Meeting women is still a Catch-22 for me

[surferboy]

Was just falling asleep & it hit me! Tashki we’re sending you to bar tending school. There is know better way to learn to converse with women. Don’t matter if you start out at a hotel bar a few nights after work or try to get a gig at one of the better establishments like Jacks or the like on weekends.

The interaction with all different ages, ugly ones, smoking hot ones, ones that play for the other team etc. will turn your women convo skills right around. No joke you really should give it a shot if you can fit it into your schedule. I bet after a few months will never see you on here you’ll be too busy juggling the women you met at work

 

[Goodoer]

I really do miss approaching women... Eye contact, witty banter, jokes, a smile and hair brush back... Pure intoxication for me. Thrilling.

 

[Pleasure Hound]

Have problems getting women? Just follow this advice.....

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I really do miss approaching women... Eye contact, witty banter, jokes, a smile and hair brush back... Pure intoxication for me. Thrilling.

So what's stopping you now?

 

[Goodoer]

So what's stopping you now?

I feel guilty. I feel less guilty secretly seeing escorts.

 

[explorerzip]

Some dudes just come across creepy. Just the way they are, I knew a guy like that. I wouldn't even know where to begin to fix that. It wasn't one thing, not like he was being pervy* just everything was stiff and awkward and toss in a boat load of weirdness. Everything.

*of course pervy works if you are attractive enough, anything works if you are attractive enough, I've seen that also. The 2 rules to avoid sexual harassment. 1: Be hot, 2: Don't be not hot as the SNL parody says.

Great techniques or tricks seldom work because it's all in the delivery. They have to align with a guy's personality and demeanour. If he doesn't normally say or behave in the same way as the technique or the trick, then he's doomed to fail. Fake it till you make it never works, which is why the delivery seems awkward or creepy.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Some guys have just got it. I knew a guy back in the day. Worked a government office job. Greasy hair. Cheap suit. Ragged mustache. Creepy looking in a friendly hick sort of way. He was beating them off with a stick. When I first met him he was quietly bragging about his conquests and I politely nodded, thinking "bullshit" until I saw him in action. He was touched by god. Met him in a bar after work. He was sitting up at the bar on a stool and he had 5 beautiful young waitresses swarming him. Customers couldn't get a drink because they couldn't tear themselves away from his magnetism.
Guy on the next bar stool tried to move in. The waitresses all scattered like startled butterflies. My friend turned to the guy and said, thanks a lot cunt. The guy apologized. He had polaroid's of every married woman he fucked, (for protection in case they became "difficult") His motto was " A stiff dick has no conscience" He got laid lots. Whenever he wanted. I don't have that chromosome.

 

[Pleasure Hound]

So what's stopping you now?

Restraining orders....

 

[Pleasure Hound]

James Bond never got the girl by saying: "Hi there. Wanna fuck?"

 

[pickeringrob]

Cold approaches work who cares about the odds. It’s about approaching a woman you’re interested in as you most likely won’t run into her again.

 

[NotADcotor]

Cold approaches work who cares about the odds. It’s about approaching a woman you’re interested in as you most likely won’t run into her again.

If you are attractive it's worth it because the odds are pretty decent and even if she isn't interested for whatever reason, she will be flattered and feel validated. If you are a soggoth the odds drop so low that it just isn't worth it, approaching 30 women a day for a year and getting nowhere would be a soul crushing experience [I've read blogs, not quite those numbers but pretty high and the guy became a total wackjob]. Also if you are a fugly chud you are going to get more bad responses and very bad ones also. I know a guy, word would get back to us where his attempts were freaking people out. Him and another guy made moves on a girl at a bus stop and both of them stopped taking that bus. But hey fuck them right, they are women not actual people, as long as you don't run into them again it isn't awkward for you because they don't matter. Charming. How would you like it is day after day gays were hitting you up, and not just the attractive ones, or how do you feel about homeless people badgering you for money. I know the latter irrates me But hey, as long as you get your dick wet, that's all that matters right?

Street harassment - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

Worldwide, statistics show that 80% of women endure at least frequent street harassment, 45% feel that they cannot go alone to public spaces, 50% have to cross the street to find alternate routes to their destinations, 26% claim that they are in a relationship in order to avoid harassment, 80% feel the need to be constantly alert when traversing local streets and 9% have had to switch careers to escape the area in which harassment occurred

But again I am sure you don't consider them as people, after all not like you will run into them again, out of sight, out of mind.

 

[NotADcotor]

Restraining orders....

Reminds me of the joke. Stalking is when two people go on a romantic walk, but only one person knows.

 

[Kurt]

For perspective on this thread.
out in Whitby last night visiting a few pubs with a friend and we had lots of women talk to us and a couple wanted to continue the party at their place.
(Before anyone asks we hit the Gyphon Pub and the Lion and the Unicorn and we didn't go back to their place)
I feel I am your average looking guy in his 50's
Dad bod bald - I was also unshaven and wearing a hoodie last night for context.
The women were also avg looking not 9 and 10 but either am I.
I feel there are lots of women out there but the guys expectation are too high.
Just need to relax and meet someone who is awesome.

 

[xix]

For perspective on this thread.
out in Whitby last night visiting a few pubs with a friend and we had lots of women talk to us and a couple wanted to continue the party at their place.
(Before anyone asks we hit the Gyphon Pub and the Lion and the Unicorn and we didn't go back to their place)
I feel I am your average looking guy in his 50's
Dad bod bald - I was also unshaven and wearing a hoodie last night for context.
The women were also avg looking not 9 and 10 but either am I.
I feel there are lots of women out there but the guys expectation are too high.
Just need to relax and meet someone who is awesome.

I heard small town like that during hunting season or what ever they call it women become very approachable.

A lot of women are asking guys out now a days. You guys might have been better than the rest of the men.

 

[jsanchez]

For perspective on this thread.
out in Whitby last night visiting a few pubs with a friend and we had lots of women talk to us and a couple wanted to continue the party at their place.
(Before anyone asks we hit the Gyphon Pub and the Lion and the Unicorn and we didn't go back to their place)
I feel I am your average looking guy in his 50's
Dad bod bald - I was also unshaven and wearing a hoodie last night for context.
The women were also avg looking not 9 and 10 but either am I.
I feel there are lots of women out there but the guys expectation are too high.
Just need to relax and meet someone who is awesome.

Nailed it, dating in your league basically.

 

[barnacler]

Approaching women at the gym:

First of all, don't approach them! They are super on alert there. Don't deliberately go workout near them, be like Gretzky, anticipate where they might be NEXT. And don't ever get caught staring at them. Every woman I have been realistically attracted to at the gym, I find eventually there is a chance to connect if only briefly.

Second, get LOST in your workout, workout like a fiend, and I don't mean with 5 pound dumbbells either. Do something MANLY, like you don't give a shot - and don't give a shit! Try to find something quite unusual to do as an exercise, you will be noticed because of it and the confidence you exude as you do your own thing.

Third, pay attention to her earwear, if she has earplugs/headphone, you just can't barge in.

If / when you do say something, say EXACTLY what you might say to a guy - "Hey, are you waiting for this machine? I'll just be a minute."

Turn her into your workout friend. That's your base starting point.

 

[New World]

All right…I understand what you guys are saying about cold approaching not being advisable with valid reasons. I will tell you why I do it.

Most of you know I love when women get work done on their body and get their nails done long. Those women are my type. A woman like this isn’t going magically fall on my lap which is why I cold approach those women. I watched the Darius video and he’s summarily saying to approach women who show choosing signals and interest first. I read your suggestions on finding a group activity to join and meet women that way also. I do agree that my success rate would be higher this way for any woman.

My questions for you guys are: What do you think are the chances of a women who get work done on their body with a BBL , fake tits and nails done long showing effort and interest to me first and/or meeting these women through a group activity? Wouldn’t you agree that I would have a better chance of cold approaching the type that I’m looking for?

I completely agree.

Cold approach and social circle are the only option in my world.

 

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