When you feel that you have fucked enough good minutes and want to cum, but can't. Well, not without more humping and effort. Is this a bad feeling for you as you expend more energy and time to get there, perhaps making you very tired, which takes away from the joy? But is it at least better than premature ejaculation? But maybe you worry that one day, you will reach the level of ineptitude that you can't even cum at all (despite not having ED)? So in that case premature ejaculation would be better because at least you know that you will always cum? Or perhaps you look at it on the bright side, that you get more fucking time? Your thoughts and feelings about this?
Delayed ejaculation. How do you feel about it?
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When I've had that delay, it has sometimes produced the most mind-blowing orgasm. However, if I can't nut, I worry that my partner might not think I'm into her or something like that...or makes you feel like something is wrong....
As for blowing your load too quickly....I'm not sure what's better. I guess lasting longer, but that can also be painful or uncomfortable for the partner, especially if they start to get a little dry from constant pounding....
As for blowing your load too quickly....I'm not sure what's better. I guess lasting longer, but that can also be painful or uncomfortable for the partner, especially if they start to get a little dry from constant pounding....
I've had this issue for years and it does get fucked up sometimes. I had a circumcision later in life that, unfortunately, took some of my sensitivity away. When I brought this up to my urologist, he jokingly thought I was bragging about lasting too long. He sent me for a testerone test which could be a factor in delayed ejaculation but mine was actually on the higher end so it wasn't that. Aside from the circumcision, it just happens with age. I also found that I can ejaculate quicker in the morning and afternoon than I could at night which can be due to testerone levels dropping throughout the day and then replenishing while you sleep, hence the morning wood I always wake up with.
Many times, and later in the day, if things are taking too long, it starts to play with your head and then anxiety builds up and things like ED begin to creep in and you lose erections. But I think with me, that's all a mind game being played against me.
Many times, and later in the day, if things are taking too long, it starts to play with your head and then anxiety builds up and things like ED begin to creep in and you lose erections. But I think with me, that's all a mind game being played against me.
"When I brought this up to my urologist, he jokingly thought I was bragging about lasting too long. "
Definitely sounds like "humble bragging" "I can't find a condom that fits. They all feel too tight"
This can be a side effect of some meds, particularly some antidepressants (Eg SSRIs). I’ve experienced this and it’s no fun pounding away to no avail till she’s too sore to continue. Pressure to cum is basically the only thing that can make me go soft too, so it becomes a more vicious cycle. I’ve never had premature ejaculation, so can’t comment on what is worse, but at least you know you are going to get to cum.
when I’ve had this problem one thing that has sometimes helped is to back off a bit and more or less start over. Go back to kissing, petting, daty etc, then eventually build up to fucking again. Sometimes it helps to “reboot” the system. If you can cum after this the orgasm is often mind blowing.
when I’ve had this problem one thing that has sometimes helped is to back off a bit and more or less start over. Go back to kissing, petting, daty etc, then eventually build up to fucking again. Sometimes it helps to “reboot” the system. If you can cum after this the orgasm is often mind blowing.
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Abstain for several days. No masturbation. Seems to help.
Long story short, If you are young stop jerking off and watching porn for a month. If you are old, it may be father time.
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As someone who experience both, Premature Ejaculation is way way way way way worse than Delayed Ejaculation, at least for me. As a giver, i like to please my partner much more than to be pleased myself, but with < 10 seconds of stamina, it was absolutely impossible. Yes, oral sex exists, but over time frustration builds up. i have not figured out the solution yet, but yeah, I would pay a lot of money to switch PE to DE.
When I was younger I could barely last 30 seconds inside a woman, then I went on antidepressants which was great because I could last forever, now I'm older and not in great shape lasting too long is like running a marathon, the mp I've been seeing for years gets a little frustrated with me because she says I'm too much work sometimes.
DE is where I am at, and have gotten to the point at this age to think how lucky I am, it did take some time to get there mentally.
Once my SO, got the sense that she still gets my engine going and it was not anything to do with her, we both enjoyed it more, with the usual timely jokes, and sometimes she take it as a challenge, lucky for moi.
Reason, after a long go, just need maybe some down time about an hour and ready again to enjoy.
At my age of 70, I think of it as one of the benefits of aging and consider myself lucky for it.
Once my SO, got the sense that she still gets my engine going and it was not anything to do with her, we both enjoyed it more, with the usual timely jokes, and sometimes she take it as a challenge, lucky for moi.
Reason, after a long go, just need maybe some down time about an hour and ready again to enjoy.
At my age of 70, I think of it as one of the benefits of aging and consider myself lucky for it.
Edging?
I had clients that were very quick. Sometimes I was barely touching them and we practiced edging / working on pelvic muscle exercise. It took a while but at the end they were lasting as long as I wanted them to last.
They are now released in the wild again and I think they are happier....but I understand it might not work for everyone.
About DE I have no solution other than reduce masturbation or change medication. Too much stimulation, too much porn can't help. You are training yourself being more comfortable with your keyboards than a real person. Allow yourself to feel something.
True! The MPs go on about "I like older men" and when their arms and wrists are tired I love to quip, "Like older men now"?
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I find more foreplay helps a lot. It fires me up.
Phew I’m glad I read the OP. Because I had visions of a failure to launch thing happening. Shower, put clothes back on, leave.
On the way back to vehicle an explosive eruption happens and i’m stuck driving with a c soaked underwear.
Imagine getting into a collision. They take you to the hospital nurse and doctors have to cut away your pants. They get a whiff of your nasty smelling c soaked underwear. .
On the way back to vehicle an explosive eruption happens and i’m stuck driving with a c soaked underwear.
Imagine getting into a collision. They take you to the hospital nurse and doctors have to cut away your pants. They get a whiff of your nasty smelling c soaked underwear.
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I'm tending to over think it. Lately I've been trying to be 'mindful' and just focus on what the penis is feeling. That helps for me.
Sometimes I have issues with PE at times when I don't masterbate for a couple weeks and then go see an sp. I finish way too fast for my own liking in these situations. I have experienced DE as well and I would much rather have DE then PE especially as I get older and becoming more of a one shot type of guy. I really enjoy foreplay and am more of a pleaser so that helps whenever I experience DE since I can change things up and enjoy myself with a women. For me masterbation is the biggest reason if I experience PE or DE. If I'm not masterbating enough then I could experience PE when I'm with a women and if I'm masterbating too much then I could experience DE. It's all about balance lol.
I have problem with ejaculation too. Regardless of how much a provider sucks or fucks I cannot cum without touching myself. So after a while I take pity on the provider and finish myself
