woman who meets me outside of work is going to know exactly what my intentions are. Of course I'm not going to do or say something that could get me in trouble or damage my reputation, but she'll know by the way I look her up and down and throw innuendos into the conversation. Why should I degrade myself by trying to suppress my urges? I'm going to have to lie and kiss ass to move up the corporate latter. I don't want to have to do that when it comes to this biological function called sex.

And before I get people preaching to me about how guys would like love and companionship in addition to sex, yes I know. I'd like that too. But the sex has to come first. If we don't get that out of the way, no type of connection or real friendship can be established.

 

[JEFF247]

I never used one. People I have met that say they use one are kinda creepy.

 

[calloway]

Do I conclude guys are just horny, shallow wankers?

Of course we are... but women made us this way.

 

[wet_suit_one]

Personally, I just use POF to meet women strictly for the purpose of meeting people. For actual sex, sp's are the only way to go (you pay the fee you get your sex. Simple, efficient, effective and honest with no fucking bullshit).

Why in God's green earth would I have my relationships and sex go together. That's just idiocy. I get sex on demand when I have cash in the bank and I get some interaction with women whenever I feel like it and whenever they are willing. I'm not committed to any woman (sp or civilian) and I get all my need met. It's not quite perfect, but it's pretty damn good.

Until some civilian woman steps up to the plate and says I'm going to have sex with you, fuck'em all, I'll pay my monies and take what the sp's have on offer. I'll take the emotional/intellectual connection with whatever civilian offers it. This is what women seem to want, so I'm rolling with it.

Works really good I find too!

 

[Cycleguy007]

Yes... I know that I am shallow.

 

[ang]

Yep, we have 2 brains, one is controlled and other....well you know..just stands at attention even when it's told not to

 

[nottyboi]

Actually I find the women on POF to be VERY shallow. Canadian women in general as well. (of course the are exceptions)

As a younger man, I used to fall madly in love with women. For the loves of my life my happiness would be found in their joy. Most of the online dating women have a list like a goddamn grocery list. I have no desire to marry myself into indentured labour. I myself, would love to meet a smart, funny woman. She does not have to be a goddess. Frankly I would prefer if she wasn't. But I can't do fat, wish I could, but I keep in pretty good shape myself. A woman who plays racquet sports and is artsy and loves adventure would be my dream companion. If she trusted me enough so I could still see SP's, I would marry her on the spot!!! lol

 

[happy the man]

Actually I find the women on POF to be VERY shallow. Canadian women in general as well. (of course the are exceptions)

As a younger man, I used to fall madly in love with women. For the loves of my life my happiness would be found in their joy. Most of the online dating women have a list like a goddamn grocery list. I have no desire to marry myself into indentured labour. I myself, would love to meet a smart, funny woman. She does not have to be a goddess. Frankly I would prefer if she wasn't. But I can't do fat, wish I could, but I keep in pretty good shape myself. A woman who plays racquet sports and is artsy and loves adventure would be my dream companion. If she trusted me enough so I could still see SP's, I would marry her on the spot!!! lol

I hear you nottyb...to the tee. Feel the same and I'm older...mid-40s. The only thing I would disagree with you on is your last statement. I'd rather the woman that I loved and she me....WAS AN SP!!! I could then understand why she'd fuck around on me...(half serious)

 

[elassowipo1]

Do I conclude guys are just horny, shallow wankers? That includes me, wtf? I'm tired I'm going to bed.

I can't speak for others but the answer is: YES, and proud of it

 

[maalish]

I think men and women in general are shallow, men are just more obvious about it and maybe a little more shallower

 

[winstar]

I think the least classy men are usually also the most shallow. Educated men who have alot going for them want the whole package. It's such a turn off to meet a very hot girl who has absolutely no brains, even for one night stands. The biggest turn on is a hot girl with a brain who is smart enough to know what's classy, and sees that class in you - especially when there's nothing more she wants than your cock.

I firmly believe women are far more shallow than men. Just look at all the girls at there that are going out with losers with money. And let's not forget those that marry for money.

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/capress/090318/world/expensive_divorce

The only exception I know to that rule that I can think of right now is Britney Spears. She's hot, has money, and goes for a douche (Kevin Federline), with no money and trailer trash looks. Stupid? Yes. Shallow, no.

Interesting that the women referred to in the first post, are married. Shallow women who married rich and are unsatisfied maybe?

 

[nottyboi]

I think the least classy men are usually also the most shallow. Educated men who have alot going for them want the whole package. It's such a turn off to meet a very hot girl who has absolutely no brains, even for one night stands. The biggest turn on is a hot girl with a brain who is smart enough to know what's classy, and sees that class in you - especially when there's nothing more she wants than your cock.

I firmly believe women are far more shallow than men. Just look at all the girls at there that are going out with losers with money. And let's not forget those that marry for money.

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/capress/090318/world/expensive_divorce

The only exception I know to that rule that I can think of right now is Britney Spears. She's hot, has money, and goes for a douche (Kevin Federline), with no money and trailer trash looks. Stupid? Yes. Shallow, no.

Interesting that the women referred to in the first post, are married. Shallow women who married rich and are unsatisfied maybe?

One thing I would HATE is to be married for money. I'm getting close to that stage where I may soon have enough $$ to interest gold diggers at the lower end of the spectum. Combine that with the fact I am not totally decripit.....I tend to conceal my wealth and avoid discussions about it. If the girl is a gold digger I may play, only with the expectation that I will impress her with wealth so I can use her body. lol

 

[binderman]

I want men to be shallow and women to go after money, because what is the root of all money? Meeting human needs and creating value for our fellow human beings, it is the highest and most moral pursuit.

Cheeky soundbites that try to push unearned guilt won't undo millions of years of evolution that's built in our nature. You can only get rid of symptom.

 

[jiiimmm]

Guys are stupid and shallow. We NEED sex and we do very stupid things to get it. If I put as much time and effort into finding the cure for cancer as I do to getting laid, we'd have a cure by now. We are what we are, and I admit it.

 

[Thunderballs]

Men are as deep as puddles. Women are as deep as potholes.

 

[nottyboi]

Guys are stupid and shallow. We NEED sex and we do very stupid things to get it. If I put as much time and effort into finding the cure for cancer as I do to getting laid, we'd have a cure by now. We are what we are, and I admit it.

True to some degree, but men will do all kinds of thing to avoid the stigma of paying for sex. They will lie, cheat, steal, break hearts and destroy lives, just to avoid the stigma of paying for what they want. Bizzare.