A kind of a whine, a followup to Recommendation request

[DavidO]

I hugely appreciate the info from folks, it was vastly appreciated.

I asked for recommendations for a petite SP. I got a bunch of replies; I looked at the replies, and the PMs, and made my decision. Contacted the lady, all seemed well.

I asked for a specific mode of dress, though: "I have a thing for women in short skirts or dresses and tights or pantyhose, but no bra or panties. Could this be you?".

She replied "Yup I can do that I have a cute short dress that is form fitting."

We made the appointment, I arrived, knocked on the door. The door was opened by a petite, very attractive young woman with bare legs, wearing a lovely flowing calf-length dress with spaghetti straps and a pink bra underneath. I commented that she hadn't followed my request, and she replied that maybe she hadn't got it.

I didn't stay.


I don't understand why this seems to be so difficult. This isn't the first time I've made this request, had it agreed to, only to have the lady ignore it completely.

Ideas, folks? What am I doing wrong?

DavidO

 

[20yritch]

Ideas, folks? What am I doing wrong?DavidO

Well first off, it sounds like you were a bit inflexible in that she didn't precisely dress as requested. You could have reminded her and suggested you see if you could remove the bra as a fun icebreaker!

Ladies that are petite tend to have small breasts, but the fashion industry has responded with push up bras, that make it appear that they have a handful, until bra is gone. So my guess is she preferred to look sexy rather than cede to you request to wear no bra.

 

[D-Blue]

The door was opened by a petite, very attractive young woman

I didn't stay.

I don't understand why this seems to be so difficult.

What am I doing wrong?

DavidO

You didn't stay! It's not easy to have some fun with a very attractive young woman if you don't stay :frusty:

 

[Paradise Spa & Angel's Touch]

If you have an expectation best to buy the outfit yourself and she can put it on for you

 

[mustang1967]

I agree with you, if it was an agency and they didn't tell her, then she should deal with them, if she ignored it, then good for you. Sometimes if they are visiting they may not have the outfit but don't say ok, knowing you will probably stay. Again you kept your end of the deal showing up at the time agreed upon, if she doesn't keep her side then bolt

 

[DavidO]

If you have an expectation best to buy the outfit yourself and she can put it on for you

I asked in advance, and was told she would wear what I'd asked. If she'd said that she didn't have what I wanted, that'd be different.

As someone said in a PM -- it's mot just sex, but the whole experience.

 

[Paradise Spa & Angel's Touch]

In your initial post you asked this ....."Ideas, folks? What am I doing wrong?" So my suggestion was for you to bring the outfit then nothing can be forgotten or not up to your satisfaction

I asked in advance, and was told she would wear what I'd asked. If she'd said that she didn't have what I wanted, that'd be different.

As someone said in a PM -- it's mot just sex, but the whole experience.

 

[LikeRedHeads]

She has forgotten: we are humans and it happens sometimes. You are not the only client with specifics. I would have stayed, especially if she was recommended by Terbites. Your loss in this case.

 

[blackram]

I asked for a specific mode of dress, though: "I have a thing for women in short skirts or dresses and tights or pantyhose, but no bra or panties. Could this be you?".

She replied "Yup I can do that I have a cute short dress that is form fitting."

We made the appointment, I arrived, knocked on the door. The door was opened by a petite, very attractive young woman with bare legs, wearing a lovely flowing calf-length dress with spaghetti straps and a pink bra underneath. I commented that she hadn't followed my request, and she replied that maybe she hadn't got it.

I didn't stay.


I don't understand why this seems to be so difficult. This isn't the first time I've made this request, had it agreed to, only to have the lady ignore it completely.

Ideas, folks? What am I doing wrong?

DavidO

Well, I wouldn't have been so picky, but it's your money, you made the request and it seemed to be agreed to, so the fact it wasn't honoured seems like a reasonable enough reason to leave. This is entirely your fantasy, and you are entitled to request it.

What did you do wrong? I'd just say to be more flexible with your fantasies. Going through with it, might have resulted in things going better than your wildest imagination.

 

[Rocky Racoon]

DavidO, I agree that it's not just about sex and the whole fantasy aspect of it is important but I think you could have given her a chance to correct the situation when you met her. You could have had her remove her bra and put on thights at the start of the session.

To me, this sounds just like a case of miscommunication, where she understood that you wanted her to wear a dress but did not pay attention to the "no bra" and "tights or pantyhose" details. Maybe you did not pronounce it clearly on the phone, or her line broke up for a second, or her cat jumped on her lap at that moment, or something caught her attention on TV, or she forgot after she hung up, or whatever... who knows?

What I notice from your description of the encounter is that she tried to accomodate your request (by wearing the dress) but not completely. Still, she was obviously willing to try. I think she just didn't understand how important this seems to be to you. Had it been me, I would have asked her if it was possible to keep the dress, but remove the bra and put on tights or pantyhose before starting the session. If she refused, THEN you would have been justified to leave.

Well... In fact, had it been me, I would just have stayed anyway and fucked the hell out of that "petite, very attractive young woman with bare legs, wearing a lovely flowing calf-length dress with spaghetti straps and a pink bra underneath", but that's because I'm not picky with the dress code!

BTW, one problem I see with the suggestion from Paradise spa & Angel's Touch is that you don't necessarily know if ithe clothes are going to fit the girl. I guess you can ask for her mensurations, height, etc. on the phone and go shop before you meet her, but it's always a little more complicated.

 

[Ice-T]

I'd like to know who this attractive young lady was so I can go see her

 

[randy36]

DavidO, how was the overall experience with this attractive young lady. How did the date go other than this dress issue.

BTW, you are allowed to take names in this board and gives chance to other person to come back with their side of the story..

 

[FatOne]

I am 0 for 2 with indys for a very simple clothing request. Simple in that any female should be able to do it within their wardrobe. I didn't make a big deal of it though.

 

[LikeRedHeads]

DavidO, how was the overall experience with this attractive young lady. How did the date go other than this dress issue.

BTW, you are allowed to take names in this board and gives chance to other person to come back with their side of the story..

There was no experience: he said he left. We are suspecting it is Julia but he still has to confirm this.

 

[randy36]

oops!! my fumble....

There was no experience: he said he left. We are suspecting it is Julia bit he still has to confirm this.

 

[davelate]

There was no experience: he said he left. We are suspecting it is Julia but he still has to confirm this.

Who's Julia?

 

[DavidO]

A few things:

• I'm not going to name names here. It was my problem, I'm looking for ways to solve it.
• Things didn't break up on the phone -- the entire arrangement was conducted via PM, and the entire thread was requoted on each message.
• I was grumpy after a particularly lousy day of things going wrong.

I have contacted her since, and we've kissed and made up, as it were. With any luck, I will be visiting her again.

The whole conversation in this thread is, I find, really interesting. The majority of folks who post seem to think I should have stayed anyway. The majority of those who PM'd me think that I did the right thing. :frusty:

I figure it's kind of like going for a good meal. If I ordered filet mignon rare with mashed, and got prime rib with a salad -- some days I'd take it, some times I'd send it back.

But in my own business, if I don't show up with the appropriate stuff for the client, I might not work again. And my hourly rate isn't near an SP's rate...

 

[birddogs]

A few things:

• I'm not going to name names here. It was my problem, I'm looking for ways to solve it.
• Things didn't break up on the phone -- the entire arrangement was conducted via PM, and the entire thread was requoted on each message.
• I was grumpy after a particularly lousy day of things going wrong.

I have contacted her since, and we've kissed and made up, as it were. With any luck, I will be visiting her again.

The whole conversation in this thread is, I find, really interesting. The majority of folks who post seem to think I should have stayed anyway. The majority of those who PM'd me think that I did the right thing. :frusty:

I figure it's kind of like going for a good meal. If I ordered filet mignon rare with mashed, and got prime rib with a salad -- some days I'd take it, some times I'd send it back.

But in my own business, if I don't show up with the appropriate stuff for the client, I might not work again. And my hourly rate isn't near an SP's rate...

I totally agree with this last bit. I've seen girls where they don't have a fucking clue who you are and what's been previously exchanged (via calls, e-mails, or PMs), and the possible explanations for this are all bad.

 

[DocOdd]

I totally agree with this last bit. I've seen girls where they don't have a fucking clue who you are and what's been previously exchanged (via calls, e-mails, or PMs), and the possible explanations for this are all bad.

Good point. I have heard of sleazy underground agencies where the SPs are advertised as if they were indepedent, and where the owner is really the one who responds to all e-mails and PMs.

 

[LikeRedHeads]

I was one of those who said "I would have stayed", but added especially if she was recommended by Terbites. Of course it's your money and you can leave, but in this case if the girl was recommended by a number of Terbites, you would have enjoyed your time with her for sure. For the fantasy part, you would have had to postpone it for a later date (as you just did anyway). But if you can't enjoy yourself without this particular fantasy, then you did the right thing when you left.