You need professional help/advice. I had an addiction and knew I needed help for a long time, I waiting to long and it nearly destroyed me. Mine was gambling and you can only hide it for so long. Your behavior changes and people will notice. Fewk I would go to a casino until 2am and sleep in my car for a few hrs and go to work. I've been good for 2 years and plan on staying that way. Find a programme it will help u and the meetings aren't long so u won't be noticed.
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I'll respectfully disagree. Additionally, I personally experienced a woman forgiving a transactional infidelity, because it's not as hurtful as emotional betrayal when a man is courting another woman behind her back.
Deep down, a woman understands that if her man is cheating on her, she's highly likely responsible for creating such scenario. Seeing SP is viewed as a lesser evil.
It’s ok. No one is saying you have agree. I am sure there are a few women who would forgive transactional sex. I know plenty more who won’t.
However, this is not the topic, so I will move on.
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Do these "plenty more" women confide in you? How do you know? Do these women know what you do for a living??
Why can you not simply accept to agree to disagree and move on???? This is not the topic. This is about the OP‘s addiction. I‘m not going to further derail it. You asked a question, I answered, you don’t agree, it’s all good. No need to be confrontational about it.
So again, moving on now……Back on topic.
Stop being dramatic and just quit.
Either you get pleasure from your wife or pleasure yourself. It's not difficult.
Either you get pleasure from your wife or pleasure yourself. It's not difficult.
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OP hasn't replied since post #1. I wouldn't worry about derailing anything.
Someone challenges your point of view and you just fold, because "let's stay on subject"?
I said it before your so-called challenge as well. LOL.
I'm done posting with you now. You are clearly not capable of simply agreeing to disagree with someone and letting others have their own opinion when it differs from yours. This is the second thread you have done this with me, where you simply can't let things go and move on. There will not be a third. I have no desire to engage with people like you who just always want to fight for the sake of the fight. So ignoring you is just the best for both us. You can have the last word. You can think what you want. You can assume you “stumped” me with your “challenge”. LOL. I don’t care. Your opinion just doesn’t mean that much to me. Have a good one. The last word I know you need is all yours now.
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You married???? Because sounds like you don't have a clue of what's involved...just my 2 cents
The best book that I read about addiction was The Freedom Model For Addictions:
Reading the description on Amazon should give you some notion of the book’s approach. Of course, it deals with booze and drug problems, and I don’t remember it mentioning sexual addictions, but a lot of the same thinking applies.
If you’d rather watch video than read, the authors have a YouTube channel that you can watch for free:
www.youtube.com
The same material can be listened to as audio-only podcasts.
Reading the description on Amazon should give you some notion of the book’s approach. Of course, it deals with booze and drug problems, and I don’t remember it mentioning sexual addictions, but a lot of the same thinking applies.
If you’d rather watch video than read, the authors have a YouTube channel that you can watch for free:
The Freedom Model
Break free from addiction with The Freedom Model for Addictions—the most successful approach available today. As the pioneers of the non-12-step movement since the 1990s, we remain the only true Non-12 Step program. Our Freedom Model Workshops and Coaching Programs empower you to overcome...
www.youtube.com
The same material can be listened to as audio-only podcasts.
Well I hope the OP finds the help he is seeking as it would be on his best interest. As someone who has gone through divorce, seeing SW's is not worth losing your family and not to mention possible debt that might incurred
Focus on your family and you will overcome the challenges and addiction
Focus on your family and you will overcome the challenges and addiction
Get the agencies who you frequent to self ban your self 
No shame in that I had a client tell me he did this before to be forced to take a break.
No shame in that I had a client tell me he did this before to be forced to take a break.
By any chance, did he go into detail of how it works? I have thought about requesting SFT to temp ban before, but I’m just worried that they’ll make it a permanent banGet the agencies who you frequent to self ban your self
No shame in that I had a client tell me he did this before to be forced to take a break.
I actually don’t know how it worked - so I’m sorry I can’t help you with that but give SFT a message and take screenshots that your requesting a TEMP ban.
Yes and we have GREAT communication. Some of you guys don't know how to talk with woman! Not all woman are out with a pitchfork!
Just as casinos do.Get the agencies who you frequent to self ban your self
Addiction is hard. You have to recognize your triggers and work through them.
Quitting anything is hard and sometimes people just switch out one addiction for another. Make your family or something you do with your family your addiction. Prioritize yourself and them. Sex is sex. Its not worth losing ANYTHING over. Definitely not worth losing a family you love.
Quitting anything is hard and sometimes people just switch out one addiction for another. Make your family or something you do with your family your addiction. Prioritize yourself and them. Sex is sex. Its not worth losing ANYTHING over. Definitely not worth losing a family you love.
Go on to pornhub right away. Internet porn helps me with my own sex addiction. Once you "blow your load", the urge to go to SP's or MP's at least dies down for the moment.
