Carrot dangling

[LC18]

When I used to require references as part of screening, I would see that term quite often.

Some clients were labelled as carrot danglers. Let me put you in context:

“Hi so&so, X says that he has seen you in the past. Can you vouch for him?”

“He’s an easy client but he’s a carrot dangler. He often promises things and doesn’t deliver.”


What does that mean?
When you exchange messages with a sex worker and start promising things such as but not limited to:
I’ll buy you a gift card
I’ll bring you a gift next time I see you
Tell me what you would like and I’ll buy it for you
Can I spoil you?
Do you have a wishlist?

It creates expectations that won’t be met and it can quickly deteriorate the relationship you have with the provider. You also lose credibility and you risk the sex worker not wanting to vouch for you.

It is totally ok if you don’t have the means to spoil a woman you see every now and then. I have said many times that tips/gifts are never expected but always appreciated.

Are you intentionally doing that or did you just not realize how annoying it could be?

 

[blueray]

Carrot dangling is something that happens on both sides of the client/provider relationship. And you're right, it's annoying as hell.

 

[LC18]

Carrot dangling is something that happens on both sides of the client/provider relationship. And you're right, it's annoying as hell.

I believe you but could you elaborate?

 

[bazokajoe]

I believe you but could you elaborate?

I believe he means a SP will advertise certain services and rates, then when they show up everything changes.
Dangling the carrot to get a guy in the door.

 

[blueray]

Well the most obvious is regarding services "Yes, I love it, but I don't do that with new clients. Let's get to know each other better first". I've heard that kind of thing a lot, but only fallen for it a few times. Silly me.

 

[LC18]

I believe he means a SP will advertise certain services and rates, then when they show up everything changes.
Dangling the carrot to get a guy in the door.

Sounds more like scam or bait&switch adjacent.

 

[LC18]

Well the most obvious is regarding services "Yes, I love it, but I don't do that with new clients. Let's get to know each other better first". I've heard that kind of thing a lot, but only fallen for it a few times. Silly me.

Ok thank you for the exemple. That makes sense.

 

[bazokajoe]

Sounds more like scam or bait&switch adjacent.

Exactly. Dangling the carrot.

 

[explorerzip]

I think the metaphor is called "carrot and stick" or something like that. IMO, the "carrot danglers" are indirectly negotiating rates. I bought you this thing and hope to get a discount. That logic is weird to me because the money has already been spent buying the gift. You could use the money towards the regular hourly rate. If an SP is too expensive, just don't book her. Or wait until you have more money and make it a splurge.

 

[explorerzip]

Well the most obvious is regarding services "Yes, I love it, but I don't do that with new clients. Let's get to know each other better first". I've heard that kind of thing a lot, but only fallen for it a few times. Silly me.

Did you see those girls a second time and did you get what you wanted?

 

[blueray]

Did you see those girls a second time and did you get what you wanted?

One I saw 6 times...and it never happened. Not saying the six sessions were not good, they were. But she dangled a certain service but just never delivered.

 

[explorerzip]

One I saw 6 times...and it never happened. Not saying the six sessions were not good, they were. But she dangled a certain service but just never delivered.

Then she likely never wanted to do that thing in the first place. She should have been up front that she doesn't do that service instead of promising / pretending you would get it if you repeated with her.

 

[Kusa]

When I used to require references as part of screening, I would see that term quite often.

Some clients were labelled as carrot danglers. Let me put you in context:

“Hi so&so, X says that he has seen you in the past. Can you vouch for him?”

“He’s an easy client but he’s a carrot dangler. He often promises things and doesn’t deliver.”


What does that mean?
When you exchange messages with a sex worker and start promising things such as but not limited to:
I’ll buy you a gift card
I’ll bring you a gift next time I see you
Tell me what you would like and I’ll buy it for you
Can I spoil you?
Do you have a wishlist?

It creates expectations that won’t be met and it can quickly deteriorate the relationship you have with the provider. You also lose credibility and you risk the sex worker not wanting to vouch for you.

It is totally ok if you don’t have the means to spoil a woman you see every now and then. I have said many times that tips/gifts are never expected but always appreciated.

Are you intentionally doing that or did you just not realize how annoying it could be?

It's advisable to consult a website, if available, that provides gift suggestions.

From time to time, I pose such questions with the hope of gifting. However, some ladies suggest gifts that are so pricey that it leaves you astonished and contemplating leaping out the window. Yet, on one occasion, I did manage to give a lady her preferred gift...many days after our encounter, I paid a visit to the hospital, and guess who texted and sent me wishes!

Vera where are you?

 

[Darts]

This is worse than "pussy dangling". LOL!!!!!!!!

 

[superman12]

Carrot dangling works both ways. Guys will say all sorts of things to sp's mostly related to financial gifts thinking that if they offer that they will have a better chance to book you eventhough they have no intention of actually giving you anything of what they offered. On the other hand some Sp's will say they provide services which they have no intention of actually providing just to get you in the door. It's all part of the sex game lol.

 

[Mr.Gr33k]

People who repeatedly fail to keep their promises lose my trust and respect.

SPs who promise to deliver on something next time I see them, then develop amnesia, they lose me as a client.

 

[Cbr20152012]

I haven’t been on the rec’g end of this (thankfully, but I suspect like any part of life it’s just a matter of time).

I’m with Mr, Greek on this.

 

[Nathan 88]

One of the motto’s l live by is,
“”DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU’RE GOING TO DO””
This should apply to both SP and client.

 

[y2kmark]

I believe he means a SP will advertise certain services and rates, then when they show up everything changes.
Dangling the carrot to get a guy in the door.

Practitioner of bait and switch. Carrot dangling sounds better than switcherbaiting ...

 

[Vera.Reis]

Prior consent to sexual services cannot be given, consent is always ongoing, so I don't think that services can be "carrot dangled". Everyone should know this, it sucks if she never had the intention, but there's no way of knowing that unless several clients have it happen to them with the same provider, but just once we don't know what happened. Also given that the majority of people here go to agencies/spas, it's not the girl carrot dangling but the bookers. But I'm sure other things can be carrot dangled, that she doesn't normally take outfit requests unless it's a regular, that if you see her often she will give you extra time, or a special rate, type of thing.

The absolutely most annoying carrot that clients try to dangle is "give me a good price I will be your regular" first off, they are full of shit because they cant know that they will want to see me again before seeing me the first time... and why would I want a cheap regular???? I just offered one of my good regulars (he sends me money for xmas, my bday, valentines day, lingerie etc) my old rate for our next 12hr date and he said no, he will pay my currently rate because i deserve it. He still would be a good regular if he took the offer, but that's because I OFFERED.