Mid 40s first timer need advice

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But with asian agencies you may be turned away as some only see east asian guys, or more specifically chinese only or korean only.
What?! There are Asian erotic spas in Toronto who only cater to East Asian guys đŸ˜®? Reading this for the first time...
 

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Summary: Stick to agencies; avoid LL until TERB members verify it.
Indy vs agency is a common discussion here. I think for patient newbies the Indy route can be a good choice. Write a respectful intro, including proposing a specific date and time so that they can see that you’re not a timewaster, there are threads here on that. I would limit your sources to this board and tryst, and look for someone with good reviews, and ideally an active social media presence that can show you a bit about them. The trend away from references to other forms of screening also helps newbies depending on what info you’re ok sharing. And a well written, respectful intro can often result in no need for screening.

It can take a bit longer to line things up, but you do have the ability to ask a couple questions as part of booking in case there’s something specific that you’re looking for.

Cost probably a bit higher, but maybe that’s less of an issue for a first timer.

If you’re looking for a way to try out exchanging money for sexual gratification a low mileage massage parlour like allure or flirt can be a good choice. Or higher mileage places as well if want fs.

happy hobbying…
 
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Hi guys,

I'm a mid-40s guy who wants to try this hobby. I've read a few threads on the topic and my questions are mainly around avoiding scams or getting robbed.

  1. When you book with an agency, do you give "roses" to the agency and the SP, or just the SP?
  2. The rates on Leolist are sometimes as low as $100 HH — is that realistic or a scam? I want to understand how much to expect as damage, as I don't want to burn a hole in my pocket.
  3. Would you guys recommend going through an agency like DD or an indie for a first timer?
  4. Does race matter while booking? I'm south Asian.
So have you tried? or decide not to?
 

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Hi guys,

I'm a mid-40s guy who wants to try this hobby. I've read a few threads on the topic and my questions are mainly around avoiding scams or getting robbed.

  1. When you book with an agency, do you give "roses" to the agency and the SP, or just the SP?
  2. The rates on Leolist are sometimes as low as $100 HH — is that realistic or a scam? I want to understand how much to expect as damage, as I don't want to burn a hole in my pocket.
  3. Would you guys recommend going through an agency like DD or an indie for a first timer?
  4. Does race matter while booking? I'm south Asian.
Hi there

1. To the sexual partner
2. 100 hh... IMO scam
3. Find SP with reviews
4. Tbh, Ive never come across that before

Hope this helps. Good luck with your search!
 
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