Anyone here ever date or start a relationship with a SP?

[that6969]

Just curious how it went. I've read a few stories about strippers and I like reading the stories.

I know some might quit/retire on their own if they want to and others are fine with an open relationship. Sometimes mental health plays an issue too it seems.

I have yet to date one, but if there was a connection and the person overall wasn't too negative and stuff I'd consider it. I'm pretty open and non-judgemental.

 

[massman]

Lots of threads on this over the years. To sum them up, it’s quite rare and seeing an sp and thinking you can turn it into a relationship is usually a misconception. Rarely it has turned out good, often not so much. We are all human tho, and any place we interact with other humans could lead to a relationship, but if you are looking for one, this is not the best place to look as you will more likely find disappointment/ trouble. Most (nearly all) girls are NOT in the business to meet guys for relationships.

 

[that6969]

Yes I'd figure that. Similar to men who attend a stripclub thinking they can win a girl over. It's a business for them and the chance of that happening to someone at the actual place is super rare. A few strippers are actually married at times too and are happy just leaving work based on at times what they have to deal with.

 

[Portishead]

My relationship with an SP begins when I enter the incall and ends when my time is up.

 

[Oistins]

Apparently this is not all it’s cracked up to be. One SP compared it to having a job as a chef. Do you think a chef really wants to come home and cook you dinner after preparing food all day?

 

[Oistins]

I got more! Another SP didn’t think it was fair for her to be going out and having orgasms all night long, so she would book an outcall for her SO so he would not miss out. You guessed it! Yes, she is still good friends with him.

 

[southpaw]

Anyone can date an SP or stripper, for the right price.

 

[terbcc098]

It’s like dating a normal chick. Same issues, same arguments.

 

[Mr Deeds]

It’s like dating a normal chick. Same issues, same arguments.

I had a very long relationship with an sp.years ago, I can't speak for all the ladies in this business but there are a lot of issues to deal with. Im not going to go into detail because even after all these years its still painful. Take my advice, don't get personally involved it could literally ruin your life.

 

[ogibowt]

yep...me......nontransactional dinner dates ....movie nights.....meeting her at her private residence.....a few casino nights and even trips to Woodbine horse track as well as Mohawk Raceway.....it was fun...i had a good time....after a year or so it ran its course....she met a guy that promised to take care of her,,,something i guess she thought i wasnt ready to do,,,given time maybe i would have,,,,but it never happened....and yes i had feelings for her,,,but the 30 year difference in age kinda was the elephant in the room

 

[Erosboy]

Yeah. A few times. Two things for you to understand. Firstly, she's not going to give up her job for you so if you have a problem with her job, move on. Secondly, when you're a client that hour or two you are with her is all about you - that's her job to make you feel special. When you're dating her, you will see her bad sides, her down side, her sad side, her ugly side along with all the great things about her and the relationship will only succeed if you are willing to share all of that with her and to be with her when she needs you. It's just like any relationship in that second regard

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Yeah. A few times. Two things for you to understand. Firstly, she's not going to give up her job for you so if you have a problem with her job, move on. Secondly, when you're a client that hour or two you are with her is all about you - that's her job to make you feel special. When you're dating her, you will see her bad sides, her down side, her sad side, her ugly side along with all the great things about her and the relationship will only succeed if you are willing to share all of that with her and to be with her when she needs you. It's just like any relationship in that second regard

So basically all the things you are normally paying not to see.

 

[Indiana]

 

[Shaquille Oatmeal]

I've dated a stripper.
Nothing to write home about.
No extra sex or lapdances.
Just the regular boring civvie sex a few times a week lmao.

 

[Goodoer]

Apparently this is not all it’s cracked up to be. One SP compared it to having a job as a chef. Do you think a chef really wants to come home and cook you dinner after preparing food all day?

This would be the biggest fear... No real intimacy as she's tired.

I got more! Another SP didn’t think it was fair for her to be going out and having orgasms all night long, so she would book an outcall for her SO so he would not miss out. You guessed it! Yes, she is still good friends with him.

Not a bad idea as it highlights the need for sex, the need for fairness in numbers and the fact that her job and your encounter is only transactional.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Apparently this is not all it’s cracked up to be. One SP compared it to having a job as a chef. Do you think a chef really wants to come home and cook you dinner after preparing food all day?

 

[that6969]

" 90% of your arguments will be about money. It’s shocking that they make rent money in a day but by the time the end rolls in they are broke. You also can’t correct any behaviour. "

That's the part that annoys me. My ex and I (she's never been a SP or anything) would argue about funds. I was the saver along with spending here or there but also wanting to save cause we have kids and she just kept blowing what she had. The few times I'd bring it up politely she'd get annoyed. After we split up I'm slowly doing better financially compared to her who keeps making bad decisions for "wants" when there are "needs" that have to come first. Unfortunately, some people don't learn and don't change I realized because that's just how they are wired. And she's the type who'll never admit her mistakes compared to me.

 

[that6969]

I'd be happy with someone who's financially stable and puts out a few times in a month at least. It's when it's been months without some action and they keep brushing you off. Annoying af. My one buddy wants it a few times a week lol and I let him know not everyone has a high sex drive like that and most of the time you meet someone and one person slows it down compared to how it was in the start.

It's the hypocrisy of some calling men pigs but then are SPs. Not all guys are generally like that. If I'm with someone and they are going through something for a bit I got no issue with that than even doing something behind their back like seeing a MP, but then there's guys where if it's been a week or month they'll just do whatever to get what they desire. I was going to see a SP years ago who openly has a social page, but then she posted a few bashing guy stuff which some guys find appealing based on being a sub I guess, but it was a turn off for me. No different than men flaunting cash bills on pics. Just not my cup of tea. YMMV.

 

[terbcc098]

The AI gf from blade runner 2049 doesn’t seem so bad tbh

 

[massman]

My relationship with an SP begins when I enter the incall and ends when my time is up.

Reminds me of that scene in goodfellas when they stop at Tommy’s mom’s place with the guy in the trunk.

• Tommy's Mother : Why don't you get yourself a nice girl?
  Tommy DeVito : I get a nice one almost every night, Ma.
  Tommy's Mother : Yeah, but get yourself a girl so you could settle down.
  Tommy DeVito : I settle down almost every night but then, in the morning, I'm free.