Ok ladies...
centurygirl said:
Anal sex can be enjoyable
centurygirl said:
I personally love anal sex more then regular sex.
genintoronto said:
Also, keep in mind that while she may very well enjoy it like many women do (and not only to please their men), she may also not like it at all. Don't be an ass (haha) and let it go.
if you don't mind....I have always tried to understand anal sex...from a female perspective.
I understand it as a male. One...it is "forbidden"...so there is some appeal. Two...if you are a butt man like me, it is visually stimulating. Three...many woman have better control of their sphincter than their vagina muscles, so the experience can be more pleasurable physically. And lastly...it is a bit of an act of submission...so if you have a bit of a dom streak as I do, that is a plus.
But...as a female...what do YOU enjoy about it? I mean...given that you have no prostates...what is in it for you?
This is my anal sexual experience and observations / analysis:
First wife...while we were dating...ALL anal sex. Reason: The Aurora Jolie / Nicara thing...she (wife #1) was saving herself until marriage. She told me she was an anal virgin. I do not recall there being any real issues...I of course didn't try to split her in half...but we would lube up and have sex, just like nothing special. However, once we married - never again. This is when she told me that it was just for my benefit...that she figured she had to fuck me one way or another to keep me around (she was not a vaginal virgin, but had decided to become a "renewed virgin" - no...I cannot explain it, so don't ask). But at the time...she sure LOOKED like she was enjoying it.
First FWB - Says she was an anal virgin, and I believe her (says I am still the only man who has been in her back door). I don't recall how it actually happened, but I can tell you she was very much a submissive, and I very much took advantage of that. We really actually never used lube beyond her vaginal secretions (it was always after things had started off vaginally). She would say in hurt...but she was also totally into it...it was like her mind just went to a different place. Like I said, she was a submissive...it was clear that she just completely got off on me "using her" that way. Sometimes, she'd even ask for it.
Second wife - Says she was anal virgin, and I totally believe her. 2nd wife was DEFINITELY NOT either a submissive OR very adventurous sexually. We did it once - she admits it was just to please me (I didn't even ask). It CLEARLY hurt. We tired it a couple more times...each time her request (usually after we'd been out drinking and had a hotel room), each time - no success. I could tell her motivation was because she thought it would make me happy, and just sheer curiosity, but I could also tell she did not enjoy it.
EX-GF (most recent) one day, when she was on the rag, she suggests to me we do anal instead. She says she is an anal virgin. We go slow, per the prescription....clearly it hurts, but we get through it. We do it several more times, each at her request, each time to completion. She says she likes it because it is "dirty"...she likes flying in the face of her school teacher / soccer mom image and persona (she also loves, loves, loves to give head, and gets PISSED when she doesn't get to swallow), but after about a month or so, she admits when I ask that she doesn't actually enjoy it physically, and it never happens again. I believe for her it was just a lark...and once that frontier had been crossed, the novelty wore off. I also believe she did it just to spite her ex husband...since it was something she never let him do (according to her).
Current FWB. Says she was an anal virgin. One day asks if we can do it (her request). She is into porn, and she just wants to do it. Feels like she is missing out. We have actually only completed the act once...I think it was the second time we tried. Whenever we do it, she is clearly in pain. Yet...she WANTS to do it...is always asking about it, insists we give it whirl about 50% of the time we are having sex. She DESPERATELY wants to be an " anal queen", even though she clearly doesn't enjoy it, at least physically (I am not hung like a horse, but I am a big guy, and most of the women I have known have reported that i was at least a little bit bigger than average downstairs). This is CLEARLY a "mental" thing...she has sought advice from her gay friends on how to anal fuck, looked stuff up on the internet and sent it to me. She NEEDS to be an anal porn star....even though she clearly isn't actually enjoying it (physically).
Ok...
So...where I am going with this is here - I have never actually known a woman who truly and honestly PHYSICALLY enjoyed anal sex. My experience (which of course does not encompass the experience of women everywhere on the earth) has been that anal sex falls into three categories for women:
1) They do it to make their partners happy
2) They do it because of where it aligns with their head space (submissives)
3) They do it because they like the idea of being a "dirty girl" (quote from my current FWB...she loves being a "dirty girl")
Question: Do you ladies - does any woman - actually PHYSICALLY ENJOY anal sex...as in finds it PLEASURABLE? Not enjoy it from a mental stand point...not "get into it", or "enjoy making my man happy", or "enjoy being fucked like the true slut I am"...all of which I understand and respect (the brain is the most critical sexual organ after all), but actually enjoy and get PHYSICAL PLEASURE from the act itself?
Because..hey...while I am man enough to admit I periodically like something (like a finger or a small dildo) inserted into my ass...I also have a prostate. I CANNOT imagine enjoying it if I didn't...