An experience that has left me shaken

[bangminton]

Hello Terbites and ladies I have not been a very active member on the board but I do appreciate the posts and insight. I debated whether I should post my experience but in the interest of public safety and knowledge-sharing among hobbyists, I think it is the right thing to do. My apology if this is not the right forum to post so mods please feel free to move it around.

There are always 2 sides to the story so I will not post any name, location, ad or phone number. You are free to draw your own conclusions, with your own background, knowledge and experience. I am not accusing anyone of anything. I will try to be as detailed as I can but feel free to ask any relevant questions. Without further ado

Background

I met a Service Provider (SP) via Backpage (BP) last week and had a good time at her incall place. Let's call her Girl X. Looking back, there was no real red flag, except for the fact the SP instructed me to be present at an intersection before she would let me know the physical address. I thought it was a little bit over the top but her explanation is because of safety reason, some clients booked appointments but never showed. Fair enough.

Main Story

Fast forward to yesterday. Girl X asked me to come over for another session and I had time so I obliged. Approaching the incall place, I could see a fellow hanging out in the front porch. I asked him whether I could come in to see Girl X and he told me that's not her real name and she doesn't live there, rather she borrows the room. I appreciated all the little details but that's not why I was there so I asked him whether Girl X is inside (we exchanged texts prior and my understanding is she was inside) and whether I could come in. He said no and told me to confirm with Girl X again via texts.

I went back to my car and drove away and Girl X texted me to apologize she was running late from her other job. She asked me to turn around and she would be there in a few seconds. I parked the car and could see the aforementioned fellow getting into a car a little further down the road. Girl X asked me if I would be up for a BJ in a nearby park. I thought it is somewhat odd, why drive in blizzard-like condition (yesterday afternoon) to engage in intimate activity in public but the little head was thinking more than the big head at the time so I said fine.

As I followed Girl X's car, the big head took over and I was running through all sorts of questions: Why go to the park in this weather (I was told later she did not have access to the room at the time), why is that fellow in the car (I was told later she was going to drop him off at the store), what will happen when we get to the park...I just didn't get a good vibe and luckily, there was also family emergency right at the time so I made a right turn at the light and here I am

I honestly don't know what would happen if I went to the park and I prefer not to think about those scenarios. It took me some time yesterday to compose myself before I can post my story today (while the experience is still fresh).

It is possible Girl X and her friend may come across this story (this is an open Internet discussion board after all and if they do read this and want to offer their side of the story, they are more than welcome to do so

 

[poonpower]

Wow as an amateur in this site, this gives me the chills. I'm often thinking to myself what if I show up and I get robbed, or the popo comes kicks down the door and shit. I've seen one MA and it was a great experience, so I got that going for me.
Hope your next one is better

 

[Jackinthebox1]

Without a link or a name, or some other sort of reference, I'm not really sure of the point of this post.
I guess just to tell a story?

 

[bangminton]

Without a link or a name, or some other sort of reference, I'm not really sure of the point of this post.
I guess just to tell a story?

Jack, I posted my story to share my experience with others who may be able to relate or share their own, based on their experience.

I am still relatively new to the scene (I have been a member here since 2008 but I have inactive for long stretches) so if I could learn a thing or 2 from the experienced folks, it is much appreciated.

 

[Caelus]

Hi Bang,
Thanks for sharing your experience.
I would have left once I saw the guy hanging out on the front porch... You are more brave than me LOLL

 

[solo223]

Jack, I posted my story to share my experience with others who may be able to relate or share their own, based on their experience.

I am still relatively new to the scene (I have been a member here since 2008 but I have inactive for long stretches) so if I could learn a thing or 2 from the experienced folks, it is much appreciated.

1. if it feels fishy, pass
2. if the request is out of the norm, take a pass
3. If you see a guy hang out like you did and it gives you the creep, take a pass
4. If it's on Montreal road, take a pass
5. if the texting is odd or you get da feeling you'll be screwed, take a pass....

all kinds of shit can happen when you go see new ones. Wait for some review, talk to us and post who you'd like to see...you'd be amazed at what we can dig up, check the cowboy diary from time to time. Check the picks with google search and tineye, check the phone numbers. Basically try to minimize the risk by doing your diligence. Plenty of good girls out there, don't get taken in by just a bunch of pretty pictures....go see well reviewed girls....

if the girl would have asked this of me and i would have see the creepy guy get in the car, i would have turned my tail first thing. There will always be another provider to get a great experience out of, don't let Junior dictate to you....use your head....

 

[itd131]

In your story, I would have been done somewhere in the area of "Girl X asked me to come over" and "I could see a fellow hanging out in the front porch."

My advice would be that there are lots of great women in this business. Why spend one second in a sketchy situation when you could be having a great time with a great lady? I guess some get a thrill searching for gold in the wild west of BP, but I would say it's not worth the hassle. Do some research, spend your time with providers who have established themselves.

Personally, I have regulars who are amazing and I stick with them almost all the time. If I do take a chance on someone new, it's only if I'm convinced of pretty much a sure thing. I used to take more chances but taking chances leads to disappointments.

 

[Rio10]

First, thanks for sharing! Crazy experience and glad you bailed instead of getting mugged.

Most likely this is a case where she was not just looking to make some money but in desperate need of money to repay someone. You were seen as an easy target as she'd met you once and knew you to be a nice guy and this hobby is overflowing with 'nice guys' who are easy targets. It's not like on TV though, no guns or violence. Normally an awkward situation is enough. Likely what would have happened had you gone to the park would be some drama where she explains that the guy waiting nearby is someone she really owes x dollars to and possibly she's going to be in real danger if she doesn't pay right away. Add on some sympathy by telling you they have no problem taking physical advantage of her if she's late on payments. You were only planning to spend x but she asks if you could possibly pay for a few future sessions to save her ass and she'll totally make it up to you.

It is common enough and not just with BP advertisers.

 

[John Gilbunni]

Make tracks when there is a dude around . Always.

 

[fentonkat]

Make tracks when there is a dude around . Always.

Yeah. Even if I saw an SP a hundred times, if there is someone hanging directly outside her entrance, I would bail. I certainly wouldn't start talking to them either!

 

[bangminton]

First, thanks for sharing! Crazy experience and glad you bailed instead of getting mugged.

Most likely this is a case where she was not just looking to make some money but in desperate need of money to repay someone. You were seen as an easy target as she'd met you once and knew you to be a nice guy and this hobby is overflowing with 'nice guys' who are easy targets. It's not like on TV though, no guns or violence. Normally an awkward situation is enough. Likely what would have happened had you gone to the park would be some drama where she explains that the guy waiting nearby is someone she really owes x dollars to and possibly she's going to be in real danger if she doesn't pay right away. Add on some sympathy by telling you they have no problem taking physical advantage of her if she's late on payments. You were only planning to spend x but she asks if you could possibly pay for a few future sessions to save her ass and she'll totally make it up to you.

It is common enough and not just with BP advertisers.

First off, thanks for all your feedback and input, guys! I know TERB is a strong community where we look out for each other and I could not be any more proud being a part of this!

To answer and address some of your comment/questions: Rio, I did not think about that scenario but it sounds plausible enough. My main concern is whether I would be forced to go to ATM and withdraw some cash or worse, a call made to my family/associates demanding ransom...maybe I have been watching too many Hollywood movies or read too many crime stories but I decided to err on the side of caution in this case

I know there were at least 2 people in the car: the driver and the fellow I chatted with whom I observed getting into the car. There could be others, heck the girl may not even be in the car for all I know. She was texting me like crazy throughout the process, even after I told her I had to leave due to family emergency.

So her pimp or whoever he was was in the car with her and she wanted you to follow them and then she'd give you a bj presumably in your car in a park ?? Just wanted to understand that point before commenting.

Yes that was the plan, Pump. My analytical mind (I was trained as an engineer) kicked in while I was following them: What will the occupant(s) of the car do while we do what we are supposed do? Sit there and wait? If she truly wants to do it, she can just jump in my car from the get-go and that's all she wrote. What's the point of driving 2 cars to the park? I can drop her off after, it's not a big deal. We met before so it's not like I'm a complete stranger.

Anyway thanks again for reading and sharing your thoughts guys. She wanted to see me again but the line has been crossed. I have even contemplated retirement from the game

 

[asuran]

For a moment as I was reading the background part where you mentioned she asked you to wait at a certain intersection.
The following scenario was playing thru my head:
- she has someone took pictures or noted down you car make and plates? They somehow checked out on that and are now blackmailing you.

But luckily it was different and you made out fine.

BP is all kinds of risk. Some are less risky, some are more. There are no standards on BP.

When it feels weird or a bit off. Sometimes something is up and you gotta get out of there.

 

[MR CHAOS]

Shit story..but honestly for me..Id be done at " she asked me if I want to come over ". She most certainly isn't my girlfriend...and I'm not down with the open solicitation unless
we have already discussed this before hand..But on an odd chance that I somehow missed all of that..Now I show up and there is a dude outside...oh and he wants to chat...fuck that...

But then if by some weird ass " I'm feeling like a complete fool " chance I decide to now follow a car and get a blow job in the park in a fucking snow storm ? WTF is going on here man ?

A blow job in a snow storm ??...LMFAO...I'm cracking up here....how horny were you ? id rub one out in the comfort of my home before I follow this movie script....

Sorry again, appreciate the story but damn I was out at the intersection intro.

Guys..Don't let your little head make decisions like this...Its hazardous for your health.

Oh and one last thing..Not sure why you don't want to share her name...that would be helpful... But wait you want them to come on here and say what exactly ?

" WE WERE GONNA ROB YOUR ASS IN THE SNOW STORM "

MC

 

[MR CHAOS]

Hahaha..honestly Im still fucking laughing here...Great story...

Blow job / snow job = Rob job

Honestly BM you may want to consider giving up the BP game and stick to the known commodities of the industry...Mirage, Explore-her etc..

When you have convinced yourself that following a dude and a girl in a car to the local park to get a snow job is a good move...Backpage aint for you man

MC

MC

Dude he just wanted to try a snow job! What's so hard to understand lol

 

[OnTheWayOut]

Op has a huge set of balls to ask a dude on the porch if a girl is inside. Never a good idea .....

 

[MR CHAOS]

Approaches man on porch...." Hi I'm here for the snow job ?"

MC

Op has a huge set of balls to ask a dude on the porch if a girl is inside. Never a good idea .....

 

[Jabba]

Just going to reinforce what others have said:

Rule 1: Use your spidey senses.
Rule 2: Try not to be stupid.
Rule 3: This hobby is fun but if you're willing to accept pimps & thugs & other risks, in the interests of continuing your adventures re-read Rules 1 & 2

 

[John Gilbunni]

Op has a huge set of balls to ask a dude on the porch if a girl is inside. Never a good idea .....

Not a huge set of brains. Some random motherfucker doesn't need to know your business. He could be anybody...he could jack your shit or get your plate or a thousand other things. Seriously, the minute a dude is around, bail. a suck job isn't worth getting shanked over.

 

[ElCapitain]

Girl X asked me to come over for another session and I had time so I obliged.

One thing I've found in this hobby is that when the girl is the one who initiates the conversation and says she wants you to come over, there's usually some underlying thing she's going to try to get out of you. At a minimum she thinks you're a nice guy with deep pockets and you're going to get a sob story at some point about why she needs a little extra money. If you say yes, there's always another time, and another. So many of the girls have problems with drugs and perpetually owe money to people.

 

[MR CHAOS]

Cant make this shit up if I tried. Its a great story !!

I am so the opposite...5 mins over the meet time and I'm gone..

This lifestyle is to sketchy as it is..

Pimps, Snowjobs and intersections aint my thang

MC

Omg MC Lmfao. This shits too funny