Effects of hobbying

I don't have to fantasize anymore, I make it happen. Nor do I care if a civie girl says no to my advances. Additionally, no awkwardness felt approaching any girl like I used to in the past.

Feels good sexually especially since I got into intense work out...love seeing SPs shudder under intense pounding

For me the effect is a boost in self-confidence and a drive to improve my physique, overall appearance and personal interactions. This has already paid dividends in several areas of my life, my health being one of them. God bless all the ladies in this lifestyle. They all make me want to be a better person. Even when I have a bad session, I ask myself, what I could have done better.

WandererRod said:

Really enjoyed reading this thread! Thanks @Coolsin000 for sharing this in your new commers guide. Many of the views expressed really resonated with me. I'm really grateful everyone's been vulnerable and shared their views freely.

@Coolsin000 @Cbr20152012 @Scopez @MindJohn @ravencroft @King1984 @Just Looking For A Latina @JDP_89 @JethroBodine , you guys are still active on TERB. How has your view evolved since you last posted?

cbr20152012 - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-8386621
MindJohn - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-7704935
Scopez - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-7700114
Ravencroft - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-7697454
King1984 - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-7687847 (any additional commandments?)
JustLooking - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-7693426
JDP - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-7694007
JethroBodine - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/effects-of-hobbying.798562/post-7696817

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Firstly, hard to believe it’s been almost 2 years since I wrote that.

Firstly, I have mostly managed to improve upon poor spur of the minute decisions, mostly due to experiencing the issues that stem from them (Preeti and Draya being prime examples - just not ideal situations and taking time to read reviews and comments would have avoided each).

Happy to say I haven’t fooled myself into thinking something was authentic when it wasn’t - though I did manage to accidentally get a little crush on someone. I didn’t even realize it at first, once I clued in, I adapted and dealt with it. No idea if she ever figured it out, hopefully not. I still see her from time to time for truly insane PSE experiences that I just can’t get in real life in the same way. It’s been a while and no repeat issues so I’d say it’s been resolved.

I have found myself in a really good relationship and I am still here, which I’m not impressed with myself about. I like to think that I’ve cut way back and that I’m only here occasionally for the kind of crazy PSE sex I can’t get in real life but I think I’d be fooling myself a bit. Reality is I am partially pseudo addicted to the amazing rush and release of casual sex and I am partially just a ho. Goal for 2026 is to cut back to a de minimis number of crazy wild PSE sex breaks and then reevaluate.

I have only just started this hobby 6 weeks ago, but I can echo what someone else said: my confidence is through the roof. I went from never flirting or talking to civilian women to having 4 or 5 good interactions with women in the last few weeks.

None of them panned out but the fact that I put myself out there is huge.

Also I was already working on improving my relationship to food and slowly losing weight, but now I am walking and or weightlifting every day. I even bought myself some of those multi weight dumbbells and am really enjoying the endorphin rush of working out and seeing the changes in myself already. The last few weeks I have been losing 2-3 lbs a week!

There must be something about having beautiful young women treat you like a king that's good for the soul.

God bless you wonderful women!!

In my humble opinion, coming from early 30s, partaking in this hobby has allowed me to really figure out what are the most important things that I need in a woman sexually to be satisfied, what things I'm into, what kind of sex I like, how to get better at pleasing a woman, how to get better at satisfying her sexual needs, and also just simply what physical features and what sexual personality do I like in a woman to turn me on. The fact that we get to practice this and experiment and gain experience in this hobby means that when we do choose that lifelong partner, that we will be coming from a place of more knowledge and more experience and we're less likely to mess up our choice because we know the things that are non-negotiable for us. A lot of young guys that get married too young and don't have a lot of sexual experience with women simply just end up in miserable relationships because they weren't clear on what they really need from a partner in the bedroom.

yessir235 said:

In my humble opinion, coming from early 30s, partaking in this hobby has allowed me to really figure out what are the most important things that I need in a woman sexually to be satisfied, what things I'm into, what kind of sex I like, how to get better at pleasing a woman, how to get better at satisfying her sexual needs, and also just simply what physical features and what sexual personality do I like in a woman to turn me on. The fact that we get to practice this and experiment and gain experience in this hobby means that when we do choose that lifelong partner, that we will be coming from a place of more knowledge and more experience and we're less likely to mess up our choice because we know the things that are non-negotiable for us. A lot of young guys that get married too young and don't have a lot of sexual experience with women simply just end up in miserable relationships because they weren't clear on what they really need from a partner in the bedroom.

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Ditto!

It helps you “get it out of your system” and try out everything you want so you develop a “been there done that” type of attitude that helps with civilians.


Just my 2 cents.

I guess hobbying has different affects on people depending on who they are and how they look at it. Before I got married, I used to hobby. I remember feeling so satisfied after seeing a SP that I didn't even need to look at porn or anything. Looking back, I think I was happier than compared to now.