NO SHOWS VS DEPOSITS

Eli_H2da said:

Do SP's share reference about OP's?

I only book very early (8am) meetings as my work hours normally runs late with no set end time
and I wanted to book one today for later this week (Tuesday) and after the pleasantly back and forth I was told to pay a deposit for a such early booking, I responded with I wasn't a particular fan of that for privacy reasons (based on what I have read in here) and also I would confirm the night before if needed.
but the Sp who has a good reputation, so I didn't say no, and the response was very unkind and not particularly solution based.

I'm a very respectful person, I read the ad, follow them to the teeth when I communicating with SP,'s I ask about boundaries so no accidental over stepping etc. simply because I want to treat people like I want to be treated myself.

So I was thinking we OP's shares reviews and experiences in here, but does SP's do the same and if not, why?

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This is really hard to read and confusing, I probably read it over 10 times still trying to understand it. Are you asking if why it seems to be so one-sided?

They absolutely do screen and keep information about clients. It's just usually much less visible and not in a YELP style review like it seems to be here.

A provider has substantially more at stake in identifying a potentially unsafe, unreliable, abusive, or boundary-pushing client than a client does in identifying someone who was merely difficult to communicate with. Research interviews with Canadian sex workers describe screening as an important part of deciding whether someone is safe and legitimate to meet.

There are also private referral networks where providers share information about problematic clients. But publicly publishing identifiable client reviews creates a completely different set of risks: privacy, outing someone, retaliation, defamation, harassment, and potentially putting the provider herself at risk.

bigloadslinger said:

This is really hard to read and confusing, I probably read it over 10 times still trying to understand it. Are you asking if why it seems to be so one-sided?

They absolutely do screen and keep information about clients. It's just usually much less visible and not in a YELP style review like it seems to be here.

A provider has substantially more at stake in identifying a potentially unsafe, unreliable, abusive, or boundary-pushing client than a client does in identifying someone who was merely difficult to communicate with. Research interviews with Canadian sex workers describe screening as an important part of deciding whether someone is safe and legitimate to meet.

There are also private referral networks where providers share information about problematic clients. But publicly publishing identifiable client reviews creates a completely different set of risks: privacy, outing someone, retaliation, defamation, harassment, and potentially putting the provider herself at risk.

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sorry about that, I’ve cleaned up the post.

I have no issues with screening, I very much understand why its needed, my issue is with asking for a deposit through E-transfers.

my take were having reference from established SP’s

but as you say the privacy issue still exists
I choose not to go through with the booking and i do accept her protocol, but value my privacy more

Eli_H2da said:

sorry about that, I’ve cleaned up the post.

I have no issues with screening, I very much understand why its needed, my issue is with asking for a deposit through E-transfers.

my take were having reference from established SP’s

but as you say the privacy issue still exists
I choose not to go through with the booking and i do accept her protocol, but value my privacy more

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Unfortunately its the part of the deal. If you want it, its on there terms.

bigloadslinger said:

Unfortunately its the part of the deal. If you want it, its on there terms.

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Yes as it should be

Saramarie said:

Can we take a min to discuss No shows and deposits!!
As a provider, who doesnt ask for deposits, im getting really tired of amswering messages, drive to the location of the booking only for the person to no show!!

its happened three times today ALONE!’
I dunno if someone’s playing games or what, but it really makes me want to start charging a deposit!!
Im using my own car and gas to get there for nothing.

i know alot of yall dont like to pau deposits, but could there be some mutual respect that if you book and cant make it you text, and please
Stop making bookings thinking its funny to no show!!
I pride myself on being a reliable SP but it would be so nice if it was reciprocated.

Rant over

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This is not a perfect solution but have you ever requested an actual telphone conversation for new clients? These are pranksters, not clients. Kids, probably. I doubt that they will have the guts to talk to you over the phone.

Some may also be your competition looking to waste your time. (Female voice. They will decline the call)

You may recognize their voice if they try to repeat their harrassment. I doubt that three different guys No-Showed you on the same day. I would bet that it was the same person texting from 3 different numbers.

There's probably 2 or 3 people doing this 10 times a day that accounts for most of the harrassment. If you think you recognize or if you have any other suspicions you can insist on the deposit. You're not losing any real business because of the deposit because they aren't going to show up anyway.

You can tell a lot from a voice conversation that you can't tell from a text. They can change their text numbers 100 times if they want.

Trust your instincts.

Saramarie said:

Can we take a min to discuss No shows and deposits!!
As a provider, who doesnt ask for deposits, im getting really tired of amswering messages, drive to the location of the booking only for the person to no show!!

its happened three times today ALONE!’
I dunno if someone’s playing games or what, but it really makes me want to start charging a deposit!!
Im using my own car and gas to get there for nothing.

i know alot of yall dont like to pau deposits, but could there be some mutual respect that if you book and cant make it you text, and please
Stop making bookings thinking its funny to no show!!
I pride myself on being a reliable SP but it would be so nice if it was reciprocated.

Rant over

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It happens way too often. The callers dont seem to care that this is our incomes and or could be taking genuine person instead