A question for the men-

[IM469]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

1) Two parts a) If I didn't have to work, you bought me things, cooked, washed my stuff and bring home an occasional friend ... I could date long time :eyebrows:
b) If we in a serious relationship - then if you wanted money - even offering a discount - I'm out. If we start getting serious - yes I would want you to change careers.

2) If we are a couple - we would have expenses we can share but I'm not paying for separate living accomodations, etc.

3) I wouldn't worry about past history - I'm only concerned with the future besides if you met me as a client were even.

 

[MadonnaLove]

I hear you, Madonna. Let's fast forward this and you are now married to the love of your life whom you met in these circumstances. It's friday and you were hoping he would be home in time for a candlelight dinner or take you wherever. Instead he txt you and either says "Sorry hun, got problems at work." or "Hey hun, I'm with this other chick right now cause she showed me this wicked yoga position, you're ok with that.. right??"

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this.

Well first of all i don't think men were meant to be monogamous,so let me get that out the way. Second of all if he made plans with me first then ditched me of course I'd be pissed. If he was honest from the get go letting me know he's seeing another woman I'd respect him more then have him give me stories. So ya it would have to be an open relationship. I can't expect him to to be only with me if i'm a sp.
So ya i would want honesty and that my friend is hard to come by.

 

[Marla]

I suggest to my SO that we bring in another escort for him because I know men love variety. He thinks i am wierd. The relationship isn't going anywhere and if I embark on another one I would make sure he didn't cheat by always bringing in another woman and having threesomes and making sure he spent most of the time with her.

I think if I did this every three weeks it would prevent him from cheating and also make our sex life very interesting. Let's face it- I have learned from this business that men like a variety of women and that doesn't mean they aren't going to be faithful and stay in love so I might as well be proactive and preempt the cheating.

 

[piano8950]

You mean we're not just horny bastards? :frusty:

Oh, I know. SOPHISTICATED horny bastards!

Keep the stereotype real.

Well_ I tried. Back to the stereotype for me

 

[GPIDEAL]

As a hobbyist, I don't think I can accept a 'civilian' or vanilla wife.

So dating an SP is conceivable, especially if I occasionally enjoy swinging.

There are some ladies where I've said half tongue-in-cheek, "If you were my girl, I wouldn't need to hobby" (I probably would hobby less if I were married anyways, as I'm single).

If one hobbies less, one may have more disposable income to afford your SP wife to downsize or quit.

It would help to know her history (as someone else said) if I was to marry her, so yes, it is possible.

In any event, it's hard to predict if this could or would happen, since I haven't been involved with an SP on the basis that Marla is talking about.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I suggest to my SO that we bring in another escort for him because I know men love variety. He thinks i am wierd. The relationship isn't going anywhere and if I embark on another one I would make sure he didn't cheat by always bringing in another woman and having threesomes and making sure he spent most of the time with her.

I think if I did this every three weeks it would prevent him from cheating and also make our sex life very interesting. Let's face it- I have learned from this business that men like a variety of women and that doesn't mean they aren't going to be faithful and stay in love so I might as well be proactive and preempt the cheating.

I think I'm in love ... :biggrin1:

(Seriously, I've had a discussion with someone about this, and we probably were humoring each other. She said that she wouldn't want me to hobby or cheat, but was afraid that I couldn't be loyal to one woman. I told her that I could BUT that IF she continued to work, she would have to throw me a bone - that is, another lady as in a threesome.)

 

[kalam]

Marla clear your inbox please.

 

[Titalian]

I suggest to my SO that we bring in another escort for him because I know men love variety. He thinks i am wierd. The relationship isn't going anywhere and if I embark on another one I would make sure he didn't cheat by always bringing in another woman and having threesomes and making sure he spent most of the time with her.

I think if I did this every three weeks it would prevent him from cheating and also make our sex life very interesting. Let's face it- I have learned from this business that men like a variety of women and that doesn't mean they aren't going to be faithful and stay in love so I might as well be proactive and preempt the cheating.

Interesting ! Do you also have a solution for smoking ??

 

[harryass]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

my quick and get to the point reply:
1 no

2 yes and yes

3a not applicable I want to remain single.
3b no. she could think the same thing of me.

 

[andythegreek]

No problem in dating an SP as these girls are a lot of fun ,but it is hard to figure out is it the SP your falling in love with or the fantasy ,as we our only there for an hour at a time .I don,t think the past bagage matters as long as you have trust and a open relationship that you can talk about what ever with out having to hide any thing .One thing for sure you would have an amazing Sex life !

 

[canman1]

I suggest to my SO that we bring in another escort for him because I know men love variety. He thinks i am wierd. The relationship isn't going anywhere and if I embark on another one I would make sure he didn't cheat by always bringing in another woman and having threesomes and making sure he spent most of the time with her.

I think if I did this every three weeks it would prevent him from cheating and also make our sex life very interesting. Let's face it- I have learned from this business that men like a variety of women and that doesn't mean they aren't going to be faithful and stay in love so I might as well be proactive and preempt the cheating.

Marla, there are a lot of men, who when they find the right woman, they will stay faithful. But they would also expect the same from you. When a man finds the right woman, then others are no longer important to him. The main issue is finding the right partner, so neither of you, would want anyone else. From your questions, it would seem that you have not. For an SP wanting a permanent relationship, she would have to give up that part. The time would be when commitment, has risen from dating into full marriage. If a SP wishes, to have both, she is not committed, so neither will he consider that they are.

 

[Ironhead]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

Before I look at even one response I would like to give my opinion.

Q1 ... Not at all.

Q2 ... I would hope that she would want to find another job and of course I would gladly help with her(now our) expenses.
Our(wife and I) house is paid for in full. Cars are also paid for.
Short answer is yes, I would hope she finds another job and as I already stated I would hope she feels the same.

Q3 ... Although marriage is not high on my list I have no problem with her past. I would not have started a relationship with her if that would become a problem.
I would not care who recognized her from her past.

 

[Marla]

Yes, I have quit and know how to quit would you like me to pm you?