A question regarding coffee dates as the first date.

[Tashki]

I don’t know where else I can ask but I need advice. I use to take women out for dinner as a first date until I found out that apparently there’s men who take women out on coffee dates as a first date.

I love women who get their breasts enhanced, has ass implants or a BBL, gets their nails done long, has lip fillers and likes getting Botox work done on their face. If I were to ask any woman who has all of the physical attributes that I just described out for a coffee date, do you honestly think they would find that acceptable?

 

[Fred Flinstone]

Just a guess, but any women who has that much work done, probably because of very low self esteem, she's expecting more than coffee. Good luck with that.

 

[angrymime666]

I wouldnt know since Im not into that kind of woman. I can only speculate that given the lifestyle they like to live they would prefer and have higher expectations of what would be done for a first date.

 

[LTO_3]

A coffee date is only to get to know each other and potentially lay the groundwork for future meetings. If you like each other, then details about each other will happen. Depending on who you're meeting, some info will come quicker than with others. Remember it's a "first date" so the woman you described may not look like a barbie doll unless you're willing to make her look that way.
Besides if she doesn't like a coffee date then she's likely not for you and you've saved a lot of money too.

LTO_3

 

[poker]

Well…. There’s more than one woman like that. Ask one… or 2. If it’s a hard “no”, then you’ll know.

Explain to them that you’re tired of predatorial women trying to use you. Word it so you’re high value…. When women see you as high value, they will follow you anywhere.

And there is nothing wrong with meeting for coffee… see if there is a vibe. If there is, take her dinner that night… or move it to a bar.

I have had a couple women use me for the “free meal” (you can tell by the way they talk). I am a little more weary now.

It sucks these days that social media has corrupted people. I’m sure it’s not easy for women either.

 

[Erosboy]

Coffee isn't a date. It's a date precursor. You go for coffee to see if a date will be a good idea.

 

[canada-man]

 

[Tashki]

How did I know you were going to post a Darius video? Lol.

 

[Spunky1]

Pick a coffee shop around Yorkville and maybe she’ll meet you after her procedure .
You may have to help her drink her coffee through a straw if she doesn’t have any feeling in her lips.

 

[Pleasure Hound]

This is what I love about BBWs (on top of their sexiness). They are not as fussy as the plastic Barbies.....

 

[Robert Mugabe]

This is what I love about BBWs (on top of their sexiness). They are not as fussy as the plastic Barbies.....

Same goes for crack whores. If you prefer them skinny.

 

[GeeBee]

Sure coffee is a good first date for anyone. You both get to assess the vibe and its as long or short as feels comfortable. As someone said above move on to a drink or diner if it feels right, or at least arrange one for another time.

BTW always remember what she orders. File it away and one day when you’re meeting for a morning hookup bring one along for her, or have one waiting for her if you ever meet for coffee again. Woman absolutely notice that stuff.

Not sure how she’s gonna drink the coffee with those freaking long nails!! But hey that’s her problem.

 

[IM469]

Why does this guy strike me as a guy who is either a virgin or has only paid for a woman's company ?

How low is your self esteem to follow these self anointed lady killers ? "Lady's strategy is to look for an unsuspecting sucker ...' ' as a man, we want to spend the least amount of time and money before we get sex'.

Those that are shy - stay away from the advice of a misogynistic boar. You will know them as they sound like big game hunters looking for prey. The more you realize that women are human and capable of similar interests as you, the sooner you will be able to communicate easier. Talk to the check out girl, the waitress - you don't have to want to fuck them. The more you open up and treat women as friends (not targets), the easier you will find to reach those that you are attracted and the more at ease they will be talking to you.

(Just a suggestion from the peanut gallery)

 

[superman12]

Really just depends on the women and the lifestyle she lives and how high maintenance she might be. If she's always glammed up and knows she's hot and gets a lot of attention from guys then a coffee date as a first date probably won't cut it because there are 100's of guys who would offer her a lot more for a first date. If the girl is average looking and lives an average lifestyle and doesn't get a lot of attention from men then she will probably be ok with just a coffee date to get to know you. Based on the description of the kind of women your looking for a coffee date probably won't cut it if your goal is to get into her pants eventually.