Married but I want a side chick, what do I do?

[LTO_3]

Looks is "Prince if Persia" or Aladdin
Body: dadbod loooool

money, maybe $700 a month as a budget for this

You want a long term side chick - a sugar baby - but not an SP for $700/month? Good luck on that especially in TO. Possible, maybe but...
You're safer with seeing SPs since you see them and then they leave while the SB & you will eventually get an emotional attachment. And if & when that goes bad, crap will hit the fan and that will cost you a lot. And it's been mentioned before that when your wife finds out, it will cost you more than it's worth.
Just see SPs since the long term obligations are only money.

But live by RULE #1: Take care of all necessary home expenses and obligations first - mortgage, car payments, utilities, RRSPs, TFSAs, etc - before spending anything to see an SP. Seeing an SP is a "luxury expense" but not if it compromises your home or personal financial security.

LTO_3

 

[KidTwist]

I sorta had one. But she ironically cut me off LOL. She's not answering texts anymore.

I think she's mad that she had to blow me for me to take her to Walmart lol.

 

[shack]

Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

A well-to-do married man in Europe very frequently has a mistress. Just get her her own apartment so she can host you whenever it is convenient for you.

 

[shack]

My advice? Get your shit together bro? What's wrong with the lady you have at home? And what makes you think having a long-term side chick is any more legal than having short-term side chicks? Go to the doctor to make sure your head is screwed on right!

Is it illegal to have a girl on the side, whether long or short term? Go to the doctor to get a Rx for Viagra.

Are you married, Popeye?

 

[Ponderling]

I think she's mad that she had to blow me for me to take her to Walmart lol.

Keep the next one happy. Pre-emptively stock up on flip flops and track suits for the next one.
That will likely be living in the unit on the next street at the trailer park....

 

[Ponderling]

money, maybe $700 a month as a budget for this

Take the $700 and spend it on doing fun things with your SO, and any family you may have with her.
Do stuff you did that made you happy doing stuff together as you likely did in the past.

This should help to shake the stuck in a rut feeling.
And is so much less of a bomb than the other way you are planning on flushing $700.

I get the urge to wander. Stifle it some.

Talk to dear wife, explain you are going to blow off steam at the strip club, race track, whatever with some pals.
And talk about what you did.
Dont hide it.

I am still with my wife after 30 years of marriage. Kids are grown.

She has a guy pal she hangs with for some fun.
I know him, Is a good friend who got fiscally screwed by ex wife.
She scratches her itch 3-5 times a year with him, mostly because there are often times when there is a distict lack of lead in my pencil.
Unless on vacation and work pressures are out of my mind for while.

And when I feel the need to unwind and she is busy off seeing some movie or play I dont want to see I tell her I have an itch to see the peelers.
We catch up at breakfast.
How was your night, and we tell each other.

 

[PartyGirls]

Take the $700 and spend it on doing fun things with your SO, and any family you may have with her.
Do stuff you did that made you happy doing stuff together as you likely did in the past.

This should help to shake the stuck in a rut feeling.
And is so much less of a bomb than the other way you are planning on flushing $700.

I get the urge to wander. Stifle it some.

Talk to dear wife, explain you are going to blow off steam at the strip club, race track, whatever with some pals.
And talk about what you did.
Dont hide it.

I am still with my wife after 30 years of marriage. Kids are grown.

She has a guy pal she hangs with for some fun.
I know him, Is a good friend who got fiscally screwed by ex wife.
She scratches her itch 3-5 times a year with him, mostly because there are often times when there is a distict lack of lead in my pencil.
Unless on vacation and work pressures are out of my mind for while.

And when I feel the need to unwind and she is busy off seeing some movie or play I dont want to see I tell her I have an itch to see the peelers.
We catch up at breakfast.
How was your night, and we tell each other.

I have never been married, (and I am told it is a taboo subject), but I read many many couples who have been married for decades no longer sleep together but have sexual partners on the side. In some countries, like South Africa and Botswana, couples rarely get divorced but have affairs.

 

[superman2006]

Not a smart decision. Your wife will eventually find out and be prepared to lose half of your shit over this.

 

[wiskey bravo]

Hell no
I love her but i am a jerk who want more

Well apparently your love isn't as strong as you think if you're looking for someone else. You are already looking for an escape and you're only in your mid 30's. It wont get better. I'm not sure what kind of advise an individual can possibly give to you? Is there some secret remedy? I'm guessing you found your way to escorts but you need guidance for something long term? So if I posted " looking for a new car " what do you think people would say? They would probably say go find one.

 

[KidTwist]

Keep the next one happy. Pre-emptively stock up on flip flops and track suits for the next one.
That will likely be living in the unit on the next street at the trailer park....

She hops from guy to guy. I didn't care because I had no intention to be with her, as I told her about my gf all the time.

 

[Bucktee]

One thing you have working in your favour is that you're married.

Despite what they say about cheaters, women love having sex with married men.

If you have kids, the odds further increase for you.

 

[Bucktee]

What's wrong with the lady you have at home?

I'm only assuming here, but if he's like most married men, he was promised monogamy in marriage, but what he got was celibacy.

 

[superman12]

Hey guys, i need your advice. I am married and I am hooked on the hobby but I am looking for something more long-term with a side chick.
I think this is safer (health, legal) ....

What do you guys think? I m mid-30's guy. Do you think flirting with women (I prefer older) would get me somewhere ?
My plan is to tell the side chick from day 1 about my situation (being married and all) and that I just need her for "me time"

Cheers!

Try going the sugar baby route. If your willing to fork over some $ there are more then enough women out there who are comfortable with being a side chick to a married guy.

 

[Sailorz]

Is it illegal to have a girl on the side, whether long or short term? Go to the doctor to get a Rx for Viagra.

Are you married, Popeye?

Stop responding to my posts dumbass! Didn't I give you a bad enough beating here last night?

 

[jalimon]

Try going the sugar baby route. If your willing to fork over some $ there are more then enough women out there who are comfortable with being a side chick to a married guy.

Can you go the sugar baby route with 700$ a month? I am afraid he will end up on artificial sweetener baby

 

[shack]

Stop responding to my posts dumbass! Didn't I give you a bad enough beating here last night?

Seeing as you were the one getting mocked by others...........NO. I received no beating.

I'll only respond when you post something worthy of a response. But keep up the name calling.

 

[shack]

Can you go the sugar baby route with 700$ a month? I am afraid he will end up on artificial sweetener baby

A Splenda Daddy.

 

[jalimon]

A Splenda Daddy.

I had to look it up as I had never heard of that term

I did the SA route a few years ago but found out quite early that it was costly if you were just a tad picky hehe So went back to SP.

 

[kherg007]

I have never been married, (and I am told it is a taboo subject), but I read many many couples who have been married for decades no longer sleep together but have sexual partners on the side. In some countries, like South Africa and Botswana, couples rarely get divorced but have affairs.

In Latin America too. Knew a USA govt bloke who told me working in an embassy that a dad brought in his 18 year old daughter and after the dad got his visa paperwork he introduced his daughter saying she needs a "sponsor" and that an important handsome man like my friend should have a girl on the side he sponsors. My friend said what this meant was in essence the daughter is a sugar baby, gets put up in her own apartment, and in essence trades sex for the accommodation and an allowance. He was stunned that it was her dad touting her lol.

 

[shack]

I had to look it up as I had never heard of that term

I've been called it. LOL

I did the SA route a few years ago but found out quite early that it was costly if you were just a tad picky hehe So went back to SP.

You need to be patient and prepared to keep walking away if they're asking for too much. You still have the SP as backup. But when you find an SB that you connect with and within your budget, it can be very fulfilling.

I saw my first SP in over a year last week and had a good time. Thanks, Philip.