Mheh, you do you. There are just as many women who would be mortified having the Red Visitor present while having sex. I used to think it was gross when I was a teenager and then after years of sexual experience it was not an issue with me. Women felt a lot more appreciative, comfortable and trusting being able to have a mature discussion and the option of knowing I would not freak, and that they could still have enjoyable sex. As with a lot of things this not everyone's cup of tea both men and women.