Advice/Opinions

[chongqing]

Hi Guys

I need some advice and opinions from any of you on this forum.

I have been seeing the same mpa now for about five sessions, and it turns out that we were born and live in the same hometown which is about 2 hours from Toronto. During my last session, the mpa asked me if I wanted any of the other packages offered at the spa and I declined, however, I joked that we should grab a motel in our hometown and meet for a session and that way I won't have to drive 2 hours to see her and she will be able to offer perhaps more (and make more $$ by seeing me when not working at the spa).

Now, I'm new at this as I have never suggested to a mpa that we get a motel (perhaps because I know she would decline) but do you think that I should go for it and do you think she is making all her customers this offer and is she playing me for a sucker. What can I expect? When I asked her why she wanted to do this she said it's "because you're sweet and from ......."

What should I do, I'm kinda shy....

Thanks for the feedback

Cheers - chongqing

 

[destillat]

If you want to fuck her, then go for it.
But don't pretend it is more than a business transaction.

 

[Mr Bret]

If your sessions with her are pleasurable and you plan to continue to see her and she's up for it, then by all means go for it.

Just make sure you both agree to the parameters (price, limits, etc.) before you indulge.

But as destillat said, it's still just business.

 

[NorthernBear]

If she is suggesting packages offered at the spa what makes you think she would not be making the same offer to other customers?

 

[The Options Menu]

If she is suggesting packages offered at the spa what makes you think she would not be making the same offer to other customers?

My thoughts would be that you're known to her, so she/you can cut out the middle man, split the difference in price for more services, and reap better services... Take it for what it is, or don't.

 

[whitewaterguy]

Pretty simple...start with...."soooo, are any of these packages available outside of the spa?"........and if the answer seems to be yes...then propose options from there. A less overwhelming approach, and Also less likely to make you feel and look like a dork if she's not on the same wavelength

 

[Mr Bret]

Hi Guys

I need some advice and opinions from any of you on this forum.

I have been seeing the same mpa now for about five sessions, and it turns out that we were born and live in the same hometown which is about 2 hours from Toronto. During my last session, the mpa asked me if I wanted any of the other packages offered at the spa and I declined, however, I joked that we should grab a motel in our hometown and meet for a session and that way I won't have to drive 2 hours to see her and she will be able to offer perhaps more (and make more $$ by seeing me when not working at the spa).

Now, I'm new at this as I have never suggested to a mpa that we get a motel (perhaps because I know she would decline) but do you think that I should go for it and do you think she is making all her customers this offer and is she playing me for a sucker. What can I expect? When I asked her why she wanted to do this she said it's "because you're sweet and from ......."

What should I do, I'm kinda shy....

Thanks for the feedback

Cheers - chongqing

I reread the op and have a couple of questions for clarification because you said she offered other spa packages and you suggested the motel.

The way you've stated things, we don't know if she accepted your offer to meet at a motel. Did she accept?
If she offered other packages offered by the MP, then of course she's offering the same thing to other customers. Upselling is part of her job.
However, this in now way means she's offering take out to other customers.

If she agreed to your suggestion, she probably did so due to a few factors:
1) she sees you as a good customer. Five repeats already.
2) she doesn't feel threatened by you.
3) meeting you closer to home would be relatively easy money compared to her usual commute into TO.

Like I said before, as long as you're both clear on how things would work money wise and what the limits would be, GO FOR IT.

 

[Vegas]

If it's available to you, assume that it also available to others she's feel comfortable with.

There's really no cutting out the middle man when it comes to most MPA's though ... you'd be trading off a room fee for a hotel/motel fee which could be more expensive.

If it's just for a regular massage session, then I'd say it isn't worth it. On the other hand, if it was a session you couldn't do in the MP .... that's another story

 

[chongqing]

Thanks Mr Bret and Vegas. Just to clarify....

I suggested to her that we get a motel and she said yes.

Secondly, she did not offer me packages available at the spa, she asked me what I wanted and told her (FS) and she agreed.

Does this change your opinion of what I should do?

Thanks again

Chongqing

 

[Mr Bret]

Thanks Mr Bret and Vegas. Just to clarify....

I suggested to her that we get a motel and she said yes.

Secondly, she did not offer me packages available at the spa, she asked me what I wanted and told her (FS) and she agreed.

Does this change your opinion of what I should do?

Thanks again

Chongqing

Nope. Go for it.

And send me a pm with the name of the spa.
And her working name, if you're so inclined.

:wink:

 

[Hiding]

Voting for mentioning it and letting it drop easily. It's not about "being played for a sucker", it's about her comfort zones. If she wants to - score for you, less driving. If she doesn't - still score, you found someone worth seeing 5+ times.

 

[K Douglas]

Voting for mentioning it and letting it drop easily. It's not about "being played for a sucker", it's about her comfort zones. If she wants to - score for you, less driving. If she doesn't - still score, you found someone worth seeing 5+ times.

I vote for this to be one of the most insightful posts of 2015. If there were a Bible for Hobbyists and Providers this would be a Psalm.

 

[Vermeer27]

Sounds like you're into her, and maybe she's into you too. Just remember that sexworkers are much better at separating sex and emotions than civilians, including many men, that's how they're able to do the job. You could get hurt if you're not careful. Maybe she's worth getting hurt for, only you can decide.

 

[chongqing]

Vermeer27 and others

Do you guys think that anyone and everyone that works in a mp is a sexworker?. My opinion on the subject is that most are not (there are exceptions). The reason I believe this is because I think the majority of mpa are providing HJ's at the most and for me that does not constitute sex. Hence, the vast majority of mpa are not sexworkers and do not view themselves as such.

What do you guys think?

Cheers - Chongqing

 

[chongqing]

Sorry guys I forgot to add that I also believe strippers are not sexworkers and would not define themselves as such except for the minority that are offering FS but they are outliers.

Chongqing

 

[GPIDEAL]

I reread the op and have a couple of questions for clarification because you said she offered other spa packages and you suggested the motel.

The way you've stated things, we don't know if she accepted your offer to meet at a motel. Did she accept?
If she offered other packages offered by the MP, then of course she's offering the same thing to other customers. Upselling is part of her job.
However, this in now way means she's offering take out to other customers.

If she agreed to your suggestion, she probably did so due to a few factors:
1) she sees you as a good customer. Five repeats already.
2) she doesn't feel threatened by you.
3) meeting you closer to home would be relatively easy money compared to her usual commute into TO.

Like I said before, as long as you're both clear on how things would work money wise and what the limits would be, GO FOR IT.

Exactly!

She feels comfortable with the O.P. to do take-out. Simple as that. And if he likes her and is comfortable doing that with her, then by all means, go for it!

 

[GPIDEAL]

Vermeer27 and others

Do you guys think that anyone and everyone that works in a mp is a sexworker?. My opinion on the subject is that most are not (there are exceptions). The reason I believe this is because I think the majority of mpa are providing HJ's at the most and for me that does not constitute sex. Hence, the vast majority of mpa are not sexworkers and do not view themselves as such.

What do you guys think?

Cheers - Chongqing

The background paper on C-36 would suggest that strippers who do lap dances or MPAs that do HJ's are sex workers. Remember, being a sex worker is not illegal. It's the sexual service play for pay that is illegal for a john.

Officially, strippers and MPAs are not sex workers per se, although it depends on your definition of 'sex workers'.

 

[james t kirk]

Vermeer27 and others

Do you guys think that anyone and everyone that works in a mp is a sexworker?. My opinion on the subject is that most are not (there are exceptions). The reason I believe this is because I think the majority of mpa are providing HJ's at the most and for me that does not constitute sex. Hence, the vast majority of mpa are not sexworkers and do not view themselves as such.

What do you guys think?

Cheers - Chongqing

I think you are analysing it too much already.

Go for it and see how it goes.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Thanks Mr Bret and Vegas. Just to clarify....

I suggested to her that we get a motel and she said yes.

Secondly, she did not offer me packages available at the spa, she asked me what I wanted and told her (FS) and she agreed.

Does this change your opinion of what I should do?

Thanks again

Chongqing

Noooo. If you two hit it off, go for it. Don't advertise either.

 

[anonymong]

I'll take the other side and suggest you let it be as is. You have a good thing going that is not complicated. It is so easy for lines of communication to go awry ... even harmless flirting can be misinterpreted ...