anybody have children?

[keybitz]

there is no greater reward in this life than your children, but there is no greater responsibilty in this life than your children...if you have children there will be a part of your life when you raise them that you should be prepared to sacrifice yourself to their needs and sometimes their wants...all parents make some mistakes in raising their children which are not erasible, but somehow their children survive despite their non-intended errors....in their early life, children are not prone to appreciate their parents efforts, but their appreciation and gratitude comes later in their lives with their maturity....even tho' one's own childhood is marked with imperfections, there is a degree of learning from your own parents mistakes....

do not have children thru peer or family pressures, but only if you want to and desire the rewards children bring to you plus you are prepared for the sacrifices and heartaches that come with the territory...

 

[Gord's Bro]

do not have children thru peer or family pressures, but only if you want to and desire the rewards children bring to you plus you are prepared for the sacrifices and heartaches that come with the territory...

Great advice, keybitz. To add one more item: Never delay having children "until we can afford it." That balance sheet, at least in pure $$$, will never even out, but it's more than made up for in the more important emotional "achievements in life" balance sheet.

G's B.

 

[papasmerf]

That's what scares me. I just hope motherly instincts really do come naturally to the woman I marry.

Instincts come to both mother and father

don't abandon a child before it is born

 

[Master Muse]

My wife is about to deliver child number FIVE for me next month. I do not think a chhild can be planned. You either want them and are willing to sacrifice for them (and yourself) or not. Take it one day at a time. It's too tough any other way and it doesn't work out as you plan anyway.

 

[canucklehead]

I am a single father that never planned to have children but my late wife wanted to have kids...... i can not imagine not having them they give me life everyday.
My life was fucked as a child also both parents die the same year, shipped to boarding schools, etc, etc .........
Whatever you do don't have any regrets.

 

[pineappleguy]

2) Children do not come with an instruction manual. So you have to do what all parents do "The best you can".

Actually - there are many many instruction manuals out there, written by some very accredited psychologists - some of whom may have actually raised kids.

Unfortunately, the kids don't read the manuals - they're making it up as they go along.

Raising children is life's greatest adventure. As long as you are sincere about doing it to the best of your ability - go for it.

 

[Geminixoxo]

I have two boys..one a teenager and he is my angel, my 11 year old is a holy terror...I don't know where I would be without them..having kids grounds, humbles, frustrates you and everything else inbetween...I never knew that falling in love with someone would happen so fast..it was instant

 

[The Bandit]

What is it with some kids from such a young age...just so rebellious, they're all know it all's, you can't tell them a word.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

...just so rebellious, they're all know it all's, you can't tell them a word.

Oy those damned kids and their Beatle albums.

Seriously...
If you believe you shouldn't have one unless you are a hundred and ten percent sure of your parenting plan, then you probably won't enjoy being a parent all the time.

 

[AMWBT]

But that's what they're for!

What is it with some kids from such a young age...just so rebellious, they're all know it all's, you can't tell them a word.

Oh sure, my 16 year old tells me all the time how he's going to be a better driver than me, a better parent than me, just an all around better human being, because adults are all fucked up and don't know what they're doing... Geez, don't you remember that? I still think that way!!

 

[Annessa]

well....me and the wife are thinking of having some. and well...I love my niece and nephew like crazy, i have a great time when I'm with them...but....I come from a background where most, if not all the trouble I've had in my life came from a terrible upbringing (divorce, substance abuse, incest...etc)

I myself am stable now after alot of fighting to get where I am have a good job, no drugs, etc...

I just can't look past what happened. I've never really been around a "normal" family, if they exist and I guess I'll always be a little apprehensive about having children because of my history.

I guess, I'm not even sure what I'm trying to say...but, has anybody here had children here? and maybe you could post what your experience has been..

thanx

I am going to send you a private PM for a site that can really help you with this one and give you alot of great feedback if not another place you can go to discuss such horrific personal matters. We'll talk soon.




Annessa
xoxo