A Few Questions From A Guy Lacking Intimate Experience...

[Dement Ed]

My suggestion is that you pick an escort who allows MSOG. With it being your first time, multiple positions would probably be important to you. Getting to know how each position feels, and how to perform in any given scenario. If, you're completely nervous about that aspect, then girl on top is the position for you.

Have you ever read Men's Health magazine? They often write about sex, the likes and dislikes of women, and the do's and don'ts in intimate relations. Their website used to have a "positions master" link, with pictures, and key descriptors.

I suggest not meeting the escort in the night club. A motel, or hotel room is just fine. Perhaps bring a bottle of wine or champagne to relax the two of you. But do not get drunk, as performance from the male perspective is much more difficult when intoxicated. After you're done, meet up with your friends in the club, and do not feel shy about flirting with the ladies. You should have a glowing confidence after your session, and that should play out really well when meeting women.

And remember one thing about clubs. They are pick-up joints, and women are looking for a good time with attractive, confident men. It's okay to act up a little. If you're nice and sweet you're ignored. Act like you are a confident, powerful, successful man; and women will give you that phone number.

 

[mike1rotch]

four words

BRIDGETTE FROM KASEY'S KITTENS

she's so skilled at making you feel comfortable

 

[The Baroness]

I think his first time should be with whoever he chooses...........whichever age and body type appeals to him

 

[drlove]

Whatever you do... just make sure you never NEVER NEVER see your first girl again!!! Ever!

Move on to the second ASAP and don't even think about falling in love with an escort.

Good luck!

Well, no one said he was going to fall in love with her - LOL - You're going to give the poor guy a complex!

If he wants to continue seeing the same girl, then by all means. In fact, if he becomes a regular, the sessions will inevitably get better as time goes along and the two of them get to know one another a bit more.

I remember my first SP; We still keep in touch to this day.

 

[xix]

age

For your first time, pick an older, more experienced woman. One that is not going to rush you.

Not more than 5 years older than you. And nothing younger than 3 years older than you. Any older and she won't be worth it. And stay away from American girls. nothing aganst them ( US gilrs ) in General but when it comes to SP I pass them.

 

[Snake Pliskin]

Dr Love: I agree with you.

My earlier post was trying to address the issue of possible alienation by his friends, and referred to the bar fantasy only. By making a spectacle of it in front of his friends, it'll be a topic of discussion for years to come (which is part of the fantasy, yes?). If he caves in and tells the truth at some point in the future, he'll have to deal with lying to his friends, and possibly some morality sermons from them. I'm not saying the sermons are right or wrong, but they may happen. After all, we don't know what his friends are like.

Its a neat fantasy; I just don't think he should do it in front of his friends. If he wants to go the SP route, more power to him. Its just that he may wish to keep it to himself, or be up front with his friends, if that's his choice.

 

[DenWa]

American girls make a lot more money than the Canadian SP's. I have to laugh sometimes when you guys complain about certain agencies charging $350 Canadian per hour. Here in L.A., the average nothing-special-about-her escorts charges $300 USD per hour. That's about as cheap as it gets, and it has nothing to do with service.

Dw

 

[homonger]

American girls make a lot more money than the Canadian SP's. I have to laugh sometimes when you guys complain about certain agencies charging $350 Canadian per hour. Here in L.A., the average nothing-special-about-her escorts charges $300 USD per hour. That's about as cheap as it gets, and it has nothing to do with service.

Dw

Sorry to continue this tangent, but since I am American, this subject comes up once in a while when I am talking with a Canadian sp. Yes, your US counterparts charge more than you do, but it is also a much more risky proposition in the US, and sp's have to be much more careful about LE. So, don't get any ideas about all moving to the US and living off the fat of the land.

Back to the original poster, I agree with everyone who says to skip the club scenario and just book a good sp for the same amount of time. Impressing your friends is not worth the hour that your could be getting "devirginized" (hopefully, a few times)by this lady.

 

[Alucard]

Hey, I'm kind of in the same boat as you are in some ways. Anyway I'd advise against this. There are a lot of us out there who haven't had really any intimate experience and I have to say it will come and it will be a lot better if its real. Yeah I bet you'd probably have a good time but I'd say keep this sort of thing for after. Just as you said girls can smell fear but they can also smell virgins and that can be a good thing sometime. If your like me (the keep to myself and people I know type) a club is probably not a good place to pick up women. I'd say you need to get your friends to bring in more girls to your circle of friends.

 

[CitizenV]

Geez, didn't think I would get so many responses so soon afterwards...

the rusty tromb: It's funny that you ask because I'm always bugging my friends, especially my chick friends, to hook me up but they usually brush me off, saying they don't like doing stuff like that (it's not something that happens in my circle of friends) and that I should be able to get myself hooked up. Most of them know about my phobia but maybe I need to make it clear to them how serious it is...

midLifeCrisis: So I take it you're against the whole "pick her up in a club in front of my friends" idea, huh? I'm not sure if I call it "lying", though. More like "misrepresentation" but it would still be disrespectful to my friends.

LateComer: A MP? It's an idea I'd have to consider...

Mrs_Stiffler: Unfortunately, LateComer was correct in his assumptation. I've had NO sexual experience with women, whatsoever. It truly does suck to be me.

oldjones: It's either George Burns, Groucho Marx or Spencer Tracy. The latter, I suspect...

ElfGoneBad: "Falling in love with an escort"? Good God, no! I won't let that happen. I couldn't AFFORD to let that happen. Keep in mind, I only plan on this being an one-time thing.

peelcowboy: You could be right. I have been thinking that idea that using a SP for my first time might be a mistake that I'll regret. I dunno. But I promise you, I'm gonna give it a LOT of thought before I go ahead with anything.

Angel Aurora: I'm exactly not sure what kind of SP I'd be looking for but I'd be worried that going with one in "her late 30's to early 40's" could potentially lead me to an "Oedipus complex". Do you think that I wouldn't be able to find one with "confidence, maturity and expertise" close to my age?

 

[drlove]

...DO NOT DO IT AT ALL....start talking to women at work or at school or at the laundry or anywhere and let nature take its course. Sex with an SP is great, trust me I know, but for your own future believe this: learning about relationships is better than learning about sex from an SP.... the young man would benefit from putting his energy into just learning to relate to women and not start by paying for them.

I don't know if that's so. First of all, what is it that he's looking for?? - a relationship, or an opportunity to get his rocks off??

CitizenV has already stated it will be a one time thing. If he goes the relationship route, it's going to take awhile to get to the honeypot. Furthermore, relationships are not all they're cracked up to be, not to mention the fact that they are a lot of work to maintain.

I'd say that booking an SP is the quickest way to get from point A to point B. Also, it's erroneous to think that SP's will not help him to relate better to women. I think it can only be beneficial. Seeing an SP will help him gain confidence around women as he becomes more comfortable.

The great thing is that everything occurs in a non-threatening environment. That is, the lady has probably seen it all, and will be non judgemental. In addition to sex, seeing an sp is great if he'd like to ask questions, talk or whatever. Therefore, even if he is a bit nervous at first it won't matter in the least because it's not "the real world", so to speak.

Hypothetically, if someone in CitizenV's situation were to continue to see SP's, I think that over time, he will develop a natural confidence around women in general, and the idea of going into a club, library, grocery store etc. and starting a conversation on the spot with a girl he finds attractive won't faze him in the least.

The only thing I would recommend is to make sure he doesn't become addicted and blow all his money! LOL- It can happen!

 

[Snake Pliskin]

Its a shame none of V's friends are here.

How about his friends chip in, and they organize the whole thing without V's knowledge. Then he'd really think HE'S THE MAN!

 

[Dement Ed]

CitizenV may be painfully shy, and I do believe that he could overcome this shyness with a bit of effort and carrying himself with confidence.

However, he mentions that he is totally uncomfortable with the idea of becoming intimate with a girl considering his lack of sexual experience. Using a pro to gain experience, and knowledge performing sexually is in my opinion a good idea. Let's face it, women expect men to be able to perform well in the bedroom. As well, women talk about their sexual experiences with their girlfriends as we men talk about our experience with guy friends. I think it would be a wonderful compliment if the first civilian girl that talks about him to her friends mentions his dynamic ability, and his enthusiasm for providing her with an orgasm.

 

[Catherine]

IMHO, since he has had "no sexual experience" whatsoever, going to a MP is probably a better solution to his first time jitters. With a sp the pressure to do the deed may be greater than that compared to a MPA....speaking from experience on both sides of the fence (I was a SP for awhile before becoming a MPA).

With a MPA, a long sensual massage, with lots of carrassing and exploring is included. Weither he would like to continue further is his choice, and his procative. He could just take his "new gained knowledge" and apply it then to his "night out" with an sp. If you are looking just to "explore" first then it would be cheaper even to go the MPA route. As with the SP, the clock is ticking as soon as she walks in the room, weither he is nervous or not.

To add to the arguement is the possibilty "it" might not work properly after a few drinks and a high level of nervousness. I've seen it happen before, and it would be a shame to blow $300-$400 (if he has her for a few hours) and then it all end in one big embarassing flop. That could scar him for awhile. BTW this could happen even at the MP, but there is less money involved..and the massage before hand may help relax him.

MPs, IMHO, are less threatening for the first time and less expensive. My advice is go for a massage, get to know your body and the female body, then if desired to, go to a SP to fullfill your fantasy....


Catherine
xoxoxox

 

[2sexxxy]

IMHO

Go to a good mp before you go to a club. Then go to the club with your friends and smile the whole night. Who knows maybe you might even get lucky at the club, but if you dont who cares you will be still smiling.

 

[Snake Pliskin]

if the first several times that you ever got laid in your life was with a Platinum Ar

Yeah...that sounds pretty awful...glad that didn't happen to me!

 

[drlove]

peel,

Your post reminds me of a thread entitled "The Crutch that Cripples" which stated that an individual who becomes accustomed to SP's as their (main) source of sexual outlet/ relationship will likely experience difficulty in establishing real relationships, or not have the desire to do so due to becoming "spoiled" as you mentioned.

I don't buy it. In the real world, he may luck out and establish a true relationship with a knock out model. Then again, perhaps not. Maybe he'll end up with an average looking woman, but who has a great personality - who knows?? The concept of "having to settle" is really in the eye of the beholder. My point is, as long as someone is happy with what they're doing, that's all that matters.

At least for the time being, that individual will have available to him a wide selection of women at his disposal. If settles down later on, great - at least he will have some memorable experiences to look back on. If, on the other hand he decides to continue with the hobby exclusively, that's his decision. Again, it's up to us to figure out what makes us happy - one is not necessarily any better or worse than the other, which makes it a moot point. At least with SP's, you never have to worry about paying alimony! LOL