Sex clubs?

elarios77 said:

Hi everyone
I'm getting a bit bored of the usual SP/agency routine. I haven't been doing this for long—only about 6 times—and while my sex life isn't overly active right now, I'm looking to mix things up.

I recently stumbled upon sex clubs and it sounds like an interesting experience to try something new. Does anyone have insights into how these places work? Is it safe or worth it to go solo as a single guy?


Naturally, I have a few questions and hesitations before jumping in. For context, I’m a straight 24-year-old guy with a decent build (currently bulking, so working on adding size haha).

I know where's those places like m4, the x club and oasis, which one's better?!

I'd love to hear your thoughts or recommendations on whether this is a good idea and if possible, obviously have some action.. Thanks!

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This was just posted today:

Look up a gal who calls herself TorontoUnicorn on Youtube to do some club intelligence building. Might be a space between that user name.
Plus her videos on YouTube will likely link to a USA swinger couple who do reviews.
They just recently toured though the GTA doing reviews of the local club scene.

6 times and already " a bit bored of the usual SP/agency routine ", wow looking for Variety with a Capital V! I've seen almost 100 ladies by now and getting more curious almost every time LOL

Good for you I'm not even "brave" enough to think about sex clubs

OntGuy2010 said:

6 times and already " a bit bored of the usual SP/agency routine ", wow looking for Variety with a Capital V! I've seen almost 100 ladies by now and getting more curious almost every time LOL

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Yes, I am a bit concerned for the original poster.

Try dating apps finding ladies for casual nothing serious or FWB dating types. They tend to deliver longer time together and many are extremely horny af. I mix it up at times throughout the year.

elarios77 said:

I started to get bored with it, the same old thing: agencies, fees, and when the time's up you just leave, it doesn't last long. What I'm looking for is something longer, with more action. I don't feel the adrenaline anymore, to be honest, and this new idea sounds cool!

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dont blame you. You started at the worst time period in the GTA. Too many scammers, too many starfish lacklustre girls, too many focused on OF and there isn't a party vibe at the strip clubs in the GTA.

elarios77 said:

I started to get bored with it, the same old thing: agencies, fees, and when the time's up you just leave, it doesn't last long. What I'm looking for is something longer, with more action. I don't feel the adrenaline anymore, to be honest, and this new idea sounds cool!

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Sure of course, very good for you that you know yourself, and are taking action to change things!

What about paying for longer sessions with a SP?

Or a sugar baby. Tell them you're busy and only can meet up once or twice and month and see if your schedule aligns. They usually don't want as much and tend to stay longer.

Sex clubs are fun, but I tend to have more fun there if I'm meeting friends/playmates. M4 trends to cater to swingers and couples in open/poly relationships, while Oasis trends to attract a younger crowd of singles. It's been my experience that the single men who attend those clubs can be a little entitled and disrespectful sometimes; I feel like the rationale of "I paid such and such to be here" makes them think they're entitled to the bodies of the other patrons, so your best bet as a newcomer would be to be curious and courteous, and make friends with the slutty kinky patrons before you jump into bed. Luckily for everyone, the types of people who frequent sex clubs tend to be very open minded, polite, friendly and fun, and really great conversationalists. It is nice to know that anyone you hit it off with you can just take into the other room and fuck them in the playspace right out there in the open!

But like the difference between social sex and the SP experience, it's a more reciprocal experience and more will be asked of you. Rather than being the center of attention and getting to enjoy your own desires indulged, you're having sex with someone who's indulging their own pleasure as well. I can't tell you my disappointment when one of the fellows I'd invited to gangbang me told me he doesn't perform cunnilingus... after I'd blown him. For some men, one of the appeals of hiring someone is the freedom to be completely sexually selfish, and just lie back and have your pleasure in the hands of a skilled and capable performer. A sex club affords you no such option (unless you find someone for whom that's a kink). Happy hunting!

Also, single men are charged a premium at clubs like that, so the pricing structure is pretty comparable to booking an erotic massage, without the guarantee of a sexual encounter.

Not sure a club actually gives you what you say you want. You're after something longer with more action, but the club experience is more reciprocal — you're expected to put in effort too, not just lie back while someone handles it. If the appeal of an agency for you is being able to switch off, a club is the opposite of that.