An affair
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I had an affair that lasted two years, and an earlier one that lasted several months. The shorter one was blazing in every sense, and ended with much woundedness all round. The longer one was more wholesome: it had its ups and downs, but by and large was a healthy thing. There was quite a bit of talk that we would end up together. I finally suggested we take a break, when she seemed uncertain, and I naively thought we would resume eventually. I'm still waiting, and it's now more than a decade later.
I have not seen her since, and we have no mutual friends, so I no longer think much about her. But she was a wonderful woman, and wonderful for me, on many levels. If her husband suddenly died tomorrow and she contacted me, I'd probably fall for her all over again.
I have not seen her since, and we have no mutual friends, so I no longer think much about her. But she was a wonderful woman, and wonderful for me, on many levels. If her husband suddenly died tomorrow and she contacted me, I'd probably fall for her all over again.
If she's willing to do it with you then she'll be willing to do it to you. It's the same for guys I'm sure.
So where does that leave things? Who knows. There are no guarantees in life, 'cept death and taxes.
So where does that leave things? Who knows. There are no guarantees in life, 'cept death and taxes.
I like that. Sounds kinda sweet and wistful. If I ever had an affair, I would want it to be something like that. Something I could look back on and sigh about in my declining years.
(of course, with my luck, if I ever did have an affair, it would be nothing like that and more like Fatal Attraction meets The Shining)
Is it an affair if I'm with a married woman?
Anyways, she's in the doghouse now (she's a wannabe porn star, cute but nowhere looking like a porn star, but performance still makes her interesting) and is a little emotionally insecure, so not very stable, and probably not a safe risk.
Anyways, she's in the doghouse now (she's a wannabe porn star, cute but nowhere looking like a porn star, but performance still makes her interesting) and is a little emotionally insecure, so not very stable, and probably not a safe risk.
I am presently seeing another woman going on 4 yrs now. She's divorced and doesn't want to ever get married or move in with another man again though she does have a boyfriend herself. She's 16 yrs younger than me and yes, most times we meet, it is sex. Actually, when I arrive we are into cuddling and sex not 5 minutes after the door closes. She enjoys most anything and it's usually non stop from when I arrive till I leave. It's convenient for me too cause she does have a steady job working nights so we are able to spend afternoons together. Also, she is very trustworthy as the only way we contact each other is through private emails. Have never talked on the phone, and either of us will only text when a time is set up. There has been times we haven't seen each other for almost 3..4 months, then other times it's been a couple times a week. The both of us just have the understanding that yes, we care for each other very much, yet, in no way will either of us jeopardize the others personal life.
This is one arrangement I know is going to stay together for a long time yet I feel. Personally, I feel I am very lucky. I have had other affairs in my life before. From long distance where we met half way to one when I was single and was seeing a married woman (was even friends with her husband). But this lady I am with now, and she is 43, is very sexy, attractive, and one of the hottest, and horniest, I have ever met.
For those of you that are thinking of having an affair... You meet up with a woman such as I have, you would be hard pressed to look any further.
This is one arrangement I know is going to stay together for a long time yet I feel. Personally, I feel I am very lucky. I have had other affairs in my life before. From long distance where we met half way to one when I was single and was seeing a married woman (was even friends with her husband). But this lady I am with now, and she is 43, is very sexy, attractive, and one of the hottest, and horniest, I have ever met.
For those of you that are thinking of having an affair... You meet up with a woman such as I have, you would be hard pressed to look any further.
I am at a crossroads really on this one. I ended up having an affair on two occasions. Both were to fill a need that wasn't there in my relationship at the time. Honestly, it's tough to find. What you fill with the affair ends up being empty of something else you want. You can fuck and fuck all you want but you end up missing something. Some posts here have found sex and they are happy with that. Other's I can tell are missing something in their current situation and want to find it elsewhere. I think just don't be in a relationship until you find the whole thing. Go and enjoy being single. Fuck, sleep, romance. Do what you need to find happiness - within legal bounds of course.
I don't know if this counts, but there's this girl I know. She was married to a friend who would rarely have sex with her, which I couldn't believe as she's really cute, still to this day. In the beginning I never thought she had any interest in me, until one day she dropped by my apartment. We had a couple drinks and she started telling me about the problems she was having and the lack of sex with her husband. The next thing I know she's rubbing my cock through my jeans. I stood up, she pulled down my pants and proceeded to give me one of the best BJ's I've ever had. That was 30 years ago.
She eventually got divorced and we've remained great friends. We've had sex 10 times or so and she's given me countless BJ's. She's never been someone I've wanted to have a serious relationship with and she feels the same way about me. We'd get horny, get each other off then go on our merry way, until next time. Zero drama.
When I met my wife, I introduced her to my friend. They hit it off from day one. About a year into my relationship with my now wife, we were out at a bar with friends. The three of us ended up going back to our place, the conversation turned to sex which lead to an amazing threesome. Since then we've had many more. Still to this day, she'll text me with "You busy? I want to suck your cock".
So yes, it's possible but from talking to others they usually go all wrong.
She eventually got divorced and we've remained great friends. We've had sex 10 times or so and she's given me countless BJ's. She's never been someone I've wanted to have a serious relationship with and she feels the same way about me. We'd get horny, get each other off then go on our merry way, until next time. Zero drama.
When I met my wife, I introduced her to my friend. They hit it off from day one. About a year into my relationship with my now wife, we were out at a bar with friends. The three of us ended up going back to our place, the conversation turned to sex which lead to an amazing threesome. Since then we've had many more. Still to this day, she'll text me with "You busy? I want to suck your cock".
So yes, it's possible but from talking to others they usually go all wrong.
AVOID AND NEVER HAVE AN AFFAIR! I don't care how hot, horny, rich, right or discrete the circumstances are don't do it!!! I came within inches of one, and no matter which way I looked at it, the downsides outweighed the upsides by far.
It is really rare for me to take such a strong stand, but affairs are not good in any way.
Those who have enjoyed them or who are in long term ones are quite frankly in denial of a whole whack of other issues with them.
It is really rare for me to take such a strong stand, but affairs are not good in any way.
Those who have enjoyed them or who are in long term ones are quite frankly in denial of a whole whack of other issues with them.
