Etiquette

[chuckster5]

Apologies if this was done before but wanted to get some thoughts on where folks land. This is strictly for my own research purposes:

When preparing for a date, do folks research what drinks/chocolates etc. ladies are into? Or is this considered doing too much? I get it, some may see it as a business transaction: get in and get out. I'm guessing it may be dependent on the provider.

Are folks more comfortable doing incall vs outcall?

Lastly, tipping. I remember reading a previous post where it seemed as if it was a firm no for most but wanted to do a temperature check again. Do you only tip if the service was exceptional?

Please help a brother out.

 

[elkober]

Apologies if this was done before but wanted to get some thoughts on where folks land. This is strictly for my own research purposes:

When preparing for a date, do folks research what drinks/chocolates etc. ladies are into? Or is this considered doing too much? I get it, some may see it as a business transaction: get in and get out. I'm guessing it may be dependent on the provider.

Are folks more comfortable doing incall vs outcall?

Lastly, tipping. I remember reading a previous post where it seemed as if it was a firm no for most but wanted to do a temperature check again. Do you only tip if the service was exceptional?

Please help a brother out.

Yes, somewhere here there are threads on etiquette but I got lazy in my search, so I offer the following:

I’m not going to pretend to answer for anyone else, so these are my subjective views on the subject.

You have specific questions and I’ll answer them as best I can, but you start with “preparing for a date”, so I’ll comment on that first. As per below, for me it’s not a date but an encounter for a service, but in preparation I always make sure I’m thoroughly showered just before hand ((even if the service includes a shower). I also make sure I’m groomed down there. I always confirm my attendance just before. I put compensation in an envelope. I make sure I am on time and I arrive wearing casual but clean, well kept clothes - no jeans. For me, it is all about respect no matter whether it’s a high end encounter or a simple $60 body rub. They all deserve the same respect. If it is not returned, try someone else next time.

I do not consider these encounters dates. If someone wants to characterize this as GIGO, so be it, but I’m looking for service and just like my auto mechanic, I’m not coming in with gifts. Don’t get me wrong - some here do and I have nothing against that, but I’m not doing that. I‘ve seen ads clearly indicating gifts are welcome and some even list their preferences. I can see two sides to this. It can be construed as tacky, but for those who may be looking for a gregular provider, this could be appropriate. I’m looking for variety, so trying to enhance subsequent encounters is not in my playbook. Also, I can understand that for high end provider$ gifts may be the norm, but some of us cannot afford them anyway - actually the fees for regular providers have gone up substantially and we are now paying $350-$400 a pop. Gifts on top of that is beyond my reach.

On the other hand, tips are a different animal.Just like a restaurant, if the service and “food” are above expectations, I do tip. For example if I went for 1/2 hour at $180 and I liked the experience, an extra $20 is not out of line.

Re in or outcall, in my home town it’s incall for me as I imagine it is for a lot of hobbyists for obvious reasons.

Good luck and Happy New Year.

 

[Daddy2021]

Apologies if this was done before but wanted to get some thoughts on where folks land. This is strictly for my own research purposes:

When preparing for a date, do folks research what drinks/chocolates etc. ladies are into? Or is this considered doing too much? I get it, some may see it as a business transaction: get in and get out. I'm guessing it may be dependent on the provider.

Are folks more comfortable doing incall vs outcall?

Lastly, tipping. I remember reading a previous post where it seemed as if it was a firm no for most but wanted to do a temperature check again. Do you only tip if the service was exceptional?

Please help a brother out.

Chocolates are always a safe bet. As for tipping - do so if you are comfortable and feel it’s warranted. Not anyone else’s business if gnats what you want to do. The nay sayers here are bitter about sps making money or are just cheap fuckers lol. I personally do tip of the lady felt special and service was top notch. It’s not required though.

 

[William St]

Chocolates are always a safe bet. As for tipping - do so if you are comfortable and feel it’s warranted. Not anyone else’s business if gnats what you want to do. The nay sayers here are bitter about sps making money or are just cheap fuckers lol. I personally do tip of the lady felt special and service was top notch. It’s not required though.

I never tip in the expectation that it will somehow get me better service. I sometimes tip ladies who have given consistently great service. It's kind of an expression of my appreciation for a consistently positive experience. To be honest, the fees these days are high enough. I can't afford to tip much, or often.

 

[Daddy2021]

I never tip in the expectation that it will somehow get me better service. I sometimes tip ladies who have given consistently great service. It's kind of an expression of my appreciation for a consistently positive experience. To be honest, the fees these days are high enough. I can't afford to tip much, or often.

That’s why if I do tip, it’s after the fact. Only if I’m impressed and the gal was really genuinely sweet and aimed to please.

 

[McKenna King]

Apologies if this was done before but wanted to get some thoughts on where folks land. This is strictly for my own research purposes:

When preparing for a date, do folks research what drinks/chocolates etc. ladies are into? Or is this considered doing too much? I get it, some may see it as a business transaction: get in and get out. I'm guessing it may be dependent on the provider.

Are folks more comfortable doing incall vs outcall?

Lastly, tipping. I remember reading a previous post where it seemed as if it was a firm no for most but wanted to do a temperature check again. Do you only tip if the service was exceptional?

Please help a brother out.

Not sure if you’re interested in a provider’s perspective but here’s my honest take:

My expectations from a new client are always the bare minimum, which I believe includes:
- good hygiene
- being on time (yes sometimes traffic or things happen, but always communicate with the provider if you think you’ll be running a bit behind)
- respectful communication
- respect the providers boundaries and restrictions
- always have the providers correct rate and provide it once the booking has begun (or follow the providers instructions regarding the compensation)

I think in general most providers are not expecting any gifts or tips from a brand new client. These are of course kind gestures. But I don’t ever set that expectation for someone I’ve never met.

How you approach this “hobby” will also obviously dictate the direction you take. As @elkober mentioned above, he doesn’t approach it as a date, and that’s totally fine! Some guys do, and want to book a provider and have a more organic experience, as if it were a first date (that makes it past third base lol). But as a provider, I can also appreciate the clients who want just a one off experience, no frills and no pretences.

Figure out what experience YOU want. Always do your research on a provider, and if the communication is good and you feel good about the situation you can always ask during the booking process if she has a favourite wine or would like a drink from Starbucks etc.
Don’t go out of your way though. Especially if it just doesn’t feel right. Like I said, I think most providers are happy to just receive a respectful new client.
If you are a repeat client and build up a rapport with that provider, it’s still not an expectation to bring gifts or leave a tip (my rates are high enough, so I truthfully never expect tips and am genuinely surprised when they do happen).

Just use your best judgement and do what feels right depending on the situation. There’s no right or wrong answer to your question about etiquette, so long as you approach every new provider with the same respect and consideration you’re doing it right!!

As for Incall vs. Outcall that’s always going to come down to your preference and also the providers. For example, I prefer hosting new clients at my Incall. Mainly because I’m most comfortable and at my best in my own environment. I don’t have to worry about finding parking or packing up a big bag full of toys.
But do your research and if you’re curious about the Incall you can always ask the provider what the amenities are like.
I take a lot into consideration when hosting my clients, so I always have a variety of drinks to offer, a clean space with fresh towels, bathrobes and toiletries. Basically everything you’d need to feel comfortable whether it’s a short visit or a few hours.

I hope this perspective helps!

 

[Assblaster]

Tip. No. Sometimes session ends early so that could be considered a tip.

Incall. For 1st appointment I've heard too many stories of bad experiences on outcall of bait and switch on outcall


Never thought of bringing any gifts to a appointment. If I had few ladies I was seeing regularly then maybe gift's might be a option

 

[Peter485]

I tip based on the time and effort the girl(s) spent chatting with me to organizing the night. Its all effort and time for them. I want some small, flirty back and forth, and a couple emails to discuss expectations and preferences. So I add some to the 'bill'.

The next time around they know they can spend some extra time emailing back and forth with me because that know they'll get a tip. It's a win-win.

 

[chuckster5]

Yes, somewhere here there are threads on etiquette but I got lazy in my search, so I offer the following:

I’m not going to pretend to answer for anyone else, so these are my subjective views on the subject.

You have specific questions and I’ll answer them as best I can, but you start with “preparing for a date”, so I’ll comment on that first. As per below, for me it’s not a date but an encounter for a service, but in preparation I always make sure I’m thoroughly showered just before hand ((even if the service includes a shower). I also make sure I’m groomed down there. I always confirm my attendance just before. I put compensation in an envelope. I make sure I am on time and I arrive wearing casual but clean, well kept clothes - no jeans. For me, it is all about respect no matter whether it’s a high end encounter or a simple $60 body rub. They all deserve the same respect. If it is not returned, try someone else next time.

I do not consider these encounters dates. If someone wants to characterize this as GIGO, so be it, but I’m looking for service and just like my auto mechanic, I’m not coming in with gifts. Don’t get me wrong - some here do and I have nothing against that, but I’m not doing that. I‘ve seen ads clearly indicating gifts are welcome and some even list their preferences. I can see two sides to this. It can be construed as tacky, but for those who may be looking for a gregular provider, this could be appropriate. I’m looking for variety, so trying to enhance subsequent encounters is not in my playbook. Also, I can understand that for high end provider$ gifts may be the norm, but some of us cannot afford them anyway - actually the fees for regular providers have gone up substantially and we are now paying $350-$400 a pop. Gifts on top of that is beyond my reach.

On the other hand, tips are a different animal.Just like a restaurant, if the service and “food” are above expectations, I do tip. For example if I went for 1/2 hour at $180 and I liked the experience, an extra $20 is not out of line.

Re in or outcall, in my home town it’s incall for me as I imagine it is for a lot of hobbyists for obvious reasons.

Good luck and Happy New Year.

A lot of great insight. I was searching for the right word but you put it best: "encounter" is what it should be called.

In all honesty, you're 100% right. Obviously I'm still green so this is super helpful. Thanks a million!

 

[chuckster5]

Not sure if you’re interested in a provider’s perspective but here’s my honest take:

My expectations from a new client are always the bare minimum, which I believe includes:
- good hygiene
- being on time (yes sometimes traffic or things happen, but always communicate with the provider if you think you’ll be running a bit behind)
- respectful communication
- respect the providers boundaries and restrictions
- always have the providers correct rate and provide it once the booking has begun (or follow the providers instructions regarding the compensation)

I think in general most providers are not expecting any gifts or tips from a brand new client. These are of course kind gestures. But I don’t ever set that expectation for someone I’ve never met.

How you approach this “hobby” will also obviously dictate the direction you take. As @elkober mentioned above, he doesn’t approach it as a date, and that’s totally fine! Some guys do, and want to book a provider and have a more organic experience, as if it were a first date (that makes it past third base lol). But as a provider, I can also appreciate the clients who want just a one off experience, no frills and no pretences.

Figure out what experience YOU want. Always do your research on a provider, and if the communication is good and you feel good about the situation you can always ask during the booking process if she has a favourite wine or would like a drink from Starbucks etc.
Don’t go out of your way though. Especially if it just doesn’t feel right. Like I said, I think most providers are happy to just receive a respectful new client.
If you are a repeat client and build up a rapport with that provider, it’s still not an expectation to bring gifts or leave a tip (my rates are high enough, so I truthfully never expect tips and am genuinely surprised when they do happen).

Just use your best judgement and do what feels right depending on the situation. There’s no right or wrong answer to your question about etiquette, so long as you approach every new provider with the same respect and consideration you’re doing it right!!

As for Incall vs. Outcall that’s always going to come down to your preference and also the providers. For example, I prefer hosting new clients at my Incall. Mainly because I’m most comfortable and at my best in my own environment. I don’t have to worry about finding parking or packing up a big bag full of toys.
But do your research and if you’re curious about the Incall you can always ask the provider what the amenities are like.
I take a lot into consideration when hosting my clients, so I always have a variety of drinks to offer, a clean space with fresh towels, bathrobes and toiletries. Basically everything you’d need to feel comfortable whether it’s a short visit or a few hours.

I hope this perspective helps!

Makes total sense: first time date vs regular. I'll be honest, I was looking for the perspective of both parties on this one. The hygiene part goes without saying but getting a provider to weigh-in is very helpful. All valid points. I appreciate your POV... insert random comment justifying why you're on my bucket list for 2025.

 

[William St]

Not sure if you’re interested in a provider’s perspective but here’s my honest take:

My expectations from a new client are always the bare minimum, which I believe includes:
- good hygiene
- being on time (yes sometimes traffic or things happen, but always communicate with the provider if you think you’ll be running a bit behind)
- respectful communication
- respect the providers boundaries and restrictions
- always have the providers correct rate and provide it once the booking has begun (or follow the providers instructions regarding the compensation)

I think in general most providers are not expecting any gifts or tips from a brand new client. These are of course kind gestures. But I don’t ever set that expectation for someone I’ve never met.

How you approach this “hobby” will also obviously dictate the direction you take. As @elkober mentioned above, he doesn’t approach it as a date, and that’s totally fine! Some guys do, and want to book a provider and have a more organic experience, as if it were a first date (that makes it past third base lol). But as a provider, I can also appreciate the clients who want just a one off experience, no frills and no pretences.

Figure out what experience YOU want. Always do your research on a provider, and if the communication is good and you feel good about the situation you can always ask during the booking process if she has a favourite wine or would like a drink from Starbucks etc.
Don’t go out of your way though. Especially if it just doesn’t feel right. Like I said, I think most providers are happy to just receive a respectful new client.
If you are a repeat client and build up a rapport with that provider, it’s still not an expectation to bring gifts or leave a tip (my rates are high enough, so I truthfully never expect tips and am genuinely surprised when they do happen).

Just use your best judgement and do what feels right depending on the situation. There’s no right or wrong answer to your question about etiquette, so long as you approach every new provider with the same respect and consideration you’re doing it right!!

As for Incall vs. Outcall that’s always going to come down to your preference and also the providers. For example, I prefer hosting new clients at my Incall. Mainly because I’m most comfortable and at my best in my own environment. I don’t have to worry about finding parking or packing up a big bag full of toys.
But do your research and if you’re curious about the Incall you can always ask the provider what the amenities are like.
I take a lot into consideration when hosting my clients, so I always have a variety of drinks to offer, a clean space with fresh towels, bathrobes and toiletries. Basically everything you’d need to feel comfortable whether it’s a short visit or a few hours.

I hope this perspective helps!

You are always a gold mine of great advice, McKenna. Thanks.

 

[elkober]

I never tip in the expectation that it will somehow get me better service. I sometimes tip ladies who have given consistently great service. It's kind of an expression of my appreciation for a consistently positive experience. To be honest, the fees these days are high enough. I can't afford to tip much, or often.

Agreed.

 

[elkober]

Not sure if you’re interested in a provider’s perspective but here’s my honest take:

My expectations from a new client are always the bare minimum, which I believe includes:
- good hygiene
- being on time (yes sometimes traffic or things happen, but always communicate with the provider if you think you’ll be running a bit behind)
- respectful communication
- respect the providers boundaries and restrictions
- always have the providers correct rate and provide it once the booking has begun (or follow the providers instructions regarding the compensation)

I think in general most providers are not expecting any gifts or tips from a brand new client. These are of course kind gestures. But I don’t ever set that expectation for someone I’ve never met.

How you approach this “hobby” will also obviously dictate the direction you take. As @elkober mentioned above, he doesn’t approach it as a date, and that’s totally fine! Some guys do, and want to book a provider and have a more organic experience, as if it were a first date (that makes it past third base lol). But as a provider, I can also appreciate the clients who want just a one off experience, no frills and no pretences.

Figure out what experience YOU want. Always do your research on a provider, and if the communication is good and you feel good about the situation you can always ask during the booking process if she has a favourite wine or would like a drink from Starbucks etc.
Don’t go out of your way though. Especially if it just doesn’t feel right. Like I said, I think most providers are happy to just receive a respectful new client.
If you are a repeat client and build up a rapport with that provider, it’s still not an expectation to bring gifts or leave a tip (my rates are high enough, so I truthfully never expect tips and am genuinely surprised when they do happen).

Just use your best judgement and do what feels right depending on the situation. There’s no right or wrong answer to your question about etiquette, so long as you approach every new provider with the same respect and consideration you’re doing it right!!

As for Incall vs. Outcall that’s always going to come down to your preference and also the providers. For example, I prefer hosting new clients at my Incall. Mainly because I’m most comfortable and at my best in my own environment. I don’t have to worry about finding parking or packing up a big bag full of toys.
But do your research and if you’re curious about the Incall you can always ask the provider what the amenities are like.
I take a lot into consideration when hosting my clients, so I always have a variety of drinks to offer, a clean space with fresh towels, bathrobes and toiletries. Basically everything you’d need to feel comfortable whether it’s a short visit or a few hours.

I hope this perspective helps!

You have a recurring theme here and it is respect. I am in total agreement with that and it is my #1 priority.. My goal as a client (besides the obvious) is to convey to the provider that I am thinking of her as much as me. Even if you enjoy it, your job cannot be easy and I want the provider to know I care.

 

[McKenna King]

On tipping specifically:

I don’t believe it should ever be an expectation.
Seeing a provider comes with a hefty price tag already. I feel as though tipping culture is so predominant in North America, some people feel like it’s almost an obligation.
If I were a client, I’d only tip based off how I felt about the experience, but also a few other factors.
If you’re seeing a provider who’s charging a very low rate, perhaps a tip is going to be much more meaningful and will go a longer way for that provider.
If I were a client who’s seeing a higher end companion who’s rates are already quite high, I don’t know if I would tip a monetary value…but if seeing that provider is in my budget comfortably and I’m seeing her for the overall experience, I’d probably be booking a longer time with a dinner date or some type of activity. I see it as the “gratuity” being included in the overall rate structure.

This is just my opinion, other companions or gentlemen may feel quite differently.

I just feel a certain way about it. Because it’s such a human interaction while also being a luxury. You can’t really compare it to purchasing a luxury item like a Ferrari and then tipping the dealership. The incentives to see a luxury companion and the tip is all built into the rates in my opinion.
But any time you treat a lady nicely, I’m sure the effort will be returned in kind

 

[HoopyFrood]

Curious, from a functionality standpoint, how a provider would prefer tips to be given?

Generally, payment is provided ahead of the session, in some kind of subtle fashion, and it always seemed kind of... weird to us to wrap things up by handing money directly to a provider after a date to express appreciation. Would an e-transfer be 'better'?

 

[McKenna King]

Curious, from a functionality standpoint, how a provider would prefer tips to be given?

Generally, payment is provided ahead of the session, in some kind of subtle fashion, and it always seemed kind of... weird to us to wrap things up by handing money directly to a provider after a date to express appreciation. Would an e-transfer be 'better'?

If you feel that just handing the tip to the provider after your date is awkward or impolite, you could always excuse yourself to the washroom before you head out and leave it there. Just send a little note after you exit the building and tell them you left them a little something.
If it’s an outcall and you want to tip the provider just keep it in a card or envelope and give this to the provider as she’s gathering her things and getting ready to head out.
It really doesn’t have to be eloquent or awkward. Just let her know “I really enjoyed myself and wanted to show my appreciation, here’s a little extra for you.” Or something along those lines.