Things To Watch For While Hobbying in 2021

[MrStinson]

Hello Gents,

I wanted to make a new thread to help out newcomers and have the experienced ones let them know what they should watch out for while hobbying.

Please post everything you would know and how to avoid being scammed and robbed.

Welcome to the board Gents.

 

[ralph613]

I've never tried hobbying before but thinking of it.

I have a partner and don't want to pass any STIs to her. How likely is it to catch herpes or syphillis from covered sex? Have any of you caught any from hobbying? That's my biggest blocker from taking the plunge. A condom doesn't protect you from those STDs.

 

[Alt2021]

I would say if you use LL, to go for the verified ones, even though it's never 100% risk free

 

[randall_stevens]

Do your research on here and other boards. LL is a hit and miss, but mostly misses (scammers). But there are some legit ones.

I use Twitter, and these boards if I'm interested in someone. LL is too risky

 

[MrStinson]

I've never tried hobbying before but thinking of it.

I have a partner and don't want to pass any STIs to her. How likely is it to catch herpes or syphillis from covered sex? Have any of you caught any from hobbying? That's my biggest blocker from taking the plunge. A condom doesn't protect you from those STDs.

Wouldn't personally say this is a concern as if you go for the ones that are highly rated, they take all the precautions to keep themselves and you safe

 

[westcityside]

I've never tried hobbying before but thinking of it.

I have a partner and don't want to pass any STIs to her. How likely is it to catch herpes or syphillis from covered sex? Have any of you caught any from hobbying? That's my biggest blocker from taking the plunge. A condom doesn't protect you from those STDs.

Book well reviewed providers, wear a condom. BBBJ is pretty much safe, though I did hear some guy got herpes once from it. Make damn sure you dont get bite marks, though a smart provider will be careful. Dont go home with your clothes smelling like perfume, and thats a real task at the strip bar. Don't go home with another woman's strands of hair on your clothing, particularly if your girl is a brunette and you were with a blonde. Dont come home so fucking happy that its clear you won the lottery or just got laid. The one to really worry about is the smell of your clothes, that's where you'll get caught.

 

[MrStinson]

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Book well reviewed providers, wear a condom. BBBJ is pretty much safe, though I did hear some guy got herpes once from it. Make damn sure you dont get bite marks, though a smart provider will be careful. Dont go home with your clothes smelling like perfume, and thats a real task at the strip bar. Don't go home with another woman's strands of hair on your clothing, particularly if your girl is a brunette and you were with a blonde. Dont come home so fucking happy that its clear you won the lottery or just got laid. The one to really worry about is the smell of your clothes, that's where you'll get caught.

Grade AAA advice

 

[MikeO]

Book well reviewed providers, wear a condom. BBBJ is pretty much safe, though I did hear some guy got herpes once from it. Make damn sure you dont get bite marks, though a smart provider will be careful. Dont go home with your clothes smelling like perfume, and thats a real task at the strip bar. Don't go home with another woman's strands of hair on your clothing, particularly if your girl is a brunette and you were with a blonde. Dont come home so fucking happy that its clear you won the lottery or just got laid. The one to really worry about is the smell of your clothes, that's where you'll get caught.

Or then there's my idiot buddy who kept a receipt from Pigale's for his wife to find in his pocket. He's now on such a short leash that he can't even pick up short dog hairs.

 

[Chunky Protoss]

Always Google search the images if they are not a reputable provider in your area, don't let the small head think for the big head. Be courteous, respectful, clear and discreet when interacting through text as well as throughout your experience and you will have a very enjoyable time.

 

[CuddleBuddy2]

1. Use a texting app. Uninstall text app when not in use.
2. Don't transfer deposit unless she's very very reputable(has good reviews, website, twitter, terb member) and you don't have to worry about your SO finding out. Use amazon or other gift cards if you have to.
3. Avoid providers who're available 24/7, "party friendly".
4. Avoid low end motels/hotels.
5. Book 30-45 mins for first meet-up before you book longer sessions.
6. Don't arrive more than 5 mins early and expect provider to see you.
7. Don't share personal info unless you really know her well. Don't ask for her personal info either.
8. Don't assume about services. Inquire about services and rates if they're important to you.

 

[NadiaLovechanko]

Online presence - in 2021 it’s easy for people to have something online besides ads, newer girls/ people may only have ads (Twitter, onlyfans, snapchat, Instagram and or website)

Has proper contact information - either number, email or website ( those who put the effort into making a full website are more likely to be real)

Donations are discussed & in your price range -you want to make sure you are paying for their time and that it is within your budget. Do not inquire to those outside of your budget, have a set understanding of what you can afford BEFORE LOOKING ( your other head may hurt your bank account more than you would like )

If she requires screening do it

If she requires deposits ask for her policy on canceling on either end ( don’t just send money to anyone, unless that is your link)

If she offers virtual dates take one - great way to see if she is real and test out your connection

If discretion is important to you mention that, if your SO has a nose like a bloodhound bring a change of clothes & your soap from home / cologne

If you are ever unsure always just ask

Some people like me have DRN policies, so finding information on here might be more difficult. I do however happily answer emails with any questions those may have (Also normally have a VERY informative website up too)

 

[westcityside]

Change your shirt after you leave the house and before you go to the strip club or to visit the lady. When you get back to your car, take off that shirt, put it in a plastic bag, seal it and throw it in the corner of the trunk, retrieve it later for a wash you'll be putting on. Return home wearing the fresh smelling shirt you left home wearing in the first place. Women know the smell of perfume and they will smell it on your clothes, understand this. Take a good sniff of that shirt that you put in the trunk, you know what? It smells like a woman's perfume, that's what your wife smelt when she threw IT in the washer and the BRICK at your head . We all have the benefit of lathering in hand sanitizer to cover scents, but dont risk pretty smelling laundry or an "extra sniff" when you get home.

 

[DannyDo]

Do your research on here and other boards. LL is a hit and miss, but mostly misses (scammers). But there are some legit ones.

I use Twitter, and these boards if I'm interested in someone. LL is too risky

Your right. I start there then look for ads of Ladies who have websites as a sign of their legitimacy. It hasnt served me wrong, yet

 

[MikeO]

Change your shirt after you leave the house and before you go to the strip club or to visit the lady. When you get back to your car, take off that shirt, put it in a plastic bag, seal it and throw it in the corner of the trunk, retrieve it later for a wash you'll be putting on. Return home wearing the fresh smelling shirt you left home wearing in the first place. Women know the smell of perfume and they will smell it on your clothes, understand this. Take a good sniff of that shirt that you put in the trunk, you know what? It smells like a woman's perfume, that's what your wife smelt when she threw IT in the washer and the BRICK at your head . We all have the benefit of lathering in hand sanitizer to cover scents, but dont risk pretty smelling laundry or an "extra sniff" when you get home.

Great advice but very complicated. Seems to me it's easier to just 'become single" and enjoy outcalls for which you don't need a car, or trunk, or to worry about laundry...and you get to wake up to the memory of your last evening's company. As well, my pup thoroughly enjoys the fresh scent of every new lady he meets. He especially loved the panties he found under the bed after one lady left. Come as a princess...leave commando! Hmmmmm!

 

[DannyDo]

Change your shirt after you leave the house and before you go to the strip club or to visit the lady. When you get back to your car, take off that shirt, put it in a plastic bag, seal it and throw it in the corner of the trunk, retrieve it later for a wash you'll be putting on. Return home wearing the fresh smelling shirt you left home wearing in the first place. Women know the smell of perfume and they will smell it on your clothes, understand this. Take a good sniff of that shirt that you put in the trunk, you know what? It smells like a woman's perfume, that's what your wife smelt when she threw IT in the washer and the BRICK at your head . We all have the benefit of lathering in hand sanitizer to cover scents, but dont risk pretty smelling laundry or an "extra sniff" when you get home.

Or save all that effort and just say "going to the Club for a bit with the Boys dear....later!!" and walk out. There, no need for such effort.

 

[slipin-jimmy]

For newbies I would say:
-start with someone local with multiple reviews (specially important if a deposit is required)
-If the ad has language to rush your decision (ie for 2 days only!!), avoid
-get a burner phone (I have one where I didn't have to give a single piece of id)
-I prefer to go to an incall than having someone over my home (specially if you never met before), if you get a hotel room then outcall is less of an issue but there are still things to watch.
-pay attention to the language in the ads...if it sounds trashy and grammatically unreadable...avoid
-deposits: I personally avoid e-transfers at all costs...an anonymous PayPal or crypto I would consider. I'm sure there will be many different opinions on that one.
-most important: DO YOUR HOMEWORK. Google the phone number, if it's simultaneously showing in different cities, AVOID...reverse search the pictures, check for twitter accounts, websites etc...

 

[desperateent]

Book well reviewed providers, wear a condom. BBBJ is pretty much safe, though I did hear some guy got herpes once from it. Make damn sure you dont get bite marks, though a smart provider will be careful. Dont go home with your clothes smelling like perfume, and thats a real task at the strip bar. Don't go home with another woman's strands of hair on your clothing, particularly if your girl is a brunette and you were with a blonde. Dont come home so fucking happy that its clear you won the lottery or just got laid. The one to really worry about is the smell of your clothes, that's where you'll get caught.

Ive been hobbying with a wife for 13 years now. The closest I ever got to getting busted was smelling like perfume after having a shower at the spa. Was able to brush it off but now I only hobby if there's going to be at least 24 hours and two showers between the girl and my wife plus an opportunity to launder all my clothes. Have been GTG since. Also use a locked folder on your phone and a burner email address only accessible from that folder along with a web browser inside the folder for browsing SP sites thats not logged in to any of your accounts. Delete all booking calls from your phone as soon as you make them. Has worked for me so far.

 

[desperateent]

Book well reviewed providers, wear a condom. BBBJ is pretty much safe, though I did hear some guy got herpes once from it. Make damn sure you dont get bite marks, though a smart provider will be careful. Dont go home with your clothes smelling like perfume, and thats a real task at the strip bar. Don't go home with another woman's strands of hair on your clothing, particularly if your girl is a brunette and you were with a blonde. Dont come home so fucking happy that its clear you won the lottery or just got laid. The one to really worry about is the smell of your clothes, that's where you'll get caught.

This. The closest I ever came to getting caught was the lingering smell of perfume, even after a shower at the spa.

 

[William St]

Ive been hobbying with a wife for 13 years now. The closest I ever got to getting busted was smelling like perfume after having a shower at the spa. Was able to brush it off but now I only hobby if there's going to be at least 24 hours and two showers between the girl and my wife plus an opportunity to launder all my clothes. Have been GTG since. Also use a locked folder on your phone and a burner email address only accessible from that folder along with a web browser inside the folder for browsing SP sites thats not logged in to any of your accounts. Delete all booking calls from your phone as soon as you make them. Has worked for me so far.

I take some precautions, but I also put a pass code on my phone. Nobody knows it but me.

 

[mig65]

I take some precautions, but I also put a pass code on my phone. Nobody knows it but me.

How do you cover up the finance part? Separate bank account?