A question for the men-

[Marla]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

 

[drlove]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

1) Well, I'm pretty good at separating fantasy from reality so I don't think I'd be falling in love with her as I would check my emotions at the door. The chances of any feelings being reciprocated are slim to none. I've been hobbying for almost fifteen years, and in all that time I've only heard of a few cases where this has happened and actually worked out.

2) I feel she can decide for herself what type of work she wants to do, and if it's escorting - so be it.


3) I think if you're marrying someone, you better know their history! lol. Better that than to have unexpected surprises down the road! If someone recognizes her, so what? I'd say it would be rare, but if it happens, it happens - just deal with it in a professional manner and leave it at that.

 

[Titalian]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

Marla !! This is a loaded question and my answer to you is, it depends on alot of things,
just like any other type of courting civi or not.
The fact that she is or, was an escort would not be a deterrent for me.

 

[Titalian]

1)Better that than to have unexpected surprises down the road!

Hey Doc., absolutely , good quote.

 

[scdave2003]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

No

Wouldn't have to work

Yes

I have fallen in love with a sp and I believe she with me. We both realize that the time isn't right at the moment but both will wait. I have told her I wouldn't stand in the way if another love came into her life as I am unable to commit at this time. I would want to proceed cautiously to make sure it was right for us.

 

[freedom3]

If DD (all natural), then nothing else matters.

 

[oil&gas]

If the ideal wife is one who knows your hobby intimately no
one can better your favourite MPA/SP. She will know every trick
in the book used by cheating husbands to sneak away to the
weakly therapuetic treatment. She will be able to figure out all
kind of excuses you use to cover up your dinner date appointment
with her former colleagues. When I decide to live like a wholesome
traditional family man for the rest of my life I will bring a diamond
ring to my favourite MPA.

 

[Titalian]

If DD (all natural), then nothing else matters.

One thing I can say, You are focused,

 

[interactive]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

1. No - wouldn't bother me.
2. No, she could do what ever line of work she desires - she is not my possession - she doesn't need my approval to do (or not do) as she wishes. Help her with her expenses? what? no? If my earlier answer was that I would like her to stop escorting and she did so for me - I still would never subsidize her life because of it. If a lady leaves this profession because of me - I ain't filling in the money gap.
3. History wouldn't be a problem. Wouldn't care if people knew her past. No stigma in my view.

 

[geozeta]

Wasnt falling in love with her but she was the best I have ever had. We could go 2 hours non stop. Bought her presents in appreciation. Then she decided to suspend working in order to spend time with me. I made it very clear going in that her past precluded any marriage. And I made sure her friend was a witness. She said she understood.

Well, six months of dining out continuously all over town and having the best sex of my life came the question of whether we could get engaged. And the answer unfortuantely was no. Poor girl claimed to be heart broken and that ended our beautiful relationship.

There is a good chance we would be hitched if she wasnt an industry girl because she satisfied everything I want in a permanent mate - super hot spinner in her thirties, off the chart sex and a truly fun girl to be with. But I cant hitch with someone who has serviced hundreds of guys. Just cant erase that out of my mind.

Happened to me as well. It was heartbreaking for the both of us but I had to do it. You'll never get it out of your mind and vice versa once committed and it won't end from there. I know it's natural to take things to the next level but the next level is not what you'll expect. It's a sad reality.

I have thought about this for awhile and my view is that if you truly love a sp, stay as friends and help her find the right person (it's very hard to set your emotions aside btw because you obviously love her). Both of you will be happier that way and retain the friendship that started it all.

 

[MadonnaLove]

Wasnt falling in love with her but she was the best I have ever had. We could go 2 hours non stop. Bought her presents in appreciation. Then she decided to suspend working in order to spend time with me. I made it very clear going in that her past precluded any marriage. And I made sure her friend was a witness. She said she understood.

Well, six months of dining out continuously all over town and having the best sex of my life came the question of whether we could get engaged. And the answer unfortuantely was no. Poor girl claimed to be heart broken and that ended our beautiful relationship.

There is a good chance we would be hitched if she wasnt an industry girl because she satisfied everything I want in a permanent mate - super hot spinner in her thirties, off the chart sex and a truly fun girl to be with. But I cant hitch with someone who has serviced hundreds of guys. Just cant erase that out of my mind.

I know civilian woman that have slept with as many men as i have and yet some of you would consider her marriage material because she wasn't an sp. You may have just lost the love of your life. I used to think that it was a bad thing to fall in love with a client but its happened to me twice even being very professional love hits you upside the head and kabam you don't know what hit you. Both times were good experiences even though they didn't work out for the long haul. I realize that anything is possible so now i keep an open mind i'm not looking for it but if its a mutual connection i'm going for it. I rather have a guy know the real me then try and hide my job because having regrets suck and life is too short to not be happy.Love is blind

 

[geozeta]

I know civilian woman that have slept with as many men as i have and yet some of you would consider her marriage material because she wasn't an sp. You may have just lost the love of your life. I used to think that it was a bad thing to fall in love with a client but its happened to me twice even being very professional love hits you upside the head and kabam you don't know what hit you. Both times were good experiences even though they didn't work out for the long haul. I realize that anything is possible so now i keep an open mind i'm not looking for it but if its a mutual connection i'm going for it. I rather have a guy know the real me then try and hide my job because having regrets suck and life is too short to not be happy.Love is blind

I hear you, Madonna. Let's fast forward this and you are now married to the love of your life whom you met in these circumstances. It's friday and you were hoping he would be home in time for a candlelight dinner or take you wherever. Instead he txt you and either says "Sorry hun, got problems at work." or "Hey hun, I'm with this other chick right now cause she showed me this wicked yoga position, you're ok with that.. right??"

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this.

 

[piano8950]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

Not sure what you mean. I doubt I'd date an SP because if I think I'm falling for her, I'd cut it off because I know it won't go anywhere. If you're talking about if I was somehow in a relationship with an SP, I wouldn't have any issue dating her.

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

If we were dating, she can do whatever she wants. If we got serious, I think we'd need to talk. If we got married, I honestly don't know how I'd feel. I want to say that I wouldn't really care because I don't see anything wrong with sex work, but I can't be certain unless I'm in that position.

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

Sex work isn't evil, or wrong. It's a field of work that I have no issue with, so it wouldn't be a factor if I want to marry her or not. If someone from her past recognizes her, so be it, it is like saying I married a therapist and an old client bumped into her, it's a non-issue. As for the stigma, I've had to deal with being discriminated due to race, religion, and political views. What's a little more going to hurt?

 

[piano8950]

most of these answers could easily be interpreted as "Marla, if you're looking for a man I'm in!"

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that most men want more then sex in a relationship, despite stereotypes of us.

 

[trvlnexec]

If I were to remarry again, I would not have an issue with her being a SP. I am older, in my mid 50's, and I am a nudist.
Nudists tend to be very open and carefree, I mean how many guys would be able to watch their partner dancing nude with a strange man, nudists do it all the time at the nude clubs.
I for one like the carefree spirit and open minded thinking of a good SP. It is that attitude that I would look for in a future wife or partner.

A lot of divorces end due to sexual differences or lack of variety, an SP has a much different view point.

I wouldn't want her to give up her profession unless she truly wanted to, but she would also have to understand that I may or may not give up using other SP's when I travel on business

 

[one.of.a.kind]

Would you have a problem dating an sp for a long period of time if you were falling in love with her?

No problem

Would you want her to find another suitable kind of work and if so would you be willing to help her with her expenses if she downsized for you?

Her choice

Would you consider marrying her knowing her history? Or would you always be concerned that someone from her past would recognize her? And be turned off by the stigma.

Not a problem. Is Friday good for you?

 

[fuji]

I would have no problem dating an SP, but the relationship would have to remain relatively casual while she is working. I would not (claim to) go exclusive with someone who has sex with others for a living. We all know that SP's sometimes enjoy that sex so I wouldn't limit my options either. That would mean, for me, not living together, but just casually dating.

If she ever quit being an SP I would have no problem taking that further and if it was right I would have no problem with marriage.

An important caveat there is that I would never ask her or force her to quit being an SP, but she would probably know that things couldn't go to the next level while she was one. That is a bit of a tight rope to walk. The issue is you cannot control people so if you pressure or coerce her to quit you may find out she had secretly retained a few regulars or still works the odd shift or something. So it had to be genuinely her choice to quit.

Anyway, my expectation is that the SP would have the bigger emotional issue. Most SP's rationalize what they do as business, something they do to earn money. Clients are the reverse, we spend money for sex. Any SP knows that the odds a client would stop using SP's completely is pretty low. In the back of her mind she knows things other women may be more oblivious to.

Once an SP exits the business SHE may be the one with the trust issues around a former client, and her wariness may be well placed.

People like to say one a prostitute always a prostitute, but it is even more true to say once a client, always a client.

 

[geozeta]

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that most men want more then sex in a relationship, despite stereotypes of us.

You mean we're not just horny bastards? :frusty:

Oh, I know. SOPHISTICATED horny bastards!

Keep the stereotype real.

 

[scdave2003]

Wasnt falling in love with her but she was the best I have ever had. We could go 2 hours non stop. Bought her presents in appreciation. Then she decided to suspend working in order to spend time with me. I made it very clear going in that her past precluded any marriage. And I made sure her friend was a witness. She said she understood.

Well, six months of dining out continuously all over town and having the best sex of my life came the question of whether we could get engaged. And the answer unfortuantely was no. Poor girl claimed to be heart broken and that ended our beautiful relationship.

There is a good chance we would be hitched if she wasnt an industry girl because she satisfied everything I want in a permanent mate - super hot spinner in her thirties, off the chart sex and a truly fun girl to be with. But I cant hitch with someone who has serviced hundreds of guys. Just cant erase that out of my mind.

You hypocrit, how many women have you dicked? You both know where you've been, if you came to a mutual decision on the future then why not get together.

I think Fuji nailed it in his last comment. Said what I feel and better put.

 

[buttercup]

Wasnt falling in love with her but she was the best I have ever had. We could go 2 hours non stop. Bought her presents in appreciation. Then she decided to suspend working in order to spend time with me. I made it very clear going in that her past precluded any marriage. And I made sure her friend was a witness. She said she understood.

Well, six months of dining out continuously all over town and having the best sex of my life came the question of whether we could get engaged. And the answer unfortuantely was no. Poor girl claimed to be heart broken and that ended our beautiful relationship.

There is a good chance we would be hitched if she wasnt an industry girl because she satisfied everything I want in a permanent mate - super hot spinner in her thirties, off the chart sex and a truly fun girl to be with. But I cant hitch with someone who has serviced hundreds of guys. Just cant erase that out of my mind.

No, indeed you were not "falling in love" with her. You sound like the kind of twerp who, if he found his daughter was involved in sex work, would disown her. Or, if he found his mother had been a prostitute, would disown her, too.

People -- women -- are what they are. Love means loving a woman for herself, baggage and all. What you have is love of your own idea of how you want a woman to be.

If your life is blighted by an image you can't erase from your mind, recognize that you have a problem, and seek help.