Advice appreciated

[riley36]

As you can tell from my post count, I haven't really been an active TERbite for the last three years, but I have PMed and lurked here extensively, and have benefited greatly from the board.

Now I need advice.

Up until three months ago I was seeing a SP regularly, every two or three weeks. She was great. Funny, sexy, intelligent, and teriffic looking. However about three months ago she's decided she made her wad, so she was leaving the biz, and heading back to school. Me: disappointed, but what can you do.

Then I get an e-mail on the weekend.

She'd like to see me, no charge, because she misses me and our time together. She proposes lunch, a movie, then back to her place for some fun.

Now, she knows I'm married with a kid, 15 years older then her 23, and yet I'm torn. I can compartmentalize (obviously) so I don't think I'd have a problem (but who knows), but without the boundaries of the "paid" relationship maybe she can't.

I'm tempted to try it, as the sex was great and so was she, yet I have a nagging feeling that this is taking a turn for the worse.

Any and all thoughs are appreciated.

 

[LancsLad]

Don't do it. Could be fun for a bit but you have no way of knowing her expectations of where things may go. Great sex could easily turn into a major fuck up.

 

[Svend]

Go for it.
Make sure she realizes your priorities.
Find out if she can compartmentalize as well as you, if not then stop seeing her.

 

[RTRD]

What is that sound....?

As you can tell from my post count, I haven't really been an active TERbite for the last three years, but I have PMed and lurked here extensively, and have benefited greatly from the board.

Now I need advice.

Up until three months ago I was seeing a SP regularly, every two or three weeks. She was great. Funny, sexy, intelligent, and teriffic looking. However about three months ago she's decided she made her wad, so she was leaving the biz, and heading back to school. Me: disappointed, but what can you do.

Then I get an e-mail on the weekend.

She'd like to see me, no charge, because she misses me and our time together. She proposes lunch, a movie, then back to her place for some fun.

Now, she knows I'm married with a kid, 15 years older then her 23, and yet I'm torn. I can compartmentalize (obviously) so I don't think I'd have a problem (but who knows), but without the boundaries of the "paid" relationship maybe she can't.

I'm tempted to try it, as the sex was great and so was she, yet I have a nagging feeling that this is taking a turn for the worse.

Any and all thoughs are appreciated.

Ahhh...yes. Now I recognize it. The sound of "envy", from terbites worldwide (including me I guess).

I say (and I have no experience with these things) you have a very frank straight forward conversation with her about "compartmentalization". About her feelings and yours, and more to the point, your PRORITIES.

I personally would be a bit wary of the ability of a 23 yo to keep things in perspective since she doesn't (and never has) had the same sort of things "at risk" that you do, but hell, I could be wrong. She has been a pro - perhaps that experience gave her some real insight into the true meaning of the word "discretion" and the like.

That would be my advice - a no bullshit, no sugar coat conversation in which you explain that your wife and family ALWAYS come first, and that she should NEVER get it twisted...and that the first time she does anything that puts that relationship them at risk you will walk...and that if she does anything stupid after that ala "Fatal Attraction", she will be sorry.

Essentially, that you expect her to behave exactly as she did when you were paying her.

She might be offended - I dunno. I rather have that the risk a lack of clarity if I were in your situation...

Good luck you lucky bastard...

 

[white_knight]

I would seriously question her motives. Fact, she is 23 and you are 38. If she really wanted you for just sex, she could I am sure get that from any 38 year old,or younger. Sounds to me like some emotions are involved here. That's where I would be weary. Those kind of emotions have a way of making a woman go all psycho when she is not getting your undivided attention. Meaning, if she thinks you are paying too much attention to your family, and not her, there is no telling what she will do. Boiled rabbits may not be out of the question. And if there are emotions on her part, telling her it will be just physical won't work. I guarantee it.

 

[Svend]

I would seriously question her motives. Fact, she is 23 and you are 38. If she really wanted you for just sex, she could I am sure get that from any 38 year old,or younger.

True, but she knows he can be discreet, is a good in bed and won't develop attachments. That's rare in guys.
I suspect the guy knows if she's a bunny boiler by now but if there's a suspicion he can say no.

 

[Berlin]

You better proceed with caution if you are heading her way. Good luck.

Find out if she can compartmentalize as well as you, if not then stop seeing her.

Agreed.

 

[freshbreath]

why doesn't this stuff happen to me?
I'd be grateful for some of the "problems" you guys have

 

[ruck]

You wouldn't be grateful.
It's happened to me too but not with a pro.
Just some hot chick who liked the way I fucked her pussy. She said it's cool, lets keep things on the low. Lets just fuck and have a good time.
Next thing I know she's calling me all the time. When I tell her straight to set her straight again, she freaks out and calls me an asshole. Tells me I'll be sorry. I have since changed my personal numbers and any other form of contact she had with me. Thank christ, who I don't believe in, that I never took her to my place. What a psycho bitch.

The real reason, even if she's in denial, is that she's lonely. She doesn't LOVE your dick. You could be the best fuck in the world and I'm sure that's not the reason. Women just don't call guys out of the blue to ask for dinner and a screw. Well they do, but only the ones who are trying to snare someone. It's called seduction to fill the void of lonely habitation. She's not used to being by herself for such long periods. She's used to getting her puss stuffed with mens cocks and now she misses it. She is denial. She has feelings for you, deep rooted, and she'll fuck your life up.

DO NOT PROCEED, EVEN WITH CAUTION.

 

[freshbreath]

I'd love for any lady to give me attention
I'd even pay for it

 

[hapkido]

I agree with Ruck. But the little head is stronger than the mind. Temptation is too great for men.

 

[skypilot]

I had something similar happen a couple of years ago. SP retired , then in about 4 months I got an email saying she would like to meet with me. When we met she explained that she still needed extra money but was not going into the biz full time, just wanted to see her favorite regulars to pick up a little "pin money."
I still see her fairly regularly as do 3 or 4 others (she says) and its all good. She has a full time career (and a pretty good one at that) and picks up a little extra on the side.

 

[friendz4evr]

I had something similar happen a couple of years ago. SP retired , then in about 4 months I got an email saying she would like to meet with me. When we met she explained that she still needed extra money but was not going into the biz full time, just wanted to see her favorite regulars to pick up a little "pin money."
I still see her fairly regularly as do 3 or 4 others (she says) and its all good. She has a full time career (and a pretty good one at that) and picks up a little extra on the side.

This is more common than you think; that is why it is good to do repeats because the relationship still goes on even when the SP retires.

 

[RTRD]

ummm...

Its the World Series; bottom of the ninth; all tied up; 2 strikes, two outs, no one on base, the crowd is hushed with anticipation. Its a fast ball straight across the plate. You peg that sucker. Its going to the edge of the park. You round third and the crowd is going nuts. Its a fantasy. It's beyond FU$%*NG comprehension. Grown men are weeping like babies. And you hesitate. Uh why?......................
Its called choking. In sports it's even worse than cheating because at least a cheater wants to win. This is a dream come true. Its a fantasy, like that driver who found true love. You bang an escort for three years and now.......
she wants your manhood for free.
OH MY GAWD. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE!!!!!

Take that woman now! It isn't even illegal.

..you married? have kids?

Your perspective is a wee bit different when you know there are people you love who depend on you...and who you do not want to see hurt.

We all fuck around (well, most of us...I'm fighting like hell but the days might be short). It is what we do. We are men.

But you don't do so with a cavalier attitude - you weigh the risks. And speaking for myself, I could never look at my kid knowing how heartbroken he was that Daddy didn't come home everyday (and remember, the guy is 38, so he probably doesn't have a teenager) because he just had to have a CERTAIN piece of ass, versus just buying it like he had been.

 

[goalie000]

You got to take this slow and easy. It looks like she may be expecting more from you than you are willing to give. Set things straight right from the start so she knows where you are coming from and maybe you can figure out where she's going.

 

[riley36]

And speaking for myself, I could never look at my kid knowing how heartbroken he was that Daddy didn't come home everyday (and remember, the guy is 38, so he probably doesn't have a teenager) because he just had to have a CERTAIN piece of ass, versus just buying it like he had been.

You sir are absolutely right. What was I thinking of.

Thanks for all the input, especially from all the veteran posters. I'm calling her tonight and I'll just have to tell her no go, as much as my little head would want to.

It's the best all around. One rule about this hobby I’ve always had is not to get to personally involved. That’s what this appears to be leading to.

By the way, if you hear quiet sobbing from out in the east-end tonight, you’ll know that’s me.

 

[Svend]

Remember, you are committing adultery.

Perhaps that message should flash on the screen for all married guys on here.

 

[Big Sleazy]

Just ask yourself this question.

Can you afford to lose your house ? If so, go for it. If not, well you know the answer. Trust me when I say divorce is not the way to Freedom 55.

BS

 

[daty]

..............

Up until three months ago I was seeing a SP regularly, every two or three weeks. She was great. Funny, sexy, intelligent, and teriffic looking. However about three months ago she's decided she made her wad, so she was leaving the biz, and heading back to school. Me: disappointed, but what can you do.

...............

so at that pace you were hobbying you would have seen 4-6 SP's since she retired....how much hobbying are you doing in fact?

you are asking this question as i'll bet you have feelings beyond the hobby

how are things on the homefront?

be honest with yourself FIRST then dop the lunch MAYBE movie, then break bread but stop there until YOU BOTH KNOW how you feel and where things could or couldn't go

forget the 15 years at your age it is really not important at 55 to 70 not that huge



remember ..... be honest with yourself FIRST !!!!!!!!!!



.

 

[fantasiafan]

An escort has bestowed the highest honor any hobbiest can recieve.

A gorgeous retired escort, a 23 year old woman, with her own place has called a former client and stated that she is seeking a no strings attached physical relationship at no cost with him because he is the most virile and talented lover she has experienced in 3.5 years of being an escort. He has been a client since she was twenty.

And what do terbites have to say to this?

"Free Pussy, don't go there man. Don't do it, just say no to free pussy."

Words cannot express...............

I am willing to step up.

Please contact your friend and let her read this thread.

I am certianly not an amazing lover. I am an average man of ordinary girth. My mind has been dulled by my daily trips in the GTA commutershed, where I journey on a dreary road to middle age.

I can handle a meaningless physical relationship with a gourgeous twenty three year old retired escort. I can cope.

Please have her PM me as I am thoroughly willing to try to get my edge back.

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