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69er dirty?
- Thread starter hapkido
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Re: Good luck.....
thecool, i agree with this. My point was, you shouldn't let your dick have VETO power about the woman who you will spend your life with (cos for sure u will be spend the majority of that time NOT having sex) and also probably mother your children.
But it should definately get a vote on the matter.
thecoolguyms72 said:When making a decision about who you're going to have sex with for the rest of your life, well, then your dick better have a say
thecool, i agree with this. My point was, you shouldn't let your dick have VETO power about the woman who you will spend your life with (cos for sure u will be spend the majority of that time NOT having sex) and also probably mother your children.
But it should definately get a vote on the matter.
Kiarra.......
I've suggested that he partake in the hobby. His wife wouldn't ever know, nor would she care, really. All she wants from sex is to get pregnant, then that's it. A few kids then no more sex, if it were up to her. The problem is, he is way more like a woman, and needs to have deep feelings for a woman to have an intimate relationship to have sex. Of course sex is better if there is deep feeling behind it, everyone knows that, but down and dirty, hot, sweatly monkey sex is a lot of fun sometimes too!!!! He would pick up a chick who would want him, then take the night and talk with her to get to know her!!!! Not that that's bad, but come on, strike while the iron's hot, dude. I get frustrated with him, he is such a tortured soul.
He even went to Thailand, went to some of the "lady bars" where you bar fine them, and take them back to your hotel for the night and didn't do anything, not even one of their "baths". It was really sad, actually. He kept saying, "how can I have sex with someone I hardly know?" I said, "It happens every day! You want me to show you?" LOL. So, I showed him, picked out the girl I wanted, had a great time. I could understand if he was concerned about disease or something like that, but to not even be able to let loose just one night? And he wasn't even concerned about cheating on his wife or anything!!!!
I wish there was a way I could help him. If anyone has suggestion, it would be greatly appreciated.
Coolguy.
kiarra said:Great post Coolguy.
I feel for your friend, if he is not willing to leave then this hobby might be is only hope if he doesn't have hangups with it.
As far as women go, i can't answer why some dry up after marriage. I don't think any woman here could. We all seem to like sex way to much to say no to someone that we have choosen as a SO.
Kiarra
I've suggested that he partake in the hobby. His wife wouldn't ever know, nor would she care, really. All she wants from sex is to get pregnant, then that's it. A few kids then no more sex, if it were up to her. The problem is, he is way more like a woman, and needs to have deep feelings for a woman to have an intimate relationship to have sex. Of course sex is better if there is deep feeling behind it, everyone knows that, but down and dirty, hot, sweatly monkey sex is a lot of fun sometimes too!!!! He would pick up a chick who would want him, then take the night and talk with her to get to know her!!!! Not that that's bad, but come on, strike while the iron's hot, dude. I get frustrated with him, he is such a tortured soul.
He even went to Thailand, went to some of the "lady bars" where you bar fine them, and take them back to your hotel for the night and didn't do anything, not even one of their "baths". It was really sad, actually. He kept saying, "how can I have sex with someone I hardly know?" I said, "It happens every day! You want me to show you?" LOL. So, I showed him, picked out the girl I wanted, had a great time. I could understand if he was concerned about disease or something like that, but to not even be able to let loose just one night? And he wasn't even concerned about cheating on his wife or anything!!!!
I wish there was a way I could help him. If anyone has suggestion, it would be greatly appreciated.
Coolguy.
man oh man now that is the first I heard coolguy about your buddy not succumbing to hot dames ready and willing cause he needs to feel an intimate connection. I sympathise with your frustration not being able to get your buddy to let loose. Maybe that's the issue? He needs to take charge and be tarzan versus being all womenly like. Just a shot in the dark.
Thanks, Kiarra......
I agree with you totally. Although, I'm not sure I'm able to have an SP experience without sex, I'm quite aware there are many guys that can. We are all put together a little differently. I like all three parts of this hobby, SP's, MP's and SC's, all for different reasons. I know some guys that hate SC's, that can't see why you'd go to an MP, and only stick to SP's. To each their own. He has told me that he would never pay a woman, not for sex, and not even for companionship. I've had the talk with him.
As well, something I haven't divulged about him, he "thinks" he's falling in love with a friend. It's a fucked up situation. She's a good friend of mine, and just broke up from a long term relationship with a very good friend of both of ours. As I said, it's really fucked up. I wouldn't wish his situation on anyone that would have the same hang ups as him.
Hey, this has been great therapy for me. I have had to keep shut up about it really, and this helped me get it out! Sorry for hijacking the thread though.........carry on.
Coolguy.
kiarra said:He can still partake in the hobby. I have a client who is exactly like that. The only time we have sex is when we go away for an overnight which is about once a month, the rest of the time we are going to dinner, watching movies at my place, cuddling, kissing, giving massges to each other and other intimate things. It took six months before he was comfortable enough to even go on an overnight, and we see each otehr every week. It just takes time, that is what real GFE escorts can provide, but of course time is still paid for. So if he can get over that then research some really great GFE escorts in the area that he lives in, call and email a few and slowly narrow it down to the one that he feels most comfortable with and then meet for a coffee date. After that, they make the sessions go they way they want, eitehr fast or slow. A professional escort is not going to look at him wierd if he is not jumping her bones when she walks in the door.
Good luck,
Kiarra
I agree with you totally. Although, I'm not sure I'm able to have an SP experience without sex, I'm quite aware there are many guys that can. We are all put together a little differently. I like all three parts of this hobby, SP's, MP's and SC's, all for different reasons. I know some guys that hate SC's, that can't see why you'd go to an MP, and only stick to SP's. To each their own. He has told me that he would never pay a woman, not for sex, and not even for companionship. I've had the talk with him.
As well, something I haven't divulged about him, he "thinks" he's falling in love with a friend. It's a fucked up situation. She's a good friend of mine, and just broke up from a long term relationship with a very good friend of both of ours. As I said, it's really fucked up. I wouldn't wish his situation on anyone that would have the same hang ups as him.
Hey, this has been great therapy for me. I have had to keep shut up about it really, and this helped me get it out! Sorry for hijacking the thread though.........carry on.
Coolguy.
I agree.....
I call him a woman all the time. He's so needy and chicklike. And I don't mean that to be an insult to the independent women of this board. He's like those high maintenance needy women you come across. Drives me nuts!
hapkido said:man oh man now that is the first I heard coolguy about your buddy not succumbing to hot dames ready and willing cause he needs to feel an intimate connection. I sympathise with your frustration not being able to get your buddy to let loose. Maybe that's the issue? He needs to take charge and be tarzan versus being all womenly like. Just a shot in the dark.
I call him a woman all the time. He's so needy and chicklike. And I don't mean that to be an insult to the independent women of this board. He's like those high maintenance needy women you come across. Drives me nuts!
