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[Rockslinger]

yes a real midget- and this guy ALWAYS has very good looking woman hanging around him.

Shoot, I keep forgetting his name. What is the name of that midget on Fantasy Island? Didn't he have a 5'8" blond girlfriend?

 

[cute-bald]

Indeed there is ........

men who like BBW's & even parties for meeting them. Never read or heard of any women saying they preferr short men & no parties to meet them.

 

[genintoronto]

men who like BBW's & even parties for meeting them. Never read or heard of any women saying they preferr short men & no parties to meet them.

I give up.

Carry on blaming your height for your lack of sucess in finding a partner. It seems to work well for you.

 

[reboot]

@cute-bald... Congrats. You managed to hijack a thread on internet dating and turn it into a thread about your height. I regret responding to you.

FYI, there are men using the net who complain about women being rude by not responding to their contact, being gold diggers because they expect the guy to have a car or a job, being fill-in-the-blank-ist because they state certain preferences and so on. Oddly enough, there are ladies that do the same thing. I'm drawing on a few sources for this but the POF forums are a good example.

Almost every one of these individuals tends to have their own issues and they project those issues on to those they contact or are contacted by. Not everyone is going to like you and you won't like everyone that does. That is life. It does not imply that nobody is going to like you or that you will like nobody.

What the net offers is a way to search a massive data set to arrive at a subset of individuals who you are potentially interested in contacting. Not everyone is a great writer. Not everyone is a great talker. The basic rule of thumb after identifying who you're interested in contacting is to try different approaches until something actually works for you.

Good luck.

Yes there are wonderful stories from the net... Then there are the stalker ones too. LOL

True. The stalking thing though seems a bit overblown in my opinion. The net is basically a very safe medium for interaction. What gets people in trouble, from the stuff I've read, tends to be what I'd call desparateness and a failure to see issues that are obvious to anyone thinking about it.

Why not take Dating advice from SP?

Well... if you're gonna recommend TERB for dating, I'd advise against it ;-)

dating sites are scams

No. All dating sites have scammers on them, true. Not all the people using a particular service are scammers. It is fairly easy to pick out the scammers in my experience.

There are I believe two important caveats to your statement... 1) the word "free"

Not true. POF is free and it works very well. Again, it takes some common sense (not paranoia though) when first interacting with someone. There are some basic rules too. Don't send money to someone you haven't even met is one of the big rules.

2) sites that really aren't about dating but rather about "one night stands."

TERB is essentially a one-night-stand sort of site of sorts. It isn't a scam site though. There are lots of sites that essentially offer prostitution without saying so. If you're looking for dating, you are simply looking in the wrong place and I get the feeling that again the users who feel cheated by it are simply not doing their own homework on understanding that. For example, a site where you're finding women who are available to everyone and seem to have very sexy pictures and hints that sex is there for the taking are likely to expect a fee. Lol.

...Perhaps the realm of online dating isn't showcasing your strengths and your qualities that matter the most in a mate...

Without mentioning a specific person in this respect, I think it is possible to showcase anyone's positives and probably more effectively on the net than elsewhere. A profile can be refined to the point of being a perfect sales pitch in images and text. If anything, it allows you to present a better image than can possibly be achieved otherwise. Get professional photographs done and posted, for example, and you'll look better than you'll ever look in person.

...online dating does tend to be less forgiving than 'in person' dating when it comes to physical appearance...

I'd disagree. The expectations of the initial presentation are higher, granted. That would be because of the tremendous capacity to polish the profile with some effort. Polish implies effort, hence seriousness. Adding a picture increases interest, for example. Adding a good picture increases interest that much more.

 

[opieshuffle]

Blah Blah Blah...

men who like BBW's & even parties for meeting them. Never read or heard of any women saying they preferr short men & no parties to meet them.

I'm 5 7. I married a woman 5 10". Split and since then dated women from 5 2 to 5 10 again. (I like the tall women!). I play soccer. I play some hockey. I make great conversation, tell jokes, and have FUN! It's not so much about "game" as ATTITUDE. The number of women I know who say a confident plain looking dude trumps the hot tall fumbling stud everytime. (but if you go for the club bimbos...expect disappointment!)

I know a LOT of short bald guys who get laid a LOT because they go out to have fun, treat women with respect, have confidence and don't BS.

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[Tiffany_69]

double standard

Many dating sites seem to let women on for free and men have to pay.

I think that is flawed.

 

[i am one]

Adding to what's already been said, there are also a lot of fake profiles on PoF and LL. A LOT. PoF is especially known for it. With LL you can spot the fakes by either 1.) 1-2 sentence profile that doesn't say anything (if you have to create hundreds of fake profiles a day then you're going to run out of original material); 2.) the obviously fake model shot photo (if you can spot the fakes on CL then you can spot them here as well); or 3.) the same headline used by multiple people (this has been more obvious recently).