Do you think its time for me to change my reg?

BobbyRyan81

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Just want to vent a little. I've had a regular for a few years and see her 2-3 times a month. Recently her additude and service has changed. She told.me she is all safe now and doesn't provide bbbj or dfk but I've seen recently reviews that she does..I ask for a certain position and she doesn't want to do it and when I ask for a certain outfit request she tells me she will wear it and it doesn't happen and there is always an excuse. The sessions also feel rushed.

I have always had a good time with her until recently. I've recently talked to her about the outfit request and she told me will get better. I didn't saying anything about the service change or reviews but it does bother me and I feel unappreciated and that she thinks I'm going to see her no matter what.
 
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superman12

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Just want to vent a little. I've had a regular for a few years and see her 2-3 times a month. Recently her additude and service has changed. She told.me she is all safe now and doesn't provide bbbj or dfk but I've seen recently reviews that she does..I ask for a certain position and she doesn't want to do it and when I ask for a certain outfit request she tells me she will wear it and it doesn't happen and there is always an excuse. The sessions also feel rushed.

I have always had a good time with her until recently. I've recently talked to her about the outfit request and she told me will get better. I didn't saying anything about the service change or reviews but it does bother me and I feel unappreciated and that she thinks I'm going to see her no matter what.
Time to find someone new. If she knows she has you hooked she can put in low effort like it sounds like she is and you will still keep coming back. Loyalty doesn't count for much and variety of women is one of the many benefits of this hobby so its best to go see what else is out there.
 

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I think you've pretty much answered your own question. It's one thing if you've both relaxed and are happy with where things are at. Trading some of the "try hard' for intimate familiarity can be a good thing. That doesn't sound like your situation.

If you're not completely conflict adverse you can bring up your feelings, and how you're not OK with things. Or you can quietly move on.
 

oakvilleguy

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Just want to vent a little. I've had a regular for a few years and see her 2-3 times a month. Recently her additude and service has changed. She told.me she is all safe now and doesn't provide bbbj or dfk but I've seen recently reviews that she does..I ask for a certain position and she doesn't want to do it and when I ask for a certain outfit request she tells me she will wear it and it doesn't happen and there is always an excuse. The sessions also feel rushed.

I have always had a good time with her until recently. I've recently talked to her about the outfit request and she told me will get better. I didn't saying anything about the service change or reviews but it does bother me and I feel unappreciated and that she thinks I'm going to see her no matter what.
Sounds like you’re starting to get the “wife experience”. The great thing about this hobby is it won’t cost you half of everything you own to move on to another provider.
 

superman12

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I believe your correct. I have a session for a few hours next week and if the effort isn't there or outfit request I'm going to look for someone else. I have a bunch of multi hours booked this year and she will be upset. I know when she is slow she is going to text me too.
Yeah I have had previous regs of mine contact me when business was slow for them asking if i wanted to book again and acting all flirty over text. It's usually a good idea to go see them again at that time since the service will probably be a lot better and it sort of feels like having a one night stand with an old girlfriend. My rule is that once an sp is out of the reg zone shes never going back to being a reg. The odd meet up here and there is fine but never going to see her again consistently.
 

Spunky1

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Don‘t even wait until your next week’s appointment. Service she’s giving others but not you and Not putting on the outfit that you have been craving to have her in . She’s playing you for a chump and forgot you are the Boss$, Don’t see her again until she texts you. Then, only if you want, make sure she confirms the service and outfit request for the session that you want. You’re not asking for much .
 
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FearlessFreep

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. My rule is that once an sp is out of the reg zone shes never going back to being a reg. The odd meet up here and there is fine but never going to see her again consistently.
How do you manage to do that? I mean, from a frequent client to just occasional visits must be a very awkward situation and affect the quality of your session. Awkward and uncomfortable at the very least.
 

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How do you manage to do that? I mean, from a frequent client to just occasional visits must be a very awkward situation and affect the quality of your session. Awkward and uncomfortable at the very least.
The few times I've done that it's like seeing an old friend again.

A bit of conversational catching up, and no deterioration in the previously enjoyed levels of service.

Never think they have deep feelings for you and will be hurt if you stop being a regular...
 

Brown Nose Bear

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You shouldn't feel obligated to spend money on her if she's not giving you what you want. I'm going through something like this now. There's a spa girl that I see here and there and she has my number. She texts me all the time to come see her and I just say not tonight. Her service is ok but she charges too much for extras. I finally told her I wasn't happy with with our arrangement and I wasn't going to see her anymore, and she agreed to renegotiate. I saw her once since then and I noticed that things were a bit off. I think I'll give her one more chance, but if things don't go well that'll be the end. This is why I've transitioned from MPAs to SPs over the last few years.
 

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For me, familiarity with an SP would breed boredom because I like variety and novelty. With a handful of exceptions, I rarely see an SP more than 3 times, so I cannot even imagine about 90 visits with the same SP over 3 years.
 
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LTO_3

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I'll repeat what's been said already but if her service isn't what you prefer and your requests for a certain look are being ignored then it's time to move on. You could mention something to her and if that nothing changes find someone new.

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superman12

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How do you manage to do that? I mean, from a frequent client to just occasional visits must be a very awkward situation and affect the quality of your session. Awkward and uncomfortable at the very least.
It's not awkward or uncomfortable at all for me. We dont owe each other anything which is the great thing about this hobby. If a lady is a reg at one point for me the only reason there not a reg any longer is because they failed to consistently provide me an experience that would keep me coming back. That's on them not on me.
 

farquhar

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I feel unappreciated and that she thinks I'm going to see her no matter what.
When you gave her all the money for those sessions over all those years, you were also paying for the privilege of terminating the relationship; at any time; for any reason; or no reason at all.

That's why men pay for sex. They pay for the woman to go away - permanently if that is what is desired.

It's clear that there is a disconnect between what you are expecting and what she is delivering. You both have different ideas about what your sessions should consist of, and that's not good business.
 
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Birf

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You're dealing with someone who isn't the least bit attracted to you. She may be doing it on purpose hoping you may stop booking her.

She probably dreads the appointments. It is the reality of this hobby, it pertains to all of us.
 
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