Swinging and threesomes etc?

[dognutz]

I had a friend couple that were into this. He ended up seeing one of the swingers behind her back and their marriage ended because of it. He got engaged and married and turned out the girl was cheating on him the whole time.

I've never been involved in anything of the sort but was always curious how they end up. Does your lady slurp on another guys junk and you're aroused or jealous?. Do women find themselves very attracted to other women and she never thought she was? Is it usually mff instead of mmf?

Does it work if there is a mixture of attractive and ugly people?

 

[Mister pantstent]

Although I am not in the lifestyle, we did consider it an option and did a bunch of research. People that are into the lifestyle are just like everyone else. There isn't anything special.

You get young and old alike. Well built, average and those carrying an extra few pounds.

Women usually take the lead and no means absolutely no.

The scenarios can be whatever everyone is comfortable with. You just have to know what you want as a couple and what your barriers are. Clear expectations and definitions are needed in order to enjoy this type of play. These barriers will probably evolve over time so if you know you are going to object to certain things, you have to be clear snd upfront with each other.

Swinging is not for the jealous unless jealousy is what turns your crank. It's a wide open world.

 

[hockeyguy19]

My wife and I have threesomes quite often and do it as a way to add a little more fun once in a while (about once a month) to an already amazing sex life that I have nothing to complain about. Everything between us is open and we maintain the utmost honesty, whether being able to tell each other that they don't really care to be with a particular person or if they really want to be with a particular person.

The majority of our threesomes are transactional in that they involve a SW. And we actually prefer it that way to avoid any of the hang ups that can happen like the ones above. I've posted a few reviews of our experiences and most have worked out great. Most of the threesomes are MFF with an occasional MFM or I just watch her with someone else (I am straight, she is very bi-curious). I have absolutely no jealousy watching her be with someone else, even if the guy is some super hung black dude which I observed a few times. I love watching my wife give another guy or women pleasure.

On the rare occasion that we go non-transactional, something often fucks that up. Usually if its a swinging situation or just some guy, they end up trying to contact my wife directly afterwards hoping they can meet up secretly or something and that only turns her off. I don't necessarily blame them for trying as my wife is a definite smoke show, IMO.

What I most enjoy is watching my wife and an SW get super into each other. That is the hottest for me.

 

[Greytop19]

@hockeyguy19 Thanks for all you candid and fact filled reivews. I have read them in other threads. A wonderful lifestyle that few enjoy. Others wish they could indulge

 

[Erosboy]

I've had a couple of relationships where we swung and, weirdly, it was a date with Lisbeth Nova years ago that made me stop.

My GFs and I, I thought, loved swinging and bringing other women into our relationship. We both got off on it and it was great. But then one night I was with Lisbeth and between shots we were chatting and she told me her experiences. So I went home and had a chat with my GF who said it was all an act and a show to make me think she liked it. She was only doing it, she said, to make me happy.

With another GF she ended up leaving me for a guy who we met while swinging. That's not to say anything bad about the lifestyle. We broke up for other reasons and he was just available.

So I guess, for me, it's all about communication. Do it because it strengthens your relationship, not detracts from it, and you should be good.

 

[hockeyguy19]

I've had a couple of relationships where we swung and, weirdly, it was a date with Lisbeth Nova years ago that made me stop.

My GFs and I, I thought, loved swinging and bringing other women into our relationship. We both got off on it and it was great. But then one night I was with Lisbeth and between shots we were chatting and she told me her experiences. So I went home and had a chat with my GF who said it was all an act and a show to make me think she liked it. She was only doing it, she said, to make me happy.

With another GF she ended up leaving me for a guy who we met while swinging. That's not to say anything bad about the lifestyle. We broke up for other reasons and he was just available.

So I guess, for me, it's all about communication. Do it because it strengthens your relationship, not detracts from it, and you should be good.

What's crazy here is that Lisbeth Nova was one of my wife and I's first threesome experience with an SP. It was a bit of a fluke to. We had arranged to meet with Charlotte Sinclair who was visiting from Montreal and a real experienced lady with couples. She came down sick with something the day of and she took it on herself to find us a suitable replacement, being Lisbeth. This was back in 2014 so don't remember much but do remember that she was a real sweetheart and did give us some recommendations going forward with our lifestyle.

You are right when you say its about communication. And like I said earlier, we use it as a way to enhance our great sex life. Others make the mistake of using it to try and fix a bad sex life or put a spark into something that is dwindling.

 

[hockeyguy19]

@hockeyguy19 Thanks for all you candid and fact filled reivews. I have read them in other threads. A wonderful lifestyle that few enjoy, and other wish they could.

Anytime. Definitely lucky for sure. I would write more, but often we run into ladies that either have a NRP or never gave me the ok to write a review when I asked them. I would never write a review if I didn't get her ok to do so.

 

[Greytop19]

Anytime. Definitely lucky for sure. I would write more, but often we run into ladies that either have a NRP or never gave me the ok to write a review when I asked them. I would never write a review if I didn't get her ok to do so.

Fewer reviews and top quality reporting is the way to go. Thanks again.

 

[Goodoer]

Swinging and threesomes seem like they'll pass me by. It would be great to see my wife be super-sexual, but she's just never going to be that person.

Age will catch up to us we'll just be sitting around.

 

[Greytop19]

Swinging and threesomes seem like they'll pass me by. It would be great to see my wife be super-sexual, but she's just never going to be that person.

Age will catch up to us we'll just be sitting around.

I do hope you indulge in this hobby like the rest of us sex starved horny men
I pretend to be bored and not interesed at home. lol

 

[FunCpl]

My wife and I have threesomes quite often and do it as a way to add a little more fun once in a while (about once a month) to an already amazing sex life that I have nothing to complain about. Everything between us is open and we maintain the utmost honesty, whether being able to tell each other that they don't really care to be with a particular person or if they really want to be with a particular person.

The majority of our threesomes are transactional in that they involve a SW. And we actually prefer it that way to avoid any of the hang ups that can happen like the ones above. I've posted a few reviews of our experiences and most have worked out great. Most of the threesomes are MFF with an occasional MFM or I just watch her with someone else (I am straight, she is very bi-curious). I have absolutely no jealousy watching her be with someone else, even if the guy is some super hung black dude which I observed a few times. I love watching my wife give another guy or women pleasure.

On the rare occasion that we go non-transactional, something often fucks that up. Usually if its a swinging situation or just some guy, they end up trying to contact my wife directly afterwards hoping they can meet up secretly or something and that only turns her off. I don't necessarily blame them for trying as my wife is a definite smoke show, IMO.

What I most enjoy is watching my wife and an SW get super into each other. That is the hottest for me.

Do you have any SP's you could recommend or do you only use civilians?

 

[hockeyguy19]

Do you have any SP's you could recommend or do you only use civilians?

Rarely use civilians for the reasons stated earlier but have done so on occasion.

My wife and I tend to go the SP route. Over the last little while, some of the best experiences have been with Erica Bowes, Nadia Zanaughti, Azzura Leone, Florence Yi, Veronica Sway. These are in no particular order and the ones that stick out in my mind at the moment.

If you have had some good experiences with SP's as a couple, please share as well. Always looking for a great experience.

 

[Grist]

The closest I get to “swinging” is yanking myself with two hands

 

[Ponderling]

My wife and I don't swing.

But wife acts in community theatre plays.

She has had several on stage husbands, some times a guy in more than one play.

Spends about 6-8 weeks rehearsing 3 times a week rehearsing each play, plus often added time just to get their chemistry down.
So far it had kept her happy, and she comes home to me.

 

[SexB]

I dated a civvie woman who said she would have been open to having a threesome. It didn't end up happening after a disastrous first date.

And I'm sort of glad it didn't. I had been thinking of approaching a friend who's bi about being a third and shortly after that, she posted an article about what it's like to be a bisexual woman and one of the top points was, "This doesn't automatically mean I'll be down to have a threesome with you and your girlfriend!"

I also had a woman who said she had given a "hall pass" by her husband respond to a Craigslist casual encounters ad I posted. Yeah, semi-regular casual sex was a big draw but I think I would be lying if I said I also didn't like that I would have been fucking a married woman and her husband would have been completely on board with it. I made it clear that I didn't want him to be there as that's a little out of my comfort zone.

Just to add to this, I've been invited to a couple orgies by providers and I've respectfully declined. I'm a lot more open-minded since I started seeing escorts but that's just something that's a little out of my comfort zone.

 

[Oistins]

My wife and I have threesomes quite often and do it as a way to add a little more fun once in a while (about once a month) to an already amazing sex life that I have nothing to complain about. Everything between us is open and we maintain the utmost honesty, whether being able to tell each other that they don't really care to be with a particular person or if they really want to be with a particular person.

The majority of our threesomes are transactional in that they involve a SW. And we actually prefer it that way to avoid any of the hang ups that can happen like the ones above. I've posted a few reviews of our experiences and most have worked out great. Most of the threesomes are MFF with an occasional MFM or I just watch her with someone else (I am straight, she is very bi-curious). I have absolutely no jealousy watching her be with someone else, even if the guy is some super hung black dude which I observed a few times. I love watching my wife give another guy or women pleasure.

On the rare occasion that we go non-transactional, something often fucks that up. Usually if its a swinging situation or just some guy, they end up trying to contact my wife directly afterwards hoping they can meet up secretly or something and that only turns her off. I don't necessarily blame them for trying as my wife is a definite smoke show, IMO.

What I most enjoy is watching my wife and an SW get super into each other. That is the hottest for me.

Yes. I’ve read some of your reviews. I do not have an SO, but I know that I do like multiple partners sometimes. Never an orgy (yet), but I’ve done a few duos and a trio recently, but unexpectedly I was invited (by an SP) to a MFM, shortly thereafter, and could not go, even if I wanted to. After reading your post above, the curiosity has come rushing back. How does it work? Do you do DP, spit roast, what about double vag? Has one of those body builders ever tried to kiss you, or more?

 

[jalimon]

In a 13 year span I went from a vanilla guy that was not having sex... Raising my 2 kids until i my early 40's I had enough.

A separation followed, but on really good term, where I then plunged in the escort world. But I got bored quickly.

I then met a few guys in the Montreal area to threw some party. And I got on fetlife.com for some more fun.

It took a year or 2 but what followed was absolutely crazy swinger party, orgies, gangbangs, 3 some to 8 some name it. 5-6 years of craziness.

I should write a book one day about it. But what I could say is that when you want sex, when you are clean, follow the rule, funny and polite... You will get a lot of it.

I stopped about a year ago because it was totally getting unsafe. But fuck did I had fun!

So yeah double dp, spit roast, double vag were just normality. It's totally possible. Yet you need to be very patient.

 

[Oistins]

In a 13 year span I went from a vanilla guy that was not having sex... Raising my 2 kids until i my early 40's I had enough.

A separation followed, but on really good term, where I then plunged in the escort world. But I got bored quickly.

I then met a few guys in the Montreal area to threw some party. And I got on fetlife.com for some more fun.

It took a year or 2 but what followed was absolutely crazy swinger party, orgies, gangbangs, 3 some to 8 some name it. 5-6 years of craziness.

I should write a book one day about it. But what I could say is that when you want sex, when you are clean, follow the rule, funny and polite... You will get a lot of it.

I stopped about a year ago because it was totally getting unsafe. But fuck did I had fun!

So yeah double dp, spit roast, double vag were just normality. It's totally possible. Yet you need to be very patient.

Are you bisexual? Do you take PReP?

 

[jalimon]

Are you bisexual? Do you take PReP?

No in all the events i did a lot of times there was bisexuality but 95% it was girl on girl.

had 2 times where men touch my dick... but just to oriente it in a mouth or pussy. I did saw that it pleased them to do so but i made it obvious that alli wanted was the girl which was fine.

All the best event i did were when a guy brought his wife or girlfriend. Quite a few times they just lost it. Fuck i could write a book about it!

I will cherish those moments out to my graves

 

[hockeyguy19]

Yes. I’ve read some of your reviews. I do not have an SO, but I know that I do like multiple partners sometimes. Never an orgy (yet), but I’ve done a few duos and a trio recently, but unexpectedly I was invited (by an SP) to a MFM, shortly thereafter, and could not go, even if I wanted to. After reading your post above, the curiosity has come rushing back. How does it work? Do you do DP, spit roast, what about double vag? Has one of those body builders ever tried to kiss you, or more?

Most of the time, when another guy is involved, I like to just watch my wife and him. IMO, my wife is a smoke show and watching another guy getting off fucking her is like my own private live porn movie. There has never been any intentional M-M interaction when it was all three. Never tried DP as my wife is not into anal or double vag. Mostly spit roast if I was involved so I would still have a good view of things.

No guy has ever tried to kiss me or anything like that. We like to make sure that the guys are straight as I am too. The hard part is finding guys that are ok with me being there when they fuck my wife. But, given how good my wife takes care of herself, guys will end up accepting the trade off. Funny how black guys are far less restrictive with that than white. They love putting on a show.