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Married but I want a side chick, what do I do?

Ahri

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That's kinda nuts. But it's their dime. I never really even mentioned my SO, but I wasn't there due to problems at home. I just wanted a bit of strange.

I wanted the nakey time!
I mean it doesn’t happen often!! But it has happened a couple times during the holidays last year lol 😂
 

chloe_Rose_Art

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I think you can try sugar baby dating sites like seeking arrangement which work - it's more geared towards long term! Although, you risk discretion & getting caught.... weigh the risk and reward :)
 

Callmerey

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Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!
You already said you want one so why are you asking the rest?
 

yessir235

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Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!

oh man this sounds bad. You mentioned you are on your mid 30’s- how long have you been married? I’m guessing can’t me more thank 5-6 years. In which case if your wife isn’t satisfying you then it was a bad deal from the beginning.

are you at a point in your life were you feel confident in yourself as a man and can go about getting a side chick without it eventually blowing up in your face? Unless you are incredibly well set of career wise and finance wise, but chances are you are not playing at the the level that you need to be doing this kind of shit.
And what makes you think that a side chick will fufill any of your sexual desires in the first place ?
My 2 cents: leave the sex to the professionals , don’t destroy your life over random pussy
 

massman

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I definitely agree with this. I have clients who book me for a hour and they just complain about their wife for the first 45 mins and fuck me for the last 15 lol 😂
A number of years ago I used to see this girl who during the pregame chat would often complain about her SO, and would lend a sympathetic ear. At first I thought this was weird, but somehow it seemed to lead to her being much hornier, and sexually aggressive. It was like she was “revenge fucking” me to get back at that loser. 😂
 

star003

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Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!
try out the old traditional way, wife’s sister or bestie. see who is approachable…if u see things not working then say i was just teasing and testing 😂
 

jetfuel

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Get yourself and your wife a gym membership and a personal trainer, your extra money will be gone, you'll both look and feel better and fuck more.
The urge to see escorts will be less, you can still go once in a while, but it should definitely help with the addiction and the urge to find someone on the side.
I made the gym example because that's what's worked for me, but any hobby or physical activity you can do 2-3 times a week with your wife will do.
Another good idea I can vouch for is spending your extra money on something else other than sex that you can both benefit from, new cars, cottage, vacations, designer bags for the wife.
Most people on this website have either found a way to balance the real life / hobby ratio right or have found out the hard way how expensive a mistake of this type can be.
You're one step away from a very slippery slope, step back while you can.
I don't think you work out.

I joined one of the best gyms in the GTA about two years ago, my training and physique has improved tremendously.

The downside is that I want to see more escorts as my libido is through the roof.
 
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digi_7e

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Get yourself and your wife a gym membership and a personal trainer, your extra money will be gone, you'll both look and feel better and fuck more.
The urge to see escorts will be less, you can still go once in a while, but it should definitely help with the addiction and the urge to find someone on the side.
I made the gym example because that's what's worked for me, but any hobby or physical activity you can do 2-3 times a week with your wife will do.
Another good idea I can vouch for is spending your extra money on something else other than sex that you can both benefit from, new cars, cottage, vacations, designer bags for the wife.
Most people on this website have either found a way to balance the real life / hobby ratio right or have found out the hard way how expensive a mistake of this type can be.
You're one step away from a very slippery slope, step back while you can.
I was really thinking of buying anew car just to cut any extra cash lying around. But here comes the problem, I still do the hobby and im in debt (line of credit debt) horrible right?
 

digi_7e

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I don't think you work out.

I joined one of the best gyms in the GTA about two years ago, my training and physique has improved tremendously.

The downside is that I want to see more escorts as my libido is through the roof.
I felt the same after working out and having a better posture, it gave me more confidence to approach more girls lol
 
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trippingwalker

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This is crazy. The whole point of an SP is to eliminate all the drama and unwanted heat that comes with an on-going affair. Fortunately I don’t have to pay for sex I just pay the SPs to go away and leave me alone once I’m out the door lol
 

xix

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Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!
Did you get caught?

2501sc
 
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Ping

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Side chicks are a bad idea, look at my join date.

Ive tried every way, full fake identities, lying, sugar dating... they all start to dig past the surface and push deeper into things. Before you know it your lies fall thru and you need to ditch everything and start over, or she figures out how to contact your wife and comes banging on the door... several friends were fooled by the fake pregnancy story and had their lives ruined because they beleived it.

Stick with professional SP's and respect their time and rates, and they'll (generally) respect your privacy. Always be polite and if things get weird,politely bow out... never push their boundaries as theres a distinct possibility theybe already figured out who you are.

Also if you have a lean month, you can skip seeing them... if you have a solid 1 on 1 relationship your phones ringing every time some car or home expense happens and you'll feel obligated to pony up the cash. Youll pay 4k for a new furnace and still be paying for your regular rendezvous
 
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Sweetface09

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A number of years ago I used to see this girl who during the pregame chat would often complain about her SO, and would lend a sympathetic ear. At first I thought this was weird, but somehow it seemed to lead to her being much hornier, and sexually aggressive. It was like she was “revenge fucking” me to get back at that loser. 😂
A shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride one...well played

Also, curious to know if the OP found a side chick lol
 
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richaceg

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Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!
Far from safety legally lol.. an SP won't chase you and zero attachments a side chick can easily go sideways...trust me on this one...stick to the SPs...less headache..
 
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speakercontrols

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Stick with professional SP's and respect their time and rates, and they'll (generally) respect your privacy. Always be polite and if things get weird, politely bow out... never push their boundaries as there' a distinct possibility they've already figured out who you are.
^^ this
 
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