Holding doors open for people

[JohnnyWishbone]

It's something I used to do up til right now.

If I reach the door at about the same time as someone coming to the door from the opposite side I usually open it for them and offer to them to go through the door first. I am very rarely thanked by any women (I know I have a face like the elephant man's twin brother but still - a small act you'd think would be acknowledged whether you're an ugly fuck or not). I would say it's mostly younger (30 and younger) women who never say thanks or acknowledge. Guys (regardless of background - white, black, chinese etc.) always say thanks and older people too.

In todays world of equality, I will now go through the door first and they can open their own door whether they've got their hands full, obese, pregnant or with some fatherless child with them or not (exception is if they're in a wheel chair). I don't want to be accused of disrespecting capable young women by opening doors for them (as if I'm suggesting they're weak etc.) as well as not getting thanked!

 

[xmontrealer]

"Chivalry is not dead, it's only sleeping." I was brought up to believe in being polite and considerate.

I will open doors if I'm there first, and hold them open for a woman, or even a man if he has his arms full.

I don't expect thanks, and if I get a negative reaction for it I just ignore it.

 

[Sonic Temple]

Agree with both comments - always be kind.

 

[bazokajoe]

If they don't say "thank you" just say "your welcome" as they walk through the door.

 

[trm]

I will always hold a door open for a woman and I have never been told I am acting like a sexist. Most women say thank you. I will hold a door open for a man. Men always say thank you for that. Be kind to others. The days of angry feminists calling out men for small stuff like holding a door are over.

 

[Not getting younger]

I’m old school. While I won’t walk around a car to open a door. It’s a thing I do for people ( all sexes, ages, what not).

But if you really want to see the worst of it. Go stand on a train platform, or near a door in union station at rush hour.

 

[angrymime666]

nope. only people I hold doors open for are the elderly and people who have mobility issues.

most people are inconsiderate and dont have the courtesy to say thank you. so fuck them. people can open their own doors.

 

[LTO_3]

Even when I was young, I would always hold a door open when I get to a door sooner than others. Just the way I was taught. I don't have to be thanked but it is nice to hear.

LTO_3

 

[Y_Diner]

It just common courtesy.
Gratitude not needed.
I had a female co-worker that would go out of her way to avoid having the door opened for her and at times would step ahead to open the door for others.
Once when she had her arms and hands full.
We both had to go across the hall at the same time. It was all two seconds, when I gave her a look as to say, want me ti get the door, I didn’t wait for a reply and just opened it anyway.
I knew she’s a hard core feminist, so I said chivalry is dead, you just looked like you needed a hand.
We Never spoke of that ever. That was over 10 years ago.

 

[boomboom]

 

[Y_Diner]

If they don't say "thank you" just say "your welcome" as they walk through the door.

I used to do that when I was much younger for my own humour or amusement. Now I say nothing and rarely look their way if I’m invisible to them.
Waste of time and energy.

 

[Y_Diner]

I will always hold a door open for a woman and I have never been told I am acting like a sexist. Most women say thank you. I will hold a door open for a man. Men always say thank you for that. Be kind to others. The days of angry feminists calling out men for small stuff like holding a door are over.

Yes and no. Still lots of misdirected misandry out there.

 

[dirtyharry555]

I don't want to be accused of disrespecting capable young women by opening doors for them (as if I'm suggesting they're weak etc.) as well as not getting thanked!

Most of those that don't respond with a polite 'thank you' have developed an expectation that men will and must extend public niceties to them simply because they exist. Their ego tells them that they're entitled to such treatment and that you're not even worth acknowledging.

Men are quick to say thanks to strangers being considerate to them.

 

[rhuarc29]

I hold open doors regardless of the gender on the other side. Reactions range from a smile and a thanks to complete silence. Ultimately my character isn't based on the reactions I get.
I don't think I've noticed an age correlation in who is thankful and who simply walk through, and maybe just slightly skewed towards men offering more thanks than women. If I were to hazard a guess, it's likely because men are less accustomed to people lending a hand.

 

[Darts]

I'm going to expand this thread a little by going into a bit about random acts of kindness. I've been the beneficiary of random acts of kindness many time from total strangers.

 

[peteeey]

It's the same with letting someone into traffic. An older white guy will always wave thanks. Other people not so much. Especially if they drive a BMW, Audi or Mercedes.

 

[Dang]

It’s always better to have no expectations in these situations. Do what you will and move on.

Similar to what peteeey says above, in traffic don’t look for that wave or thank you if giving room to let someone merge… as it will only serve to aggravate if you don’t get it.

 

[Darts]

I'm going to expand this thread a little by going into a bit about random acts of kindness. I've been the beneficiary of random acts of kindness many time from total strangers.

On the other hand, I have also performed random acts of kindness for random strangers.

 

[Jenesis]

It’s always better to have no expectations in these situations. Do what you will and move on.

Similar to what peteeey says above, in traffic don’t look for that wave or thank you if giving room to let someone merge… as it will only serve to aggravate if you don’t get it.

This!!!!!

If you are only opening a door to get an acknowledgment then you are not doing it for the right reasons.

Although I think it is kinda funny because I never have an issue with someone not saying thank you or at least acknowledge me with a nod or some other gesture. Make me wonder what is the difference?????

 

[The Oracle]

In a situation where someone has their arms full I will always hold the door open for them regardless of gender.

Other than that I would most of the times depending on my state of rush.

If someone holds the door for me I make it a point to smile and thank them. Usually wish them a nice day as well.

Same in traffic. If someone does me a solid I always give them a nod and a thumbs up.