anyone here actually dated an SP long term?

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just curious

we all know the usual arrangement
but has anyone here ever turned it into something real
like actual dating or moving in together

not talking about one off stuff
im talking about months or years

how did it start
how did it end
or is it still going

and for the ones who did
was it worth it or would you not do it again

just wanna hear some stories
no judgement here
 
I was in a two year relationship with a stripper who was also getting her masters. I had no problem with the industry and we were pretty transparent with each other. There is a dark side of the industry and some things you have to just accept or it's not gonna work out.

It was good while it lasted but we broke up because our schedules we're never aligned. We only had 2 hours of being together on weekdays and on weekends we could never really do anything romantic or even do chores together. We eventually felt more like roommates and it just died. If you're a 9 to 5 guy, which I was at the time, it's really really hard.

Would I do it again? Probably but the difference is I elevated my lifestyle where I make my own hours so I'm less ridgid. We still chat on Facebook, she left the industry and married a wealthy man.
 
Bad option to date a SP! Has happened with me thrice now.

Starts off really well - you tend to enjoy each others' company! It's all lovey dovey!
But ends really bad - SPs find it difficult to lead a normal life. The urge to earn money at any costs kicks in after a while plus most of SPs have issues adjusting to regular life/relationship.

Worth it - Yes, for experience but would I do it again? - not intentionally but It keeps on happening.
 
Been discussed many time. Type in "dating an SP" or something similar, in the search box and there will be a long list of threads to review. The short answer: it starts out good/great but ends when either or both people walking away knowing it wasn't a good idea to date.

LTO_3
 
Been discussed many time. Type in "dating an SP" or something similar, in the search box and there will be a long list of threads to review. The short answer: it starts out good/great but ends when either or both people walking away knowing it wasn't a good idea to date.

LTO_3
did search it before posting
but old threads are old
same start doesnt mean same ending
and honestly this is the lounge
we're just shooting the shit here
or is it just that you think i didnt search
 
read all the replies so far
thanks for sharing your stories
seems like most end the same way
but i should share mine too since im the op
been with a few over the years
some ended bad some just drifted
one i ended up marrying
wasnt easy getting there but it worked out
curious if anyone else got a similar ending
 
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did search it before posting
but old threads are old
same start doesnt mean same ending
and honestly this is the lounge
we're just shooting the shit here
or is it just that you think i didnt search
LOL. Some of those old threads are less than 1-2 years old, so dating an SP won't change that much in that time frame. And yes I figured you didn't do a search since most of the newbies lately haven't figured that out how to do that or don't want to do eir own research.

LTO_3
 
LOL. Some of those old threads are less than 1-2 years old, so dating an SP won't change that much in that time frame. And yes I figured you didn't do a search since most of the newbies lately haven't figured that out how to do that or don't want to do eir own research.

LTO_3
fair enough you got your view
but this topics still legit to bring up
relationships change even week to week
and the people here now aint the same as before
we talk about different things now
so yeah i did search
but i still wanted to hear whats happening now

all i ask is an open mind
its just a discussion
and if you still dont believe i searched
theres not much i can do about that
we're all just here to talk
 
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One Christmas, I was looking through Backpage when I came across photos of a Russian woman that caught my attention. It was only my second time visiting an escort, and I was a little nervous because she was in a building downtown Toronto. She told me she was waiting for me in the lobby.
When I saw her waiting for me, I raised my hand, and she walked toward me and gave me access to the building. She was blonde, had a beautiful body and blue eyes, and spoke very little English. She greeted me as if we had known each other for a long time. In a few words, she was a very professional escort.
Once I got into her condo, she put my jacket in her closet and showed me a bedroom with mirrors and a large bed. She undressed, and I became even more nervous because she was a beautiful woman with an incredible body.
She started touching my back and telling me that I was young and handsome. She made me feel comfortable and made the whole experience feel much more personal than I had expected.
After almost an hour, I started thinking that she was going to charge me much more, but I decided to leave because I didn't have any more money. Surprisingly, she didn't charge me anything extra. While I was on the bus heading home, she texted me a smile and told me that she had really enjoyed being with me and that I was a very handsome man.
I thought to myself, “She probably says that to all her clients so they come back.”
The next morning, she texted me, “Good morning,” and we started texting throughout the entire day as if we were really good friends. I knew she was an escort, so I assumed she was just playing along with me.
The messages continued every day and every night until I visited her for the second time. That visit was exceptional, and she told me that she had missed me and thought about me all the time. The next day, she was still texting me like nothing had changed.
One day, I asked her if she wanted to go out for dinner near her place, and she said yes. I remember that we sat at the bar and had tequila. At the end of the night, she invited me back to her condo to sleep over, but she made it clear that I shouldn't take advantage of the situation.
I accepted, and from that point on, our relationship became very intense. The next morning, she made breakfast for me. For almost two years, we continued seeing each other regularly.
One day, I told her that she should leave that job. She got angry and told me that I should simply enjoy my moment and not ask questions. That's when I realized that she was a woman of a completely different kind. If I wanted to enjoy the time I had with her, I had to keep my mouth shut.
There were days when I didn't see her, and I never asked questions about her personal life. But whenever she invited me to her condo, she made me feel like she genuinely liked me and wanted me there.
Eventually, she went back to Russia. Later, I met the woman who would eventually become my wife.
Looking back, that period of my life feels almost unreal. I still remember how unexpectedly a simple visit to an escort turned into a two-year relationship that felt much more personal and complicated than I ever imagined.
 
One Christmas, I was looking through Backpage when I came across photos of a Russian woman that caught my attention. It was only my second time visiting an escort, and I was a little nervous because she was in a building downtown Toronto. She told me she was waiting for me in the lobby.
When I saw her waiting for me, I raised my hand, and she walked toward me and gave me access to the building. She was blonde, had a beautiful body and blue eyes, and spoke very little English. She greeted me as if we had known each other for a long time. In a few words, she was a very professional escort.
Once I got into her condo, she put my jacket in her closet and showed me a bedroom with mirrors and a large bed. She undressed, and I became even more nervous because she was a beautiful woman with an incredible body.
She started touching my back and telling me that I was young and handsome. She made me feel comfortable and made the whole experience feel much more personal than I had expected.
After almost an hour, I started thinking that she was going to charge me much more, but I decided to leave because I didn't have any more money. Surprisingly, she didn't charge me anything extra. While I was on the bus heading home, she texted me a smile and told me that she had really enjoyed being with me and that I was a very handsome man.
I thought to myself, “She probably says that to all her clients so they come back.”
The next morning, she texted me, “Good morning,” and we started texting throughout the entire day as if we were really good friends. I knew she was an escort, so I assumed she was just playing along with me.
The messages continued every day and every night until I visited her for the second time. That visit was exceptional, and she told me that she had missed me and thought about me all the time. The next day, she was still texting me like nothing had changed.
One day, I asked her if she wanted to go out for dinner near her place, and she said yes. I remember that we sat at the bar and had tequila. At the end of the night, she invited me back to her condo to sleep over, but she made it clear that I shouldn't take advantage of the situation.
I accepted, and from that point on, our relationship became very intense. The next morning, she made breakfast for me. For almost two years, we continued seeing each other regularly.
One day, I told her that she should leave that job. She got angry and told me that I should simply enjoy my moment and not ask questions. That's when I realized that she was a woman of a completely different kind. If I wanted to enjoy the time I had with her, I had to keep my mouth shut.
There were days when I didn't see her, and I never asked questions about her personal life. But whenever she invited me to her condo, she made me feel like she genuinely liked me and wanted me there.
Eventually, she went back to Russia. Later, I met the woman who would eventually become my wife.
Looking back, that period of my life feels almost unreal. I still remember how unexpectedly a simple visit to an escort turned into a two-year relationship that felt much more personal and complicated than I ever imagined.
great story
even though she went back in the end
at least you got a story to tell
and it proves the point
asking her to quit is the real test
we forget its just a job for them
 
I have dated two guys I met as a client long term. Both were attractive, my age and super sweet. One of them bought me a gift on the first session we ever seen each other.

I have met tons of great guys, I would love to date them but I will not leave this work for a relationship unless I am ready, which makes tons of men uncomfortable or insecure so it usually doesn’t work out.


My regular SP friend has had a few relationships with clients over the years I've known her. Not with me of course lol, but I get to be a friend when she needs one, we do stuff together like a lot of couples do, and I still get to go have sex with other SP's as well lol. I like having her in my life and being a client in the bedroom and a friend outside of it seems to be the perfect balance for us. I've watched guys come and go, they know the deal, she's a sex worker, but they think they are going to be the one that changes that. It's fine that they paid to sleep with her but can't accept that she still has a living to make, kids to support. So they enjoy getting it for free for a short time but it gets to them knowing other guys like me are tapping that as well.
 
fair enough you got your view
but this topics still legit to bring up
relationships change even week to week
and the people here now aint the same as before
we talk about different things now
so yeah i did search
but i still wanted to hear whats happening now

all i ask is an open mind
its just a discussion
and if you still dont believe i searched
theres not much i can do about that
we're all just here to talk

Kind of annoying to be honest, when all people can come up with is "do a search, been talked about". If you can't help yourself by scrolling past a topic you have read before, that's your problem. It's a discussion board, not an online encyclopedia. Whether someone starts a new thread or bumps an old thread really is no difference, it's not like it adds to the clutter, it's a topic on the page of topics. Read it or don't read it, doesn't matter when the first post of that thread was posted
 
I have met two men through escorting that I almost married that I dated long term.

I loved them both very much. I'm in a long distance relationship with one currently while we work things out. The ultimate goal is marriage.

I want to stop escorting and do something else, but my family obligations prevent me from doing that so for the time being, we are long distance while I deal with family young and old and then hopefully in a few years, we can get married.

I don't know how much longer my family will need me. It could be a month, it could be years.
 
You should keep reminding yourself in her eyes you're always the trick.
This is really archaic and misleading and you post super wierd stuff about our job that I havent seen one SP relate to in anyway. I have clients I genuinely care about and could see myself having civilian dates with but its not my priority. Charging money for my time etc does not equate to me lying, manipulation, and whatever you said above. My goals, my family and my boundaries are a priority. If one of my clients that I have awesome rapport with had to go to the hospital and asked me to go with them as support, I would never hesitate. Just an example.
 
Sorry dude but, that’s just you.

Tons of posts on here about guys dating escorts and eventually get into a real relationship.

I have dated clients, multiple times. Some of my clients I play video games with them every week and text them everyday 🤷🏻‍♀️ no money exchanged

Sorry you are just not that dude… don’t blame us.

right!!!

if your not that dude; but want to be that dude… your going about it in the hardest way possible for yourself. just be a cool, kind human. Its not that complicated!
 
I agree. I genuinely care about some people like they are my friends. I'm the closest thing to a girlfriend some of them have, and I know all about them.

I would never take advantage of them, or rip them off or take more than we agree to.

For a lot of people I'm their therapist because men will do anything except go to therapy 😂

I don't go into a session with hatred. I go into a session with an open mind and compassion, because it takes a lot to decide to hire an escort and they are putting themselves at risk as much as I am putting myself at risk.

I don't think it's an easy decision to hire a stranger for sex.

I wouldn't go out of my way to hurt someone or take advantage when they're in a vulnerable position.

My clients aren't "tricks". People who do that stuff and use that language fucking hate their clients. You're a mark, because they don't respect you. They come from mentality where it's dog eat dog and taking food out of each other's mouths.

There are plenty of men who are respectful. But there are a lot of people who aren't... the disrespectful ones outnumber the respectful ones when you're an indie in the beginning... But if people do everything right and cut off the people that are pissing them off ... they don't turn bitter and angry.

I think if I had to take every piece of shit that contacted me as a client. I would be furious too. I would be angry at the world and think people owed me something.

There have been a few times where I have left a session, so pissed off that I wished I had robbed that person but it's never really crossed my mind much. It has briefly after the fact because they ripped me off, or they were awful. But the good people outnumber the bad.

There are clients I've had for a long time. Who tested me at the very beginning. They left fake gold or valuables on the table or an extra bill somewhere to see if I would take it and I didn't.

Me not taking a little bit of cash or a little bit of jewelry or whatever led to some of the longest client relationships I've had.

I think a lot of women don't understand that. There are a lot of women who are looking for the payout right now but there's even more that are looking for longstanding clients and providing a deep connection.

I think you're dealing with the types of women who would take the cash and the fake gold... And lose out on thousands of dollars over it.

That mentality is something you will find in drug addicts or people with mental illness or personality disorders.










This is really archaic and misleading and you post super wierd stuff about our job that I havent seen one SP relate to in anyway. I have clients I genuinely care about and could see myself having civilian dates with but its not my priority. Charging money for my time etc does not equate to me lying, manipulation, and whatever you said above. My goals, my family and my boundaries are a priority. If one of my clients that I have awesome rapport with had to go to the hospital and asked me to go with them as support, I would never hesitate. Just an example.
 
You have an X account where you bashed men...:rolleyes:

Yeah, men are fucking terrible. That's why I don't deal with like ninety percent of the people that contact me.

I'm not dealing with ALL the men.

I also don't have an x account where I bash men but I talk shit when they deserve it.

It's not all rainbows and puppies.

I think if I had to deal with the other ninety percent, I would probably not be a very nice person.

The toxicity and the chip on the shoulder that some people carry can be contagious.